From: Jonathan Barker [mailto:jkjmbarker@bigpond.com] Sent: Saturday, 23 May 2015 7:58 PM To: 'Jack Gilles'; 'Patricia Tuecke' Cc: 'Marie Paul' Subject: RE: [Oe List ...] Death of Vivan Paul We have very fond and abiding memories of Vivian. We remember him as an imaginative pedagogue, dependable colleague, a refuter of nonsense and jovial story teller. He was inspired by the larger vision, but willingly paid attention to the often overlooked practicalities. He was tolerant of struggling colleagues, but was nobody's fool and at times could be enraged at perceived injustices. Despite the rhetoric of the time, he was a dear and loyal friend and we are privileged to have known him. We also knew Indian better because of him. As we recall, it was John and Robyn Hutchinson, Priors of the Hyderabad House (we called them Urban Ashrams at the time) who particularly encouraged Vivian and two other notable teachers at a prestigious Catholic school and their families to take the bold step of participating in the programs of EI/ICA. And it was the ITI in Bombay in 1973 (Bob Fishel was the Dean) which so excited Vivian to become more fully involved in the Movement/Order. Yes, his military training may have deeply shaped him outwardly - but his inner shelf was marked by forbearance and gentleness. We were delighted to meet Vivian again in 1995 at the Kemper Building when he took us to his favourite Indian restaurant and reminded us that he had lost none of his wit and sharpness of mind. Farewell Vivian! Jonathan and Janeen Barker From: OE [mailto:oe-bounces@lists.wedgeblade.net] On Behalf Of Jack Gilles via OE Sent: Friday, 22 May 2015 2:57 PM To: Patricia Tuecke Cc: Tracy Longacre via OE; Marie Paul Subject: Re: [Oe List ...] Death of Vivan Paul I will miss Vivian very much. He was a soldier, through and through. He told stories of fighting the Chinese in the Himalayas. One of his disciplines was to take a cold bath every day at the Delhi House, no matter how cold it was. This came from that battle experience. He represented the best of our colleagues who came from the early days of the Movement in India. I presume he was a product of the work Raymond Spencer did in those early years. Journey on dear friend, journey on. Jack On May 21, 2015, at 11:47 PM, Patricia Tuecke via OE <oe@lists.wedgeblade.net <mailto:oe@lists.wedgeblade.net> > wrote: Dharma, I didn't know Vivian as well as Marie. She was one of the 4 or 5 women assigned to each accompany me for one week of a six week Global Women's Forum in the villages in Maharashtra. Actually she worked with me in one of the city forums, not sure which one. For all of the women I think it was the first time they had travelled outside their village or home without their husband or a male relative. It was unusual to do so at the time. I remember Vivian was somewhat naturally concerned for Marie but we had a great week together and no unpleasantness happened. Please let Marie know we hold her in our thoughts and prayers as she celebrates Vivian's completed life and begins her life without him at her side. Pat Tuecke On Thursday, May 21, 2015, Dharmalingam via OE <oe@lists.wedgeblade.net <mailto:oe@lists.wedgeblade.net> > wrote: Dear colleagues, Vivian Paul, who worked with us in Maliwada, the Delhi House and at Kemper, which were among his various assignments, died at 9.17 pm on Wednesday, the 20th of May. I just received the news from Marie Paul in San Antonio, Texas, where he has been living since moving out of Chicago years ago. He was being looked after by Marie and his children after being diagnosed with pancreatic cancer four months ago. He died during surgery. Dharma _______________________________________________ OE mailing list OE@lists.wedgeblade.net <mailto:OE@lists.wedgeblade.net> http://lists.wedgeblade.net/listinfo.cgi/oe-wedgeblade.net

Turning 70 is hitting me pretty hard, so, I thought to write a song about it.  For whatever reason, I chose an old barbershop song, Goodbye My Coney Island Baby (probably not the best choice, reveals to much of ancient prejudices still in me .. )  Anyway I tried, over the last few days to rewrite the words, trying to capture the decade shift.  Perhaps some of you might have improvements, additions . . . Seems I remember this tune from the year that the Crocker's and the Wiegel's travelled doing Human Development Consults.  I recall us singing this tune to keep our sanity and team intact.  What I would REALLY LIKE (once the words are better) is some way to create an online chorus to sing it together.  A recorded Google hang out? . . .   Anyway, here is what I have as of now.  Suggestions welcome Good Bye (tune:  Goodbye My Coney Island Baby) Chorus: Goodbye the ventures ofmy sixties,    Farewell the things I'veloved I'm gonna go on withthis journey  Just so I can see whathappens.  I'm gonna sail uponthese waves of life.  Never to regret a bit. So goodbye, farewell, solong for ever.  Goodbye my sixties days Hello big seven O Who knows what thefuture holds?   Verse: We all fall for some hope that lifeis neat. Temptations to retreat.  Past days can seem so sweet Then we're caught in life as it'sgoing on.  We may falter. Or we may just stumble onward. As we get older, oh boy, our life isgood. All our days we then recall.  Rich times, poor times, struggletimes, peace.  Work times, play times, fam'lytimes, sleep   We all are bound for . . .  GOOD BYE MY CONEY ISLANDBABY Chorus: Good -bye My Con -ey Is-land Ba -by, Fare -well my own truelove. I'm gon -na go a -wayand leave you. Nev -er to see you an -y-more. I'm goin' to sail up -ona fer -ry boat, Nev -er to re -turn a-gain. So good -bye, fare-well, so long for ev -er, Good -bye My Con -eyIsle, Good -bye My Con -eyIsle, Good -bye My Con -ey Is-land Babe. _______ Verse: We all fall for somegirl who dress -es neat, Some girl that's got bigfeet, We meet her on thestreet; Then we'll join the ar-my of mar -ried boobs, To the al -tar, Justlike lea -ding lambs to slaugh -ter. When it's o -ver, ohboy, we get it good. Bach -'lor days we thenre -call. Rich man, poor man, beg-ger ma, thief, Doc -tor, law -yer, mer-chant, chief: We are all bound for Ma-tri -mo -ny.  Jim Wiegel   “If you want an adventure . . . what a time to be alive!”. Joanna Macy 401 North Beverly Way,Tolleson, Arizona 85353623-363-3277jfwiegel@yahoo.comwww.partnersinparticipation.com Upcoming ToP training opportunities in Arizona More info on: ToP® Facilitation Methods ToP® Strategic Planning: Mastering the Technology of Participation   Register on line / see the ToP National ScheduleAICP Planners: 14.5 CM for all ToP® courses The AZ ToP® Community of Practice meets the 1st Friday, of every month, 1-4 pm, at ACYR, 648 N. 5th Avenue, Phoenix, AZ 85003 From: Jonathan Barker via OE <oe@lists.wedgeblade.net> To: oe@lists.wedgeblade.net Sent: Saturday, May 23, 2015 10:14 AM Subject: [Oe List ...] FW: Death of Vivan Paul <!--#yiv5781850836 _filtered #yiv5781850836 {font-family:"Cambria Math";panose-1:2 4 5 3 5 4 6 3 2 4;} _filtered #yiv5781850836 {font-family:Calibri;panose-1:2 15 5 2 2 2 4 3 2 4;} _filtered #yiv5781850836 {font-family:Verdana;panose-1:2 11 6 4 3 5 4 4 2 4;}#yiv5781850836 #yiv5781850836 p.yiv5781850836MsoNormal, #yiv5781850836 li.yiv5781850836MsoNormal, #yiv5781850836 div.yiv5781850836MsoNormal {margin:0cm;margin-bottom:.0001pt;font-size:12.0pt;font-family:"Times New Roman", serif;}#yiv5781850836 a:link, #yiv5781850836 span.yiv5781850836MsoHyperlink {color:blue;text-decoration:underline;}#yiv5781850836 a:visited, #yiv5781850836 span.yiv5781850836MsoHyperlinkFollowed {color:purple;text-decoration:underline;}#yiv5781850836 span.yiv5781850836EmailStyle17 {font-family:"Calibri", sans-serif;color:#1F497D;}#yiv5781850836 span.yiv5781850836EmailStyle18 {font-family:"Calibri", sans-serif;color:#1F497D;}#yiv5781850836 .yiv5781850836MsoChpDefault {font-size:10.0pt;} _filtered #yiv5781850836 {margin:72.0pt 72.0pt 72.0pt 72.0pt;}#yiv5781850836 div.yiv5781850836WordSection1 {}-->   From: Jonathan Barker [mailto:jkjmbarker@bigpond.com] Sent: Saturday, 23 May 2015 7:58 PM To: 'Jack Gilles'; 'Patricia Tuecke' Cc: 'Marie Paul' Subject: RE: [Oe List ...] Death of Vivan Paul      We have very fond and abiding memories of Vivian.  We remember him as an imaginative pedagogue, dependable colleague, a refuter of nonsense and jovial story teller. He was inspired by the larger vision, but willingly paid attention to the often overlooked  practicalities. He was tolerant of struggling colleagues, but was nobody’s fool and at times could be enraged at perceived injustices. Despite the rhetoric of the time, he was a dear and loyal friend and we are privileged to have known him. We also knew Indian  better because of him.  As we recall, it was John and Robyn Hutchinson, Priors of the Hyderabad House (we called them Urban Ashrams at the time) who particularly encouraged Vivian and two other notable teachers at a prestigious Catholic school and their families to take the bold step of participating in the programs of EI/ICA. And it was the ITI in Bombay in 1973 (Bob Fishel was the Dean) which so excited Vivian to become more fully involved in the Movement/Order.  Yes, his military training may have deeply shaped him outwardly – but his inner shelf was marked by forbearance and gentleness.  We were delighted to meet Vivian again in 1995 at the Kemper Building when he took us to his favourite Indian restaurant and reminded us that he had lost none of his wit and sharpness of mind.  Farewell Vivian!  Jonathan and Janeen Barker        From: OE [mailto:oe-bounces@lists.wedgeblade.net] On Behalf Of Jack Gilles via OE Sent: Friday, 22 May 2015 2:57 PM To: Patricia Tuecke Cc: Tracy Longacre via OE; Marie Paul Subject: Re: [Oe List ...] Death of Vivan Paul  I will miss Vivian very much. He was a soldier, through and through. He told stories of fighting the Chinese in the Himalayas. One of his disciplines was to take a cold bath every day at the Delhi House, no matter how cold it was. This came from that battle experience. He represented the best of our colleagues who came from the early days of the Movement in India. I presume he was a product of the work Raymond Spencer did in those early years. Journey on dear friend, journey on.  Jack   On May 21, 2015, at 11:47 PM, Patricia Tuecke via OE <oe@lists.wedgeblade.net> wrote:  Dharma,I didn't know Vivian as well as Marie.  She was one of the 4 or 5 women assigned to  each accompany me for one week of a six week Global Women's Forum in the villages in Maharashtra. Actually she worked with me in one of the city forums, not sure which one. For all of the women I think it was the first time they had travelled outside their village or home without their husband or a male relative. It was unusual to do so at the time. I remember Vivian was somewhat naturally concerned for Marie but we had a great week together and no unpleasantness happened.  Please let Marie know we hold her in our thoughts and prayers as she celebrates Vivian's completed life and begins her life without him at her side.Pat Tuecke  On Thursday, May 21, 2015, Dharmalingam  via OE <oe@lists.wedgeblade.net> wrote: Dear colleagues,  Vivian Paul, who worked with us in Maliwada, the Delhi House and at Kemper, which were among his various assignments, died at 9.17 pm on Wednesday, the 20th of May.   I just received the news from Marie Paul in San Antonio, Texas, where he has been living since moving out of Chicago years ago. He was being looked after by Marie and his children after being diagnosed with pancreatic cancer four months ago. He died during surgery.  Dharma           _______________________________________________ OE mailing list OE@lists.wedgeblade.net http://lists.wedgeblade.net/listinfo.cgi/oe-wedgeblade.net   _______________________________________________ OE mailing list OE@lists.wedgeblade.net http://lists.wedgeblade.net/listinfo.cgi/oe-wedgeblade.net