Jim asked:

so, tim, I should just delete the lists@ addresses?  or is this only for Sarah? <

I believe that the "correct" addresses for the two lists are oe@lists.wedgeblade.net and dialogue@lists.wedgeblade.net. However the convenience emails oe@wedgeblade.net and dialogue@wedgeblade.net can be used by anyone, not just Sarah. Folks who have Apple emails MUST use the convenience emails to successfully post. There may be others.

I have a question similar to the one you asked in to Dreamhost support. I want to know what they consider official, and if Apple's behavior is wrong. It is also true that Dreamhost could solve the problem of working nice with Apple themselves. I am not sure what the standard is.

I now invoke my powers as OE List Tyrant, and hereby declare that further discussion of this technical topic be taken off list. Feel free to email me privately.  In other words, I AM BUILDING AN IMPENETRABLE WALL AROUND THIS TOPIC!!! SO THERE! ONLY CRIMINALS AND RAPISTS WILL CONTINUE TO POST ON THIS TOPIC! 😇

If I discover that the convenience emails might as well be used by everyone, I will change the handy footer found at the bottom of every list message that says where to post. And I'll alert everyone. Anyone who can successfully post can keep doing what they are doing. 

Tim