[Oe List ...] Do Good Intentions Make Up for Collateral Damage?

Sun Jun 29 14:51:16 PDT 2025

This is an interesting intellectual,  hypothetical, philosophical
discussion.

If you want to hear from someone who was sent at age 11 to a religious
house with a pedophile as a First Prior, DM me.

Shelley Hahn

On Sun, Jun 29, 2025, 2:28 PM Cheryl Hood via OE <oe at lists.wedgeblade.net>
wrote:

> What we should remember is that ALL forms of child-rearing are
> experimental. The real purpose of procreation is to produce the speciman
> who will survive and (hopefully) help the planet survive in the process.
>
> Do we think that the individualized personal preening and pruning that is
> currently in vogue will produce a better generation?
>
> I'm not rationalizing or excusing the results or the Order's Family
> experiment; just pointing out that, as an experiment, it was no further off
> the mark than many other popular theories today.
>
> And, that, yes, as Bill and Randy point out: Everything produces
> collateral damage.
>
> Cheryl Hood
>
> On Sat, Jun 28, 2025 at 2:27 PM Bill Schlesinger via OE <
> oe at lists.wedgeblade.net> wrote:
>
>> HRN described the social pioneering function of ‘church’ as the
>> ‘sensitive and responsive part of every institution’ that repented when it
>> became aware of innocent suffering, changed its own use, and leads society
>> in the act of repentance.  That was the ‘radical demonstration of faith.’
>>
>>
>>
>> Discovering innocent suffering in our systems is a constant process.  I
>> remember when one of us went into the data system we had at the time to
>> replace all the male gender language in our songs.  We’ve discovered and
>> turned our back on homophobia (JWM had a hard time with that one), and the
>> treatment of children (ours and others) is no different.  It is a constant
>> process.
>>
>>
>>
>> I have found ‘My Grandmother’s Hands’ (Thriftbooks if you don’t want
>> Amazon) helpful on concrete ways of understanding and repenting of white
>> supremacy privilege.
>>
>>
>>
>> Metanoia – the Greek word we translate as ‘repentance’ – literally
>> translates as ‘new mind.’  It isn’t being guilty or sorry.  It’s doing the
>> change that HRN discusses.  It’s helpful to revisit damage done, but the
>> ‘test’ is how it translates to change in valuing our children and
>> developing and supporting ways to care for them that – inevitably – will be
>> part of future discoveries of innocent suffering.
>>
>>
>>
>> Carol and I talk with Don Bushman – a point of difference is my embracing
>> of a really conservative theological concept – ‘TULIP.”  T – Total
>> Depravity.  Everybody’s screwed up.  Deal with it.  U – Unconditional
>> Election. No matter how screwed up we are, we’re still called to be
>> responsible.  L- Limited Atonement.  Some people ‘get it.’  Some don’t.
>> And you can’t tell the difference.  I – irresistible Grace.  We are all
>> beloved.  P – Perseverance of the Saints.  Once you wake up, you can’t go
>> back to sleep.  You can do a lot of damage to yourself and others, but you
>> can’t go back to sleep.
>>
>>
>>
>> FWIW.
>>
>>
>>
>> Bill
>>
>>
>>
>>
>>
>> *From:* Randy Williams <randycw1938 at gmail.com>
>> *Sent:* Saturday, June 28, 2025 2:36 PM
>> *To:* Order Ecumenical Community <oe at lists.wedgeblade.net>
>> *Cc:* Order Ecumenical Community <oe at lists.wedgeblade.net>; William
>> Schlesinger <w.schlesinger at pvida.net>
>> *Subject:* Re: [Oe List ...] Do Good Intentions Make Up for Collateral
>> Damage?
>>
>>
>>
>> Bill, that’s a good question, and my answer is, probably not. So maybe
>> the difference is whether the “thing” — organization, movement, community
>> or whatever — acknowledges the collateral damage it causes, tries to stop
>> it or at least minimize it, and then how it talks about, i.e., the story it
>> tells about it, to itself and to others. And finally, how the story stacks
>> up against the truth. If it doesn’t, then my guess is, the “thing” has some
>> issues. Two examples I would use are the loss of credibility the Catholic
>> Church has experienced over its denial of the sexual abuse, and the fact
>> that the MAGA movement, if that’s what it is, is largely based on a lie and
>> therefore has never had any credibility to lose outside its own adherents.
>> What all this says about or has to do with the O:E, EI, ICA is something to
>> ponder.
>>
>> Randy Williams
>>
>>
>>
>> On Jun 28, 2025, at 3:50 PM, William Schlesinger via OE <
>> oe at lists.wedgeblade.net> wrote:
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>> 
>>
>> Is there anything that doesn't do collateral damage?
>>
>>
>>
>> Bill Schlesinger
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>> On Sat, Jun 28, 2025, 1:42 PM David Marshall via OE <
>> oe at lists.wedgeblade.net> wrote:
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>> Former Order: Ecumenical & Ecumencal Institute Colleagues,
>>
>>
>>
>> Early IRON BOY readers (paperback & ebook published on Amazon on 6/15/25)
>> have asked me about this. In response, I just published my CULTS article on
>> Substack. I imagine this will rub some folks on both sides of the aisle the
>> wrong way, but it's my truth. It's too long (five pages) to publish here or
>> on Facebook, so if you read it and have comments, you can either do so on
>> Substack or on this more private thread. Thank you.
>>
>> <Instagram-Cults-Image_6-28-25.jpg>
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>> https://open.substack.com/pub/marshallbooks/p/can-cults-still-do-good-work?r=23ftwm&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web&showWelcomeOnShare=false
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