[Dialogue] Please reconsider

Sun Nov 6 19:29:41 PST 2016

Dear Susan and Jo,

I was very sorry to read your last emails about leaving the list serve as well as the recent dialogue conversation regarding the election.  I hope you will both reconsider your decisions to leave the list serve.  We need the wisdom of both of you.

During the last sixty years of ICA/OE/EI and now the list serves, there have been many passionate disagreements and arguments over many issues, decisions, personality conflicts, directions, etc.  Although it may have seemed like group think all the time, I don't believe this movement has been based on everyone thinking alike or having the same gifts.  We are a passionate and yes, often, very opinionated group, but I believe, ultimately. people who care deeply and broadly.  We never claimed to be perfect, and this election season has tested us, not only on the list serve, but with family and friends and often found us wanting.  We are all still learning how to disagree passionately without being destructive--an ongoing process.

It is my hope that both of you will reconsider in due time.  For any part I have played in the dialogue conversation that was destructive, either by speaking or remaining silent, I sincerely apologize and hope to do better in the future.

Grace and peace~
Ellie Stock
elliestock at aol.com

-----Original Message-----
From: Jo Nelson via OE <oe at lists.wedgeblade.net>
To: Susan Fertig <sfertig at blueskytech.us>
Cc: Order Ecumenical Community <oe at lists.wedgeblade.net>
Sent: Sun, Nov 6, 2016 7:55 pm
Subject: Re: [Oe List ...] [Dialogue]  more news for Susan

I already did, for much the same reason.  Not behaving like my community.  

Take care,
Jo

On Nov 6, 2016, at 8:47 PM, Susan Fertig <sfertig at blueskytech.us> wrote:

Jo, no need to leave the list. I will leave instead. I no longer feel this is my community as I once did, so it is more appropriate for me to be the one to leave.

Susan

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From: OE [mailto:oe-bounces at lists.wedgeblade.net] On Behalf Of Jo Nelson via OE
Sent: Sunday, November 06, 2016 8:43 PM
To: Order Ecumenical Community <oe at lists.wedgeblade.net>
Subject: Re: [Oe List ...] [Dialogue] more news for Susan

The disrespectful comments from both sides of the political spectrum about people with different views has compelled me to leave this list.  

I will not participate in negative energy and disrespect.

Jo Nelson

On Nov 6, 2016, at 7:57 PM, Susan Fertig via Dialogue <dialogue at lists.wedgeblade.net> wrote:

Every time I read one of these condescending “poor misguided Susan” missives, I have to chuckle at the hypocrisy. All of you are guilty of everything of which you each have accused me. The only difference is that I’m not tied to ANY candidate, and you all have drunk the Hillary koolaid.

Susan

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From: OE [mailto:oe-bounces at lists.wedgeblade.net] On Behalf Of W. J. via OE
Sent: Sunday, November 06, 2016 6:20 PM
To: Order Ecumenical Community <oe at lists.wedgeblade.net>; Colleague Dialogue <dialogue at lists.wedgeblade.net>
Subject: [Oe List ...] more news for Susan

I've 'enjoyed' Susan's anti-Hillary diatribes, especially her cartoon. Not that I agree with her biases--I actually voted for Hillary (without holding my nose too hard).

But I'm stunned that so many of my colleagues took the bait she threw at us--and jumped all over her.

Her cartoon, for example, articulates the entrenched "meme" or biased and emotionally charged view of a large segment of voters who have voted or will vote without reference to FBI Director Comey's last-second letter of "reprieve" for Hillary.

I predict that this letter won't change Susan's biases at all. She's totally stuck in "their" popular anti-Hillary meme, and nothing you or I or Mr. Comey can say will change her mind.

So what does this mean for all of us? Can we even relate to people--relatives, "friends", workmates, or (goddess help us) even old "colleagues"--who have bought the same political malarkey Susan has swallowed whole?

How can we make any sense of how Susan can be so misguided, given the depth of our common understanding of the way life is?

Or, for that matter, how can we embrace people with whom we have developed personal trust and mutual esteem, once we learn they're "living on a different political planet"?

Surely this is the moment for the 'transestablishment' dynamic. We need to speak to the hidden suffering 

of those who are angry and fearful and feel disempowered by their loss of economic, political, and cultural status as once-prosperous members of the middle class. And also to the segment of the electorate who feels Hillary is WAY too Establishment, is in bed with Wall Street and Corporate America, and has used the political system to disenfranchise them and dismiss their candidate.

Finally, it has become obvious that the political process may come to an electoral outcome, but that does not allow for healing or reconciliation between warring political parties, who will feel obliged to take the political battle to the next level--the halls of Congress.

Acknowledging and honoring the humanness of those we see as "our" political "enemies"--and eliciting their inclusive wisdom and insights into profound humanness--can be challenging as long as we take their bait and reflect their hate. We need to get WAY beyond this political impasse.

Marshall

BTW, American political cartoons in the 19th century were historically WAY nastier than anything Susan has sent us. But their distorted perspectives made political points and served an important function: they dramatized the way "ordinary" people perceived political shenanigans.

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