I appreciate Dharma’s comment about another part of our community being gone.  I have been struggling to find my voice and still do not feel up to is but I felt moved to speak.

I was trying to say something about Elaine Telford, David Rebstock, and Sandy.

I can not speak to wholeness and gift of each but I can describe how they intersected my life my life in a particular order and each impacted me and others. 

Each had a combination of wisdom and an ability to hold the space in a gentle way, less assertive than my own but just as steadfast.  They held their ground and invited others to reflect and choose their own.

Sandy I have known the longest and had interaction with as she changed and I changed.  I remember many things but I remember most her ability to say no gracefully and with care.  I do not remember a time I changed her mind but I remember several in which I learned something and together we made a third choice.

Elaine I remember from Africa where she tended to speak less but when she did whatever she said needed to be heard.

David I am sure I have known a long time but I did not meet him until Covid or just before as the virtual world of books and research expanded.  Several time David and Jim Wiegel and I worked together on projects of learning.  I really appreciated his intention to follow and to understand.  To try to make sure that commitments made are commitments met.

With love, respect and remembrance 
Larry Philbrook
Taipei



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From: Dharmalingam Vinasithamby <dvinasithamby@yahoo.com>
Subject: Re: [Dialogue] [Oe List ...] Celebrating the Completed Life of Sandra Lynne Rafos
Date: November 18, 2023 at 11:40:41 GMT+8
To: Order Ecumenical Community <oe@lists.wedgeblade.net>, ICA List <dialogue@wedgeblade.net>
Cc: Sharon Rafos <srafos@gmail.com>, Robin Gmail <robrafosroy@gmail.com>, Kim Gmail <ksirrine@gmail.com>


Dear Sharon,

My condolences to you. We grieve that with her passing, yet another part of our community is gone. It makes it more clear how precious she and all others who left are to us.  

Dharma

On Saturday, 18 November 2023 at 10:46:58 am GMT+8, Sharon Rafos via OE <oe@lists.wedgeblade.net> wrote:


It is with deep sadness that we report that our Mother, Sandra Lynne Rafos, passed away Monday, November 13, 2023.  She died peacefully at home with her daughters Kim, Sharon and Robin by her side. She lived an amazing and spirited life.  No doubt she is dancing in heaven with our Father.  May they walk together, reunited in peace. 


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In peace and prayer,

Sharon Rafos 
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