Paul-- For several years now, I use this format with the couple to identify a "Family Statement of Purpose." The method is right out of Town Meetings. First is a brain storm of the individuals Hope and Dreams. These are grouped or gestalted into categories and then named. It is in the naming that the new-ness is discovered. From a theological point of view, this is the work of the Holy Spirit. A Second workshop identifies the "Anticipated Barriers." A Third workshop develops a ratonal chart, names the Goals, and then relates the goals into a Vison Statement.