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Cynthia, You and Bob were always, individually and as a couple later, a ‘presence’ in the Order. I join you in celebrating Bob’s life and death! Grace and peace, Rod Rippel From: W. J. via OE Sent: Wednesday, August 15, 2018 9:29 AM To: facilitationfla@aol.com Cc: W. J. ; Order Ecumenical Community Subject: [Oe List ...] Fw: Re: [Dialogue] from Cynthia Vance Cynthia, I'm so deeply appreciative of how you cared for Bob in his last days and also for yourself. It's a profound way to live out the experience of just being ... so aware of the Mystery itself! I'm also reminded that we three go back a long way. My first memory of you was when you were Cynthia Sturge living (I think) on Claremont Avenue. Somehow I recall Bain Davis being in the mix over in Jersey. I was at UTS 2 years behind Bob during his first marriage, which I recall only vaguely. But I do remember that Bob enrolled in a weekly practicum I was leading that was a movie followed by dessert in professor John Bachmann's living room and an EI-inspired four level movie conversation. Back in the days of 16 millimeter! We were young and energized and inspired and could not have known what our lives had to offer in the Order. Take care of yourself and journey on, Marshall ----- Forwarded Message ----- From: Joyce Sloan via Dialogue <dialogue@lists.wedgeblade.net> To: Colleague Dialogue <dialogue@lists.wedgeblade.net> Cc: Joyce Sloan <jsloan45@gmail.com> Sent: Wednesday, August 15, 2018, 11:40:43 AM EDT Subject: Re: [Dialogue] from Cynthia Vance Dear Cynthia, I am saddened to hear of Bob's passing. I hope the memories you shared throughout your missional marriage including those of his final days bring you comfort. Sending love and prayers. Joyce Sloan On Wed, Aug 15, 2018, 4:30 AM Cynthia Vance via Dialogue <dialogue@lists.wedgeblade.net> wrote: Dear Friends and Colleagues, My dear Bob passed away today, Monday, August 13. On July 11 I enrolled him in Hospice at Home, due to his increasing symptoms from (possibly) Lewy Body dementia and I cared for him since then. Last Sunday morning he awoke with extreme difficulties. The Hospice nurse came and felt he probably had a 'neurological event' the Saturday evening before, perhaps while sleeping. She took him to the Venice Hospice House at 6pm that night. I visited him 90 minutes later. He was very calm but not very responsive. I shared my reflections as I showed him 4 photos -- his parents, his brothers Neil and Denny, our doxies Star and Matilda and finally Bob and me. I also read two poems I had written (about the dogs!) and a love letter highlighting and thanking him for the special times we shared as a team in our community service/civil rights efforts, followed by our strategic planning consulting, and finally in our various nature adventures. We had had these discussions before and had agreed that history had given us a fine ride! – and that hopefully we made the world a little better. He died peacefully 5 hours later, 1:30 am, early Monday morning. I’m grateful for the wonderful life and marriage we had. I could ask for no more. Our home was one of peace, love, respect, creative planning and always in anticipation of our next birding or butterflying adventure. He was always kind to others and was a terrific partner in our life work together! Many of you, our colleagues over the years, wrote letters to him or telephoned him in the past 10 days. He was so pleased to hear from you and I’m grateful that you reached out to us. You shared your appreciation of his life and brought us great joy. My sister, Cecily, has been with me for 2 days and as an R.N. has given me guidance during this journey. Other friends locally have compassionately reached out to me. Bob has donated his brain to the University of Miami Brain Endowment Bank to both confirm (or not) the diagnosis and to contribute to their research. We will be spreading his ashes in our Butterfly Garden and the Gulf of Mexico where he proudly completed 990 SCUBA dives to collect hundreds of vertebrate fossils. Grace and Peace, Cynthia facilitationfla@aol.com 941-483-9165 _______________________________________________ Dialogue mailing list Dialogue@lists.wedgeblade.net http://lists.wedgeblade.net/listinfo.cgi/dialogue-wedgeblade.net _______________________________________________ Dialogue mailing list Dialogue@lists.wedgeblade.net http://lists.wedgeblade.net/listinfo.cgi/dialogue-wedgeblade.net -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- _______________________________________________ OE mailing list OE@lists.wedgeblade.net http://lists.wedgeblade.net/listinfo.cgi/oe-wedgeblade.net --- This email has been checked for viruses by Avast antivirus software. https://www.avast.com/antivirus
My dear Cynthia, Half of a precious team has made the transition back to the Mystery. May Bob's journey serve to remind us of the temporality of the bonds of love and wonder found in the uniqueness of blessed relationships. And may you, my dear tend your spirit like the tender shoots and blossoms of your beloved flowers in your garden. Our beloved community hopes for spirit sustenance to be a mainstay of your journey filled with memories of your life together. I remember Bob as one who never seemed to take himself too seriously and approached life with a certain air of bemusement which not only lightened the task for others but was a perfect foil for your gift of humor. There was a time in HDP Inyan Wakagapi where we crossed paths with the two of you that Bob had the occasion to offer a collegial admonishment to us regarding our mission. It was delivered with the utmost kindness which also demonstrated his caring nature. Please know that as you continue on your path you are loved by family, friends, and colleagues who are with you in spirit and in fact whom you can call on any time to share and partake in your new status in life. We are the people of God in historyWho are and were and evermore shall be, Out of the depth, we hear the mystery,"Finish our work! Finish our work!" In sincere gratitude for encountering a small part of the life of a cherished human being who continues to imbue with love all that remains... Dawn We love the Creator/Source because the Source/Creator loved us first.1 John 4:19 On Wednesday, August 15, 2018, 10:56:07 AM MDT, Rod Rippel via OE <oe@lists.wedgeblade.net> wrote: Cynthia, You and Bob were always, individually and as a couplelater, a ‘presence’ in the Order. I join you in celebrating Bob’s life anddeath!Grace and peace,Rod Rippel From: W.J. via OE Sent: Wednesday, August 15, 2018 9:29 AMTo: facilitationfla@aol.comCc: W. J. ; Order Ecumenical Community Subject: [Oe List ...] Fw: Re: [Dialogue] from CynthiaVance Cynthia, I'm so deeply appreciative of how you cared for Bob in his lastdays and also for yourself. It's a profound way to live out the experience ofjust being ... so aware of the Mystery itself!I'm also reminded that we three go back a long way. My first memory of you was when you were Cynthia Sturge living (I think) onClaremont Avenue. Somehow I recall Bain Davis being in the mix over inJersey.I was at UTS 2 years behind Bob during his first marriage, which I recallonly vaguely. But I do remember that Bob enrolled in a weekly practicum I wasleading that was a movie followed by dessert in professor John Bachmann's livingroom and an EI-inspired four level movie conversation. Back in the days of 16 millimeter!We were young and energized and inspired and could not have known what ourlives had to offer in the Order. Take care of yourself and journey on,Marshall ----- Forwarded Message -----From: Joyce Sloan via Dialogue<dialogue@lists.wedgeblade.net>To: Colleague Dialogue <dialogue@lists.wedgeblade.net>Cc: Joyce Sloan <jsloan45@gmail.com>Sent: Wednesday, August 15, 2018, 11:40:43 AM EDTSubject: Re: [Dialogue] from Cynthia Vance Dear Cynthia,I am saddened to hear of Bob's passing. I hope the memories you sharedthroughout your missional marriage including those of his final days bring youcomfort. Sending love and prayers.Joyce Sloan On Wed, Aug 15, 2018, 4:30 AM Cynthia Vance via Dialogue <dialogue@lists.wedgeblade.net>wrote: Dear Friends and Colleagues, My dear Bob passed away today, Monday, August 13. On July 11 I enrolled him in Hospice at Home, due to his increasing symptoms from (possibly) Lewy Body dementia and I cared for him since then. Last Sunday morning he awoke with extreme difficulties. The Hospice nurse came and felt he probably had a 'neurological event' the Saturday evening before, perhaps while sleeping. She took him to the Venice Hospice House at 6pm that night. I visited him 90 minutes later. He was very calm but not very responsive. I shared my reflections as I showed him 4 photos -- his parents, his brothers Neil and Denny, our doxies Star and Matilda and finally Bob and me. I also read two poems I had written (about the dogs!) and a love letter highlighting and thanking him for the special times we shared as a team in our community service/civil rights efforts, followed by our strategic planning consulting, and finally in our various nature adventures. We had had these discussions before and had agreed that history had given us a fine ride! – and that hopefully we made the world a little better. He died peacefully 5 hours later, 1:30 am, early Monday morning. I’m grateful for the wonderful life and marriage we had. I could ask for no more. Our home was one of peace, love, respect, creative planning and always in anticipation of our next birding or butterflying adventure. He was always kind to others and was a terrific partner in our life work together! Many of you, our colleagues over the years, wrote letters to him or telephoned him in the past 10 days. He was so pleased to hear from you and I’m grateful that you reached out to us. You shared your appreciation of his life and brought us greatjoy. My sister, Cecily, has been with me for 2 days and as an R.N. has given me guidance during this journey. Other friends locally have compassionately reached out to me. Bob has donated his brain to the University of Miami Brain Endowment Bank to both confirm (or not) the diagnosis and to contribute to their research. We will be spreading his ashes in our Butterfly Garden and the Gulf of Mexico where he proudly completed 990 SCUBA dives to collect hundreds of vertebrate fossils. Grace and Peace, Cynthia facilitationfla@aol.com 941-483-9165 _______________________________________________ Dialogue mailing list Dialogue@lists.wedgeblade.net http://lists.wedgeblade.net/listinfo.cgi/dialogue-wedgeblade.net _______________________________________________ Dialogue mailing list Dialogue@lists.wedgeblade.net http://lists.wedgeblade.net/listinfo.cgi/dialogue-wedgeblade.net _______________________________________________ OE mailinglist OE@lists.wedgeblade.net http://lists.wedgeblade.net/listinfo.cgi/oe-wedgeblade.net | | Virus-free. www.avast.com | _______________________________________________ OE mailing list OE@lists.wedgeblade.net http://lists.wedgeblade.net/listinfo.cgi/oe-wedgeblade.net
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