Paul et al,

Consider a wedding “in the Manner of Friends”.  The group gathers in silence. At some point the each of the two people being married makes a statement about their decision to marry “in the presence of this gathered community”  Other people may also rise and make statements (advice or blessing or start a song).  At the end a set time an appoint Friends starts general handshaking.  Everyone present signs a marriage certificate--these become treasures for the new family.  A description of what is going to happen and the words to any songs or readings can be handed out to people if they arrive.  There is no celebrant but there are designated people to sit with the couple, to model silence and to signal time for the handshakes and end.
If you are interested I will locate a published description and procedure.

Mary Hampton
member Religious Society of Friends (Quakers)  
 
 
----- Original Message -----
From: Paul Schrijnen via OE
To: Order Ecumenical Community
Sent: Wednesday, January 07, 2015 10:32 PM
Subject: [Oe List ...] Request for ideas for wedding service

Dear colleagues, dear friends,

My best wishes to you all for 2015. 

My son Patrick is getting married this summer and would like me to 
conduct a secular wedding service.  

I am looking for help and ideas. I suspect that a number of you have 
run such services - or would have a wealth of  ideas for such a service.

1. what structure makes sense?
2. what congregational singing would work? 
- what secular songs might be easily sung by the group of guests?
- what Church songs might work, even in a secular setting? His bride is Welsh…
3. ideas for readings, poetry.

I appreciate your liturgical help!

With best wishes,

Paul


Paul Schrijnen
13 Bloemfontein Avenue
London W12 7BJ
+44 7973 206 766
skype: paulus.schrijnen




On 25 Dec 2014, at 17:35, Jeanette Stanfield via OE <oe@lists.wedgeblade.net> wrote:

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