Re: [Dialogue] 12 Step Plan to cope if your candidate loses election...
Thanks for sharing that, Ellie. Always good to have a reminder of alternative, positive ways of dealing with what seems so odious. One positive thing I feel - if Hillary had won, this country's division would have reverberated for months and even years; she would have been swallowed up by Congress over past sins, blocked at every turn, and harassed by Trump and his followers making it very difficult to do the work she would need to do. Here's hoping she is given something responsible in which she can make some real changes. This way, at least half the country will start out being supportive, along with Congress up to a point. Perhaps our “do-nothing” congress will finally do something – hopefully for the good of all and not just the 1%. Once people realize they are not going to get back the jobs that no longer exist, and that the rich and corporations will continue to get the big bucks at the expense of the very people who voted for Trump, the romance may die. Maybe, then, some sense will come back to the citizens who basically allowed Trump in because they couldn’t stand Hillary. I, for one, am saddest about the fact that we have lost our chance to finally have a woman leading this nation. So many other countries seem way ahead of us on that one. In this very conservative nation, it will probably be many years ahead before that ever happens – misogyny continues to reign, as does racism, albeit unconscious for most. Del “If opportunity doesn’t knock, build a door.” (Milton Berle) From: Dialogue [mailto:dialogue-bounces@lists.wedgeblade.net] On Behalf Of Ellie Stock via Dialogue Sent: Wednesday, November 9, 2016 5:00 PM To: dialogue@lists.wedgeblade.net; oe@lists.wedgeblade.net Subject: [Dialogue] 12 Step Plan to cope if your candidate loses election... This came from the USA Today''' Ellie 12-Step Plan to cope if your candidate loses election: 1 - Feel free to scream. Just don't do it in public. It's a good way to shed some angst. 2 - Practice acceptance. Face the facts. You don't have to like it to accept that it's the reality and you have to move forward. 3. Take action. Support an election issue that was important to you and it will help you feel empowered. 4. Create an exit plan. No, don't leave the country. But, have a strategy that lets you gracefully exit any anxiety-provoking political conversation. Don't escalate. 5. Heed your early-warning signs. When you start to think "This person is an idiot," know your triggers and back off. 6. Manage your exposure. We all know there are certain people, social media posts or TV outlets that fuel aggravation or depression, avoid these and limit exposure. 7. Think broadly. We know there are people who support the other side. It doesn't make them a villain. Practice empathy and kindness. At times this will be a challenge. 8. Build a support system. It's OK to vent, but do it in a healthy self-controlled way and do it with people who are positive and support you. (Maybe we should have a VENT party). 9. Slow down and self-soothe. This could be a time to try meditation, or a walk in the woods, or anything that gives you inner peace. 10. Be thankful. Name things you are grateful for, i.e., a sunny day, great friends, good health. Feed your brain positive info. 11. Get some perspective. Turn on a comedy, watch a classic movie, spend a day with grandkids, or read a good book. Know that life will go on even though you're disappointed. 12. Model good behavior. Be a gracious loser. Set examples for each other with positive ways to cope. Exhibit self-control. By doing these things we strengthen our own resilience.
Hi Del, I appreciated hearing your reflections on what would have happened had Hillary won. Thanks for taking the time to share it! Greg sent me a link to Garrison Keillor's Wash.Post editorial. https://www.washingtonpost.com/opinions/trump-voters-will-not-like-what-happ... I think you'll enjoy it! Garrison points out one irony: it is those who supported Trump who will most suffer from his moves to prop up the 1%.... I have to keep reminding myself that the majority of votes were Hillary's, and I believe that our grandchildren's generation and beyond will continue the trend to more openness and inclusion. My best to you and Justin, Geri Sent from my iPad
On Nov 10, 2016, at 2:21 PM, Del Morrill via Dialogue <dialogue@lists.wedgeblade.net> wrote:
Thanks for sharing that, Ellie. Always good to have a reminder of alternative, positive ways of dealing with what seems so odious.
One positive thing I feel - if Hillary had won, this country's division would have reverberated for months and even years; she would have been swallowed up by Congress over past sins, blocked at every turn, and harassed by Trump and his followers making it very difficult to do the work she would need to do. Here's hoping she is given something responsible in which she can make some real changes. This way, at least half the country will start out being supportive, along with Congress up to a point. Perhaps our “do-nothing” congress will finally do something – hopefully for the good of all and not just the 1%.
Once people realize they are not going to get back the jobs that no longer exist, and that the rich and corporations will continue to get the big bucks at the expense of the very people who voted for Trump, the romance may die. Maybe, then, some sense will come back to the citizens who basically allowed Trump in because they couldn’t stand Hillary.
I, for one, am saddest about the fact that we have lost our chance to finally have a woman leading this nation. So many other countries seem way ahead of us on that one. In this very conservative nation, it will probably be many years ahead before that ever happens – misogyny continues to reign, as does racism, albeit unconscious for most.
Del “If opportunity doesn’t knock, build a door.” (Milton Berle)
From: Dialogue [mailto:dialogue-bounces@lists.wedgeblade.net] On Behalf Of Ellie Stock via Dialogue Sent: Wednesday, November 9, 2016 5:00 PM To: dialogue@lists.wedgeblade.net; oe@lists.wedgeblade.net Subject: [Dialogue] 12 Step Plan to cope if your candidate loses election...
This came from the USA Today'''
Ellie
12-Step Plan to cope if your candidate loses election: 1 - Feel free to scream. Just don't do it in public. It's a good way to shed some angst.
2 - Practice acceptance. Face the facts. You don't have to like it to accept that it's the reality and you have to move forward.
3. Take action. Support an election issue that was important to you and it will help you feel empowered.
4. Create an exit plan. No, don't leave the country. But, have a strategy that lets you gracefully exit any anxiety-provoking political conversation. Don't escalate.
5. Heed your early-warning signs. When you start to think "This person is an idiot," know your triggers and back off.
6. Manage your exposure. We all know there are certain people, social media posts or TV outlets that fuel aggravation or depression, avoid these and limit exposure.
7. Think broadly. We know there are people who support the other side. It doesn't make them a villain. Practice empathy and kindness. At times this will be a challenge.
8. Build a support system. It's OK to vent, but do it in a healthy self-controlled way and do it with people who are positive and support you. (Maybe we should have a VENT party).
9. Slow down and self-soothe. This could be a time to try meditation, or a walk in the woods, or anything that gives you inner peace.
10. Be thankful. Name things you are grateful for, i.e., a sunny day, great friends, good health. Feed your brain positive info.
11. Get some perspective. Turn on a comedy, watch a classic movie, spend a day with grandkids, or read a good book. Know that life will go on even though you're disappointed.
12. Model good behavior. Be a gracious loser. Set examples for each other with positive ways to cope. Exhibit self-control. By doing these things we strengthen our own resilience.
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