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<div>Cynthia, I'm so deeply appreciative of how you cared for Bob in his last days and also for yourself. It's a profound way to live out the experience of just being ... so aware of the Mystery itself!</div><div>I'm also reminded that we three go back a long way. <br></div><div>My first memory of you was when you were Cynthia Sturge living (I think) on Claremont Avenue. Somehow I recall Bain Davis being in the mix over in Jersey.</div><div>I was at UTS 2 years behind Bob during his first marriage, which I recall only vaguely. But I do remember that Bob enrolled in a weekly practicum I was leading that was a movie followed by dessert in professor John Bachmann's living room and an EI-inspired four level movie conversation. <br></div><div>Back in the days of 16 millimeter!</div><div>We were young and energized and inspired and could not have known what our lives had to offer in the Order.<br></div><div>Take care of yourself and journey on,</div><div>Marshall<br></div><div><br></div>
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<div><b>From:</b> Joyce Sloan via Dialogue <dialogue@lists.wedgeblade.net></div><div><b>To:</b> Colleague Dialogue <dialogue@lists.wedgeblade.net></div><div><b>Cc:</b> Joyce Sloan <jsloan45@gmail.com></div><div><b>Sent:</b> Wednesday, August 15, 2018, 11:40:43 AM EDT</div><div><b>Subject:</b> Re: [Dialogue] from Cynthia Vance</div><div><br></div>
<div><div id="ydp5f5ce0a6yiv5729195231"><div><div>Dear Cynthia,<div>I am saddened to hear of Bob's passing. I hope the memories you shared throughout your missional marriage including those of his final days bring you comfort. </div><div><br clear="none"></div><div>Sending love and prayers.</div><div>Joyce Sloan</div></div><br clear="none"><div class="ydp5f5ce0a6yiv5729195231gmail_quote"><div class="ydp5f5ce0a6yiv5729195231yqt4817542924" id="ydp5f5ce0a6yiv5729195231yqt01281"><div dir="ltr">On Wed, Aug 15, 2018, 4:30 AM Cynthia Vance via Dialogue <<a shape="rect" href="mailto:dialogue@lists.wedgeblade.net" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">dialogue@lists.wedgeblade.net</a>> wrote:<br clear="none"></div><blockquote class="ydp5f5ce0a6yiv5729195231gmail_quote" style="margin:0 0 0 .8ex;border-left:1px #ccc solid;padding-left:1ex;"><font size="3" face="Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif" color="black">
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Bob passed away today, Monday, August 13.</span></div>
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<div style="margin:0px;line-height:normal;"><span style="margin:0px;color:black;">On July
11 I enrolled him in Hospice at Home, due to his increasing symptoms from (possibly)
Lewy Body dementia and I cared for him since then. Last Sunday morning he
awoke with extreme difficulties. The Hospice nurse came and felt he probably had
a 'neurological event' the Saturday evening before, perhaps while
sleeping. She took him to the Venice Hospice House at 6pm that
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visited him 90 minutes later. He was very calm but not very responsive. I shared
my reflections as I showed him 4 photos -- his parents, his brothers Neil and
Denny, our doxies Star and Matilda and finally Bob and me. I also read two
poems I had written (about the dogs!) and a love letter highlighting and
thanking him for the special times we shared as a team in our community service/civil
rights efforts, followed by our strategic planning consulting, and finally in our
various nature adventures. We had had these discussions before and had agreed
that history had given us a fine ride! – and that hopefully we made the world a
little better.<span style="margin:0px;"> </span>He died peacefully 5
hours later, 1:30 am, early Monday morning. </span></div>
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<div style="margin:0px;line-height:normal;"><span style="margin:0px;color:black;">I’m
grateful for the wonderful life and marriage we had. I could ask for no
more. Our home was one of peace, love, respect, creative planning and always in
anticipation of our next birding or butterflying adventure.<span style="margin:0px;"> </span>He was always kind to others and was a
terrific partner in our life work together! <span style="margin:0px;"> </span></span></div>
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<div style="margin:0px;line-height:normal;"><span style="margin:0px;color:black;">Many
of you, our colleagues over the years, wrote letters to him or telephoned him
in the past 10 days. He was so pleased to hear from you and I’m grateful
that you reached out to us. You shared your appreciation of his life and
brought us great joy.</span></div>
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<div style="margin:0px;line-height:normal;"><span style="margin:0px;color:black;">My
sister, Cecily, has been with me for 2 days and as an R.N. has given me
guidance during this journey. Other friends locally have compassionately
reached out to me.</span></div>
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<div style="margin:0px;line-height:normal;"><span style="margin:0px;color:black;">Bob
has donated his brain to the University of Miami Brain Endowment Bank to both
confirm (or not) the diagnosis and to contribute to their research.<span style="margin:0px;"> </span>We will be spreading his ashes in our
Butterfly Garden and the Gulf of Mexico where he </span><span style="margin:0px;color:black;">proudly completed 990 SCUBA dives to collect hundreds of
vertebrate fossils. </span></div>
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