<!DOCTYPE HTML PUBLIC "-//W3C//DTD HTML 4.0 Transitional//EN">
<HTML xmlns:o = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:office"><HEAD>
<META content="text/html; charset=UTF-8" http-equiv=Content-Type>
<META name=GENERATOR content="MSHTML 9.00.8112.16490"></HEAD>
<BODY style="FONT-FAMILY: Arial; COLOR: #000000; FONT-SIZE: 10pt" id=role_body
bottomMargin=7 leftMargin=7 rightMargin=7 topMargin=7><FONT id=role_document
color=#000000 size=2 face=Arial>
<DIV>Dear Marilyn,</DIV>
<DIV> </DIV>
<DIV>Your sweet and tender tributes to Barbara and other colleagues who have
left us care for us all. Thank you.</DIV>
<DIV> </DIV>
<DIV>Love and blessings to you and Joe,</DIV>
<DIV>Jann McGuire</DIV>
<DIV> </DIV>
<DIV>
<DIV>In a message dated 6/15/2013 2:59:07 P.M. Pacific Daylight Time,
marilyncrocker@juno.com writes:</DIV>
<BLOCKQUOTE
style="BORDER-LEFT: blue 2px solid; PADDING-LEFT: 5px; MARGIN-LEFT: 5px"><FONT
style="BACKGROUND-COLOR: transparent" color=#000000 size=2 face=Arial>
<DIV class=WordSection1>
<P class=MsoNormal>Dear Pat and family,<o:p></o:p></P>
<P class=MsoNormal><o:p> </o:p></P>
<P class=MsoNormal>You and I communicated in 2011 at the time of Bill’s
passing, and again, may I extend my condolences to you on the loss of Barbara,
one terrific lady.<o:p></o:p></P>
<P class=MsoNormal><o:p> </o:p></P>
<P class=MsoNormal>I first met Barb in 1968 on the West Side of Chicago when
my husband, Joe, and I arrived for an “intern year” with the Ecumenical
Institute – a commitment that extended for 22 more years as we became members
of the Order Ecumenical. Barb was then Barbara Pouler, and I’m not sure
she had yet even met Bill. The EI staff lived in the former Bethany
Seminary, just off the Eisenhower Expressway, and there always seemed to be
“repairs and improvements” necessary. As part of our discipline, we had
quarterly “work weekends” when we scraped and painted and transformed the
spaces used by participants in regular weekend courses as well as apartments
used by staff families. Barb and I were often assigned to the same
“team” and her company and philosophical conversations made those long,
laborious hours so full of delight for me – always replete with lots of
laughter. Barb helped me to mollify my tendency to take
<U>everything</U> so seriously.<o:p></o:p></P>
<P class=MsoNormal><o:p> </o:p></P>
<P class=MsoNormal>In 1976 I had the treat of being assigned to work with Barb
and Bill in Kreutsburg Ost, Germany and El Bayad, Egypt, where my role was to
train them to take over two of the leadership roles Joe and I had played the
year before in facilitating the first 8 Human Development Consults. What
a gift they were --and such a pair of “quick studies” in the complex
research and planning processes of the week-long consult in the local
community, plus another week writing the summary document – a key tool for
garnering funding for the local socio-economic renewal projects – Barb with
her easy-going “well let’s think this through another way” approach, and Bill
with his proactive “let’s get moving or we’ll never pull this off!” I
loved them both so much and consider the 2+ months I worked with them a
treasure – even tho’ that “assignment” had required that I leave Maliwada
village in India (and my husband and 5 year-old twin sons) just three weeks
after we had arrived from NYC! I’m sure Bill and Barb filled you in over
the years on those quick-turnaround responses to “the mission.”<o:p></o:p></P>
<P class=MsoNormal><o:p> </o:p></P>
<P class=MsoNormal>What I beheld in Bill and Barbara’s relationship was akin
to what I have been blessed with – true and unconditional love. My
husband, Joe, 14 years my senior, and now 85, is wrestling with progressive
memory loss; Bill was 10 years younger than Barb, and must have mourned the
loss of her presence and spark as his partner in so many activities,
especially after she entered the long term care facility. I hope her last days
were comfortable, and that her two years without Bill had some significant
meaning and spiritual substance. I say this without knowing at all what
her illness or frailty was, but believing that if such were within reach, she
would embrace it.<o:p></o:p></P>
<P class=MsoNormal><o:p> </o:p></P>
<P class=MsoNormal>When Bill and Barb visited us here in West Newfield, ME
about 10 years ago, they gifted us with a lovely Crate and Barrel bowl – far
more generous than the usual overnight guest’s gift. I fill it with
bananas, grapes, strawberries, tomatoes – variously, whatever the season – and
always think of them. The other image from their visit is a funny
one: at that time our guest room was on the first floor (now it is on
the 2<SUP>nd</SUP> with queen sized bed and private bath) and the old
fashioned double bed only allowed one night table with lamp in the far corner
– plus the guests would have to trek to the bathroom through the living room
and the dining room! Ever the one to care responsibly for space
requirements <U>and</U> intellectual pursuits, Barb asked me – “So, kiddo, how
will Bill (who chose to sleep on the side near the door in order to get to the
bathroom quickly) be able to read HIS book if we’ve only got one light?”
We immediately hooked up a floor lamp. <SPAN
style="FONT-FAMILY: Wingdings">J</SPAN><o:p></o:p></P>
<P class=MsoNormal><o:p> </o:p></P>
<P class=MsoNormal>That is such the Barb Alerding I love!!<o:p></o:p></P>
<P class=MsoNormal><o:p> </o:p></P>
<P class=MsoNormal>Please know that as long as many of us continue “on this
mortal plain,” I will hold Barbara before us as one of the first “new” women –
of the ilk that have, indeed, shaped history.<o:p></o:p></P>
<P class=MsoNormal><o:p> </o:p></P>
<P class=MsoNormal>With love and appreciation,<o:p></o:p></P>
<P class=MsoNormal><o:p> </o:p></P>
<P class=MsoNormal>Marilyn<o:p></o:p></P>
<P class=MsoNormal><o:p> </o:p></P>
<P class=MsoNormal><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Arial','sans-serif'">Marilyn R.
Crocker, Ed.D<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Arial','sans-serif'">123 Sanborn
Rd<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Arial','sans-serif'">West
Newfield, ME 04095<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P
class=MsoNormal><o:p> </o:p></P></DIV><BR><BR>_______________________________________________<BR>OE
mailing
list<BR>OE@lists.wedgeblade.net<BR>http://lists.wedgeblade.net/listinfo.cgi/oe-wedgeblade.net<BR></FONT></BLOCKQUOTE></DIV></FONT></BODY></HTML>