<html><head><meta http-equiv="content-type" content="text/html; charset=utf-8"></head><body dir="auto">I dutifully wrote my obituary assignment and was shocked to read I had dIed on my 85th birthday, only 2+ years from now!<div>I was also struck by what I had left out.</div><div><br></div><div>Several weeks after our first session, condolence card in the mail came to me from Del and Justin as tho Dick had died, so when I called them to say Dick was still very much alive, we had a good laugh and great conversation ....the card is lovely and I still have it, on the chance Dick happens to pre-decease me.</div><div><br></div><div>My other decision to be steadfast in keeping a Faily Gratitude Journal JSU working out and a helpful way to start each day here in the ‘hermitage’ .</div><div><br></div><div>Looking forward to hearing other’s experiences,</div><div>Ellen <br><br><div dir="ltr">Sent from</div><div dir="ltr"><br><blockquote type="cite">On May 1, 2020, at 3:08 AM, PAUL SCHRIJNEN via OE <oe@lists.wedgeblade.net> wrote:<br><br></blockquote></div><blockquote type="cite"><div dir="ltr"><meta http-equiv="Content-Type" content="text/html; charset=utf-8">We could make it a group exercise: <div class="">Step 1: Agree what we mean by an obituary.</div><div class="">Step 2: hang flip charts with the name of each person on the walls of the room </div><div class="">Step 3: we all go around write down the three essential qualities of this person. </div><div class="">Step 4: in groups of 3, agree on the 3-4 essential qualities</div><div class="">Step 5: go around and write anecdotes underneath those qualities</div><div class="">Step 6: find poetry, songs, art forms that come to mind when thinking of this person.</div><div class="">Step 7: Share with great generosity of spirit in a large zoom gathering</div><div class=""><br class=""></div><div class="">How does that sound?</div><div class=""><br class=""></div><div class="">Paul</div><div class=""><br class=""></div><div class=""><div><br class=""><blockquote type="cite" class=""><div class="">On 1 May 2020, at 03:51, James Wiegel via OE <<a href="mailto:oe@lists.wedgeblade.net" class="">oe@lists.wedgeblade.net</a>> wrote:</div><br class="Apple-interchange-newline"><div class=""><meta http-equiv="content-type" content="text/html; charset=utf-8" class=""><div dir="auto" class="">So, I am part of this last chapter group and I am supposed to draft an obituary for myself by May 15. Any suggestions?<br class=""><br class=""><div dir="ltr" class=""><span style="font-size: 13pt;" class="">Jim Wiegel</span><br class=""><div class=""><p class="p1"><span class="s1" style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">“We are all time travelers journeying into the future. But let us make that future a place we want to visit. “ — </span><span style="font-size: 13pt; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);" class="">Stephen Hawkings</span></p></div></div><div dir="ltr" class=""><br class=""><blockquote type="cite" class="">On Apr 30, 2020, at 7:01 PM, Mari Crocker via OE <<a href="mailto:oe@lists.wedgeblade.net" class="">oe@lists.wedgeblade.net</a>> wrote:<br class=""><br class=""></blockquote></div><blockquote type="cite" class=""><div dir="ltr" class=""><meta http-equiv="Content-Type" content="text/html; charset=utf-8" class="">Just checking in to give thanks for the efforts OE/ICA has made to memorialize the saints of our Order and Movement, like Charles Hahn and others. Personally, I loved the obituary entry the Hahn family offered for Charles — it seemed to embody this wonderful man’s long — before and after ICA — relations with the world, far beyond his important service in so many Global nexus (nexi ?) or the various campaigns many of us may or may not remember.<div class=""><br class=""></div><div class="">I also agree with Zoe — for so many of US in the order — to think of or remember Charles, is to think of and remember Doris — and Marcia and Shelly. When I think of Zoe Barley, I always think of Ken and Kristin and Gwen — in Malaysia and ……. We were a FAMILY order, not only a 501c3 non-profit corporation called the EI and later the ICA.</div><div class=""><br class=""></div><div class="">I am still blessed with living independently and caring for my 92-year old husband, Joe, who has advanced dementia. Our nearly 53 years of married life were deeply enriched by our 22 years as members of the OE. But I hope when the ICA, in its loving and kind efforts to “remember Those Who Care” move to write a piece on either Joe or me, they will check out the script with whichever of us is still alive and astute, or with our sons, such that far more than a programmatic run down is offered. I say that because any or all the assignments across the globe any of us might have met and fulfilled finally mean very little, especially as an Order whose members were committed to be the "Nobodies.” The way we have embodied the NRM, the 144s, the Profound Humanness, the Other World, etc. not easily documented, will be far more important to the future of Planet Earth.</div><div class=""><br class=""></div><div class="">Just my two cents.</div><div class=""><br class=""></div><div class="">Grace, peace and love, Marilyn</div><div class=""><div class=""><br class=""><blockquote type="cite" class=""><div class="">On Apr 30, 2020, at 8:33 PM, Ken Fisher via OE <<a href="mailto:oe@lists.wedgeblade.net" class="">oe@lists.wedgeblade.net</a>> wrote:</div><br class="Apple-interchange-newline"><div class=""><meta http-equiv="Content-Type" content="text/html; charset=utf-8" class=""><div style="word-wrap: break-word; -webkit-nbsp-mode: space; line-break: after-white-space;" class="">To my fellow men,<div class=""><br class=""></div><div class="">I have acted as a lone-ranger from to time, but in truth, every erg of effectivity from my own initiative is in resonance with accompanying energies. For me, that has never been more true than my being with in love with Patricia for the past 10 years. How can that be acknowledged in paying tribute to a life fully lived? Let’s find the poetry.</div><div class=""><br class=""></div><div class="">In warmth and light,</div><div class=""><br class=""></div><div class="">Ken</div><div class=""><br class=""></div><div class=""><br class=""><div class=""><br class=""><blockquote type="cite" class=""><div class="">On Apr 30, 2020, at 8:18 PM, Isobel and Jim Bishop via OE <<a href="mailto:oe@lists.wedgeblade.net" class="">oe@lists.wedgeblade.net</a>> wrote:</div><br class="Apple-interchange-newline"><div class=""><meta http-equiv="Content-Type" content="text/html; charset=utf-8" class=""><div style="word-wrap: break-word; -webkit-nbsp-mode: space; line-break: after-white-space;" class="">Thank you Zoe for being so wise in saying what I also noticed, with puzzlement and sadness. <div class=""><br class=""></div><div class="">My gratitude and appreciation to you Zoe, and also to you Sarah. </div><div class=""><br class=""></div><div class="">Grace is yours and peace,</div><div class=""><br class=""></div><div class="">Isobel Bishop. </div><div class=""><br class=""><div class="">
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<div class=""><br class=""><blockquote type="cite" class=""><div class="">On 1 May 2020, at 2:24 am, Zoe Barley via OE <<a href="mailto:oe@lists.wedgeblade.net" class="">oe@lists.wedgeblade.net</a>> wrote:</div><br class="Apple-interchange-newline"><div class=""><div style="margin: 0px; font-style: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; font-weight: normal; letter-spacing: normal; text-align: start; text-indent: 0px; text-transform: none; white-space: normal; word-spacing: 0px; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; text-decoration: none; font-size: 16px; font-family: georgia, serif;" class=""><div style="margin: 0px;" class="">I do hesitate to say anything that can seem critical - but . . . Both John Singleton and Charles Hahn are very good friends. Neither undertook their Order life alone. Neither would have been able to accomplish what they did alone. Both had strong wives/partners without whom their lives would have been quite different. John would never have gone to Africa without Louise having done the work she did first. The two obituaries leave me very sad that the richness of these two lives is missing. </div><div style="margin: 0px;" class=""><br class=""></div><div style="margin: 0px;" class="">Zoe Barley <br class=""></div><br class=""><blockquote style="padding-left: 5px; margin-left: 0px; border-left-width: 2px; border-left-style: solid; border-left-color: rgb(0, 0, 255); font-weight: normal; font-style: normal; text-decoration: none; font-size: 10pt; font-family: arial, sans-serif;" class="">-----Original Message-----<span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><br class="">From: Richard Alton via OE<span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><oe@lists.wedgeblade.net class=""><br class="">Sent: Apr 29, 2020 10:09 AM<span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><br class="">To: Colleague Dialogue<span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><dialogue@lists.wedgeblade.net class="">, Order Ecumenical Community<span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><oe@lists.wedgeblade.net class=""><br class="">Cc: Richard Alton<span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><richard.alton@gmail.com class=""><br class="">Subject: [Oe List ...] The Last Chapter- John Singleton<span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><br class=""><br class=""><div dir="ltr" style="margin: 0px;" class=""><div dir="ltr" style="margin: 0px;" class=""><div class="gmail_default" style="margin: 0px; font-size: large;"><div style="margin: 0in 0in 0.0001pt; font-size: 12px; font-family: Calibri, sans-serif; text-align: center;" class=""><b class=""><span style="font-size: 14pt;" class="">An ICA Tribute to John Singleton<span class=""></span></span></b></div><div style="margin: 0in 0in 0.0001pt; font-size: 12px; font-family: Calibri, sans-serif;" class=""><span style="font-size: 14pt;" class="">In the face of great loss, no words convey the sadness we feel for those who loved John Singleton. Yet we dare to say Death is neither a curse nor a blessing, an end or a beginning, but only that it is a wondrous, frightening and redemptive reality. It is a step into the Unknown Unknown. It is sacred, and it is good. </span><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif;" class=""><span class=""></span></span></div><div style="margin: 0in 0in 0.0001pt; font-size: 12px; font-family: Calibri, sans-serif;" class=""><span style="font-size: 14pt;" class="">Even though Death is universal, it is also unique---because every life is unrepeatable. It arrives in its own time and is always shocking, even when it is anticipated. It can be painful or peaceful, timely or not, tragic or strangely welcome, or all of the above at once. We don’t choose the manner or the moment and can only respond by acknowledging its finality and trusting what was, is and will be. We go on. </span><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif;" class=""><span class=""></span></span></div><div style="margin: 0in 0in 0.0001pt; font-size: 12px; font-family: Calibri, sans-serif;" class=""><span style="font-size: 14pt;" class="">Whether you celebrate death as a Home Going or as a finality that prevents you from being with your loved one physically, acknowledging death is important. We accompany you in your grief. We pray for you in your journey. We hope for your experience of being accompanied by the Divine Spirit. May it sustain you in your sorrow. Our hearts are with you. </span><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif;" class=""><span class=""></span></span></div><div style="margin: 0in 0in 0.0001pt; font-size: 12px; font-family: Calibri, sans-serif;" class=""><span style="font-size: 14pt;" class="">We are grateful for what we learned and how our lives were enriched because of the unique life of John Singleton. We offer here our appreciation for the contributions he made to the life and work of the Ecumenical Institute/ICA. </span><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif;" class=""><span class=""></span></span></div><div style="margin: 0in 0in 0.0001pt; font-size: 12px; font-family: Calibri, sans-serif;" class=""><span style="font-size: 14pt;" class="">As a representative of the Institute of Cultural Affairs I would like to hold up and celebrate the unique contribution of John Singleton’s to the work of the Institute:</span><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif;" class=""><span class=""></span></span></div><p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0.0001pt; font-size: 12px; font-family: Calibri, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: 14pt;" class=""><span class=""> </span></span></p><div style="margin: 0in 0in 0.0001pt; font-size: 12px; font-family: Calibri, sans-serif;" class=""><span style="font-size: 14pt;" class=""> John participated in the Institute work in the Local Church Experiment with a cluster of Denver churches and particularly at Montview Boulevard Presbyterian Church. The focus was on lay leadership to bring intentionality to the church’s role as mission to the world.<span class=""></span></span></div><p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0.0001pt; font-size: 12px; font-family: Calibri, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: 14pt;" class=""><span class=""> </span></span></p><div style="margin: 0in 0in 0.0001pt; font-size: 12px; font-family: Calibri, sans-serif;" class=""><span style="font-size: 14pt;" class="">John also worked with the Institute in Africa designing a community-based program to combat HIV/AIDS first in Ghana in 2002. This was during a time that Africa was the epicenter of the HIV/AIDS epidemic. John was part of a team to visit hospitals and clinics and document the Ghanaian health system response to HIV/AIDS. Later John would go to Uganda to help launch the Institute's Community based HIV/AIDS program to empower and enable communities to challenge HIV/AIDS.<span class=""></span></span></div><p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0.0001pt; font-size: 12px; font-family: Calibri, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: 14pt;" class=""><span class=""> </span></span></p><div style="margin: 0in 0in 0.0001pt; font-size: 12px; font-family: Calibri, sans-serif;" class=""><span style="font-size: 14pt;" class=""> The Institute would like to celebrate John’s life and his unique contribution to caring for this planet and being part of the People of Care. <span class=""></span></span></div><p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0.0001pt; font-size: 12px; font-family: Calibri, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: 14pt;" class=""><span class=""> </span></span></p><div style="margin: 0in 0in 0.0001pt; font-size: 12px; font-family: Calibri, sans-serif;" class=""><span style="font-size: 14pt;" class="">Death is an experience that each and every living creature will finally experience. However, we also understand that every single life is unique and unrepeatable, and, therefore, today we come to acknowledge a very unique death. There has been no death like the death of John Singleton and no life such as the unique and unrepeatable life of John Singleton. What he did and what he was will never be repeated again.<span class=""></span></span></div><p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0.0001pt; font-size: 12px; font-family: Calibri, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: 14pt;" class=""><span class=""> </span></span></p><div style="margin: 0in 0in 0.0001pt; font-size: 12px; font-family: Calibri, sans-serif;" class=""><span style="font-size: 14pt;" class="">John Singleton died February 3, 2020<span class=""></span></span></div><p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0.0001pt; font-size: 12px; font-family: Calibri, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: 14pt;" class=""><span class=""> </span></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0.0001pt; font-size: 12px; font-family: Calibri, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: 14pt;" class=""><span class=""> </span></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0.0001pt; font-size: 12px; font-family: Calibri, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: 14pt;" class=""><span class=""> </span></span></p><div style="margin: 0in 0in 0.0001pt; font-size: 12px; font-family: Calibri, sans-serif;" class=""><b class=""><span style="font-size: 14pt;" class=""><span class=""> </span></span></b></div></div><div style="margin: 0px;" class=""><br class=""></div>--<span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><br class=""><div class="gmail_signature" dir="ltr" style="margin: 0px;"><div dir="ltr" style="margin: 0px;" class=""><div style="margin: 0px;" class=""><div dir="ltr" style="margin: 0px;" class=""><div style="margin: 0px;" class=""><div dir="ltr" style="margin: 0px;" class=""><div style="margin: 0px;" class=""><div dir="ltr" style="margin: 0px;" class=""><div style="margin: 0px;" class=""><div dir="ltr" style="margin: 0px;" class=""><div style="margin: 0px;" class=""><div dir="ltr" style="margin: 0px;" class=""><div style="margin: 0px;" class=""><div dir="ltr" style="margin: 0px;" class=""><div dir="ltr" style="margin: 0px;" class=""><div dir="ltr" style="margin: 0px;" class=""><div dir="ltr" style="margin: 0px;" class=""><div style="margin: 0px;" class="">Richard H. 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