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<DIV>It's Sherry Turkle, I believe.</DIV>
<DIV>Jann</DIV>
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<DIV>In a message dated 10/20/2012 12:59:53 P.M. Pacific Daylight Time,
del@hypnocenter.com writes:</DIV>
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<P class=MsoNormal><FONT size=2 face="Microsoft Sans Serif"><SPAN
style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Microsoft Sans Serif'; FONT-SIZE: 11pt">I am overwhelmed
by that fantastic and profound essay. I’d love to add it to the articles
on my web site if someone points the way to the author.
<o:p></o:p></SPAN></FONT></P>
<P class=MsoNormal><FONT size=2 face="Microsoft Sans Serif"><SPAN
style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Microsoft Sans Serif'; FONT-SIZE: 11pt"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></FONT></P>
<P class=MsoNormal><B><FONT size=6 face=BrushScrD><SPAN
style="FONT-FAMILY: BrushScrD; FONT-SIZE: 22pt; FONT-WEIGHT: bold">Del<o:p></o:p></SPAN></FONT></B></P>
<P class=MsoNormal><B><I><FONT size=4 face=BrushScrD><SPAN
style="FONT-STYLE: italic; FONT-FAMILY: BrushScrD; FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-WEIGHT: bold">October
is Breast Cancer Awareness month.<o:p></o:p></SPAN></FONT></I></B></P>
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<P class=MsoNormal><FONT size=2 face="Times New Roman"><SPAN
style="FONT-SIZE: 10pt"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></FONT></P>
<P class=MsoNormal><FONT size=2 face="Microsoft Sans Serif"><SPAN
style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Microsoft Sans Serif'; FONT-SIZE: 11pt">Del Hunter
Morrill, M.S., N.B.C.C.H. <o:p></o:p></SPAN></FONT></P>
<P class=MsoNormal><FONT size=2 face="Microsoft Sans Serif"><SPAN
style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Microsoft Sans Serif'; FONT-SIZE: 11pt">Personal Guide
& Hypnotherapist, Teacher, Lecturer<o:p></o:p></SPAN></FONT></P>
<P class=MsoNormal><FONT size=2 face="Microsoft Sans Serif"><SPAN
style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Microsoft Sans Serif'; FONT-SIZE: 11pt">And Author of the
GREAT ESCAPES Script Volumes<o:p></o:p></SPAN></FONT></P>
<P class=MsoNormal><FONT size=2 face="Microsoft Sans Serif"><SPAN
style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Microsoft Sans Serif'; FONT-SIZE: 11pt">
<o:p></o:p></SPAN></FONT></P>
<P class=MsoNormal><FONT size=2 face="Microsoft Sans Serif"><SPAN
style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Microsoft Sans Serif'; FONT-SIZE: 11pt">TRANSITIONS, a
Center for Personal Guidance <o:p></o:p></SPAN></FONT></P>
<P class=MsoNormal><FONT size=2 face="Microsoft Sans Serif"><SPAN
style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Microsoft Sans Serif'; FONT-SIZE: 11pt">And home of NEW
BEGINNINGS PUBLISHING<o:p></o:p></SPAN></FONT></P>
<P class=MsoNormal><FONT size=2 face="Microsoft Sans Serif"><SPAN
style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Microsoft Sans Serif'; FONT-SIZE: 11pt"><U1:ADDRESS
w:st="on"><U1:STREET w:st="on">3217 North Mason Avenue</U1:STREET>, <U1:CITY
w:st="on">Tacoma</U1:CITY> <U1:STATE w:st="on">Washington</U1:STATE>
<U1:POSTALCODE w:st="on">98407</U1:POSTALCODE> <U1:COUNTRY-REGION
w:st="on">USA</U1:COUNTRY-REGION><o:p></o:p></SPAN></FONT></P>
<P class=MsoNormal><FONT size=2 face="Microsoft Sans Serif"><SPAN
style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Microsoft Sans Serif'; FONT-SIZE: 11pt"></U1:ADDRESS>Phone
(253) 383-5757; </SPAN></FONT><A title=http://www.hypnocenter.com/
href="http://www.hypnocenter.com/"><FONT color=purple size=2
face="Microsoft Sans Serif"><SPAN
style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Microsoft Sans Serif'; COLOR: purple; FONT-SIZE: 11pt">www.hypnocenter.com</SPAN></FONT></A><FONT
size=2><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 11pt"><o:p></o:p></SPAN></FONT></P>
<P class=MsoNormal><I><FONT size=1 face="Times New Roman"><SPAN
style="FONT-STYLE: italic; FONT-SIZE: 7.5pt"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></FONT></I></P>
<P class=MsoNormal><B><I><FONT size=3 face="Times New Roman"><SPAN
style="FONT-STYLE: italic; FONT-SIZE: 12pt; FONT-WEIGHT: bold">To be fully
alive, fully human, and completely awake is to be continually thrown out of
the nest.</SPAN></FONT></I></B><I><FONT size=4><SPAN
style="FONT-STYLE: italic; FONT-SIZE: 14pt"> </SPAN></FONT></I><I><FONT
size=2><SPAN style="FONT-STYLE: italic; FONT-SIZE: 10pt">(Pema
Chodron)<o:p></o:p></SPAN></FONT></I></P></DIV>
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style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Microsoft Sans Serif'; FONT-SIZE: 11pt"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></FONT></P>
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<P class=MsoNormal><B><FONT size=2 face=Tahoma><SPAN
style="FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; FONT-SIZE: 10pt; FONT-WEIGHT: bold">From:</SPAN></FONT></B><FONT
size=2 face=Tahoma><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; FONT-SIZE: 10pt">
oe-bounces@lists.wedgeblade.net [mailto:oe-bounces@lists.wedgeblade.net]
<B><SPAN style="FONT-WEIGHT: bold">On Behalf Of </SPAN></B>Shelley
Hahn<BR><B><SPAN style="FONT-WEIGHT: bold">Sent:</SPAN></B> Saturday, October
20, 2012 7:39 AM<BR><B><SPAN style="FONT-WEIGHT: bold">To:</SPAN></B> Order
Ecumenical Community<BR><B><SPAN style="FONT-WEIGHT: bold">Subject:</SPAN></B>
Re: [Oe List ...] some thoughts about the unintended side effects of new
technology</SPAN></FONT><o:p></o:p></P></DIV>
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style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></FONT></P>
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<P class=MsoNormal><FONT size=3 face="Times New Roman"><SPAN
style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt">Thanks for sharing this, Paul. Very profound and
important.<o:p></o:p></SPAN></FONT></P></DIV>
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<P class=MsoNormal><FONT size=3 face="Times New Roman"><SPAN
style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt"> <o:p></o:p></SPAN></FONT></P></DIV>
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<P style="MARGIN-BOTTOM: 12pt" class=MsoNormal><FONT size=3
face="Times New Roman"><SPAN
style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt">Shelley<o:p></o:p></SPAN></FONT></P></DIV>
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<P class=MsoNormal><FONT size=3 face="Times New Roman"><SPAN
style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt">On Thu, Oct 18, 2012 at 4:40 AM, <<A
title=mailto:PSchrijnen@aol.com href="mailto:PSchrijnen@aol.com"
target=_blank>PSchrijnen@aol.com</A>> wrote:<o:p></o:p></SPAN></FONT></P>
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<P class=MsoNormal><FONT color=black size=1 face=Arial><SPAN
style="FONT-FAMILY: Arial; COLOR: black; FONT-SIZE: 8.5pt">further to our
little conversation about the impact of different technological
platforms.......<o:p></o:p></SPAN></FONT></P></DIV>
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<P class=MsoNormal><FONT color=black size=1 face=Arial><SPAN
style="FONT-FAMILY: Arial; COLOR: black; FONT-SIZE: 8.5pt"> <o:p></o:p></SPAN></FONT></P></DIV>
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<P class=MsoNormal><FONT color=black size=1 face=Arial><SPAN
style="FONT-FAMILY: Arial; COLOR: black; FONT-SIZE: 8.5pt">This TED talk by
Sherry Turkle covers the challenge of what the digital revolution
<o:p></o:p></SPAN></FONT></P></DIV>
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<P class=MsoNormal><FONT color=black size=1 face=Arial><SPAN
style="FONT-FAMILY: Arial; COLOR: black; FONT-SIZE: 8.5pt">is doing to our
communication, connection and capacity to cause and use
reflection<o:p></o:p></SPAN></FONT></P></DIV>
<DIV>
<P class=MsoNormal><FONT color=black size=1 face=Arial><SPAN
style="FONT-FAMILY: Arial; COLOR: black; FONT-SIZE: 8.5pt"> <o:p></o:p></SPAN></FONT></P></DIV>
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<P class=MsoNormal><FONT color=black size=1 face=Arial><SPAN
style="FONT-FAMILY: Arial; COLOR: black; FONT-SIZE: 8.5pt">This is well worth
the 19 minutes.<o:p></o:p></SPAN></FONT></P></DIV>
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<P class=MsoNormal><FONT color=black size=1 face=Arial><SPAN
style="FONT-FAMILY: Arial; COLOR: black; FONT-SIZE: 8.5pt"> <o:p></o:p></SPAN></FONT></P></DIV>
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<P class=MsoNormal><FONT color=black size=1 face=Arial><SPAN
style="FONT-FAMILY: Arial; COLOR: black; FONT-SIZE: 8.5pt">Paul<o:p></o:p></SPAN></FONT></P></DIV>
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style="FONT-FAMILY: Arial; COLOR: black; FONT-SIZE: 8.5pt"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></FONT></P></DIV>
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<P class=MsoNormal><FONT color=black size=1 face=Arial><SPAN
style="FONT-FAMILY: Arial; COLOR: black; FONT-SIZE: 8.5pt"><A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html"
target=_blank>www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html</A><o:p></o:p></SPAN></FONT></P></DIV>
<DIV>
<P class=MsoNormal><FONT color=black size=1 face=Arial><SPAN
style="FONT-FAMILY: Arial; COLOR: black; FONT-SIZE: 8.5pt"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></FONT></P></DIV>
<DIV>
<P
style="MARGIN-BOTTOM: 12pt; MARGIN-LEFT: 0in; MARGIN-RIGHT: 0in; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in"><FONT
color=black size=2 face=Arial><SPAN
style="FONT-FAMILY: Arial; COLOR: black; FONT-SIZE: 10pt">And here is a
transcript:<o:p></o:p></SPAN></FONT></P>
<P
style="MARGIN-BOTTOM: 12pt; MARGIN-LEFT: 0in; MARGIN-RIGHT: 0in; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in"><FONT
color=black size=1 face=Arial><SPAN
style="FONT-FAMILY: Arial; COLOR: black; FONT-SIZE: 8pt"><A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#0
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#0"
target=_blank>Just a moment ago,</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#2000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#2000"
target=_blank>my daughter Rebecca texted me for good luck.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#6000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#6000"
target=_blank>Her text said,</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#8000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#8000"
target=_blank>"Mom, you will rock."</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#11000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#11000"
target=_blank>I love this.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#13000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#13000"
target=_blank>Getting that text</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#15000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#15000"
target=_blank>was like getting a hug.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#17000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#17000"
target=_blank>And so there you have it.</A><A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#20000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#20000"
target=_blank>I embody</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#22000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#22000"
target=_blank>the central paradox.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#24000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#24000"
target=_blank>I'm a woman</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#26000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#26000"
target=_blank>who loves getting texts</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#28000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#28000"
target=_blank>who's going to tell you</A><A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#30000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#30000"
target=_blank>that too many of them can be a
problem.</A><o:p></o:p></SPAN></FONT></P>
<P
style="MARGIN-BOTTOM: 12pt; MARGIN-LEFT: 0in; MARGIN-RIGHT: 0in; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in"><FONT
color=black size=1 face=Arial><SPAN
style="FONT-FAMILY: Arial; COLOR: black; FONT-SIZE: 8pt"><A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#33000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#33000"
target=_blank>Actually that reminder of my daughter</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#36000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#36000"
target=_blank>brings me to the beginning of my story.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#39000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#39000"
target=_blank>1996, when I gave my first TEDTalk,</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#43000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#43000"
target=_blank>Rebecca was five years old</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#45000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#45000"
target=_blank>and she was sitting right there</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#47000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#47000"
target=_blank>in the front row.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#49000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#49000"
target=_blank>I had just written a book</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#51000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#51000"
target=_blank>that celebrated our life on the internet</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#53000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#53000"
target=_blank>and I was about to be on the cover</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#56000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#56000"
target=_blank>of Wired magazine.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#58000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#58000"
target=_blank>In those heady days,</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#60000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#60000"
target=_blank>we were experimenting</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#62000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#62000"
target=_blank>with chat rooms and online virtual communities.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#65000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#65000"
target=_blank>We were exploring different aspects of ourselves.</A><A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#69000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#69000"
target=_blank>And then we unplugged.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#71000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#71000"
target=_blank>I was excited.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#73000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#73000"
target=_blank>And, as a psychologist, what excited me most</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#76000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#76000"
target=_blank>was the idea</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#78000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#78000"
target=_blank>that we would use what we learned in the virtual world</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#81000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#81000"
target=_blank>about ourselves, about our identity,</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#84000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#84000"
target=_blank>to live better lives in the real
world.</A><o:p></o:p></SPAN></FONT></P>
<P
style="MARGIN-BOTTOM: 12pt; MARGIN-LEFT: 0in; MARGIN-RIGHT: 0in; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in"><FONT
color=black size=1 face=Arial><SPAN
style="FONT-FAMILY: Arial; COLOR: black; FONT-SIZE: 8pt"><A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#87000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#87000"
target=_blank>Now fast-forward to 2012.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#90000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#90000"
target=_blank>I'm back here on the TED stage again.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#93000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#93000"
target=_blank>My daughter's 20. She's a college student.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#96000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#96000"
target=_blank>She sleeps with her cellphone,</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#100000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#100000"
target=_blank>so do I.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#102000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#102000"
target=_blank>And I've just written a new book,</A><A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#105000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#105000"
target=_blank>but this time it's not one</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#108000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#108000"
target=_blank>that will get me on the cover</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#110000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#110000"
target=_blank>of Wired magazine.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#112000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#112000"
target=_blank>So what happened?</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#115000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#115000"
target=_blank>I'm still excited by technology,</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#118000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#118000"
target=_blank>but I believe,</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#120000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#120000"
target=_blank>and I'm here to make the case,</A><A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#122000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#122000"
target=_blank>that we're letting it take us places</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#124000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#124000"
target=_blank>that we don't want to go.</A><o:p></o:p></SPAN></FONT></P>
<P
style="MARGIN-BOTTOM: 12pt; MARGIN-LEFT: 0in; MARGIN-RIGHT: 0in; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in"><FONT
color=black size=1 face=Arial><SPAN
style="FONT-FAMILY: Arial; COLOR: black; FONT-SIZE: 8pt"><A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#126000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#126000"
target=_blank>Over the past 15 years,</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#128000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#128000"
target=_blank>I've studied technologies of mobile communication</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#131000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#131000"
target=_blank>and I've interviewed hundreds and hundreds of people,</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#134000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#134000"
target=_blank>young and old,</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#136000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#136000"
target=_blank>about their plugged in lives.</A><A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#138000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#138000"
target=_blank>And what I've found</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#140000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#140000"
target=_blank>is that our little devices,</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#142000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#142000"
target=_blank>those little devices in our pockets,</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#145000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#145000"
target=_blank>are so psychologically powerful</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#147000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#147000"
target=_blank>that they don't only change what we do,</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#151000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#151000"
target=_blank>they change who we are.</A><A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#154000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#154000"
target=_blank>Some of the things we do now with our devices</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#156000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#156000"
target=_blank>are things that, only a few years ago,</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#159000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#159000"
target=_blank>we would have found odd</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#161000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#161000"
target=_blank>or disturbing,</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#163000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#163000"
target=_blank>but they've quickly come to seem familiar,</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#166000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#166000"
target=_blank>just how we do things.</A><o:p></o:p></SPAN></FONT></P>
<P
style="MARGIN-BOTTOM: 12pt; MARGIN-LEFT: 0in; MARGIN-RIGHT: 0in; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in"><FONT
color=black size=1 face=Arial><SPAN
style="FONT-FAMILY: Arial; COLOR: black; FONT-SIZE: 8pt"><A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#168000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#168000"
target=_blank>So just to take some quick examples:</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#171000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#171000"
target=_blank>People text or do email</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#173000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#173000"
target=_blank>during corporate board meetings.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#176000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#176000"
target=_blank>They text and shop and go on Facebook</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#179000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#179000"
target=_blank>during classes, during presentations,</A><A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#182000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#182000"
target=_blank>actually during all meetings.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#184000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#184000"
target=_blank>People talk to me about the important new skill</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#187000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#187000"
target=_blank>of making eye contact</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#189000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#189000"
target=_blank>while you're texting.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#191000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#191000"
target=_blank>(Laughter)</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#193000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#193000"
target=_blank>People explain to me</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#195000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#195000"
target=_blank>that it's hard, but that it can be done.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#198000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#198000"
target=_blank>Parents text and do email</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#200000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#200000"
target=_blank>at breakfast and at dinner</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#202000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#202000"
target=_blank>while their children complain</A><A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#205000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#205000"
target=_blank>about not having their parents' full attention.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#207000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#207000"
target=_blank>But then these same children</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#209000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#209000"
target=_blank>deny each other their full attention.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#212000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#212000"
target=_blank>This is a recent shot</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#214000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#214000"
target=_blank>of my daughter and her friends</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#217000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#217000"
target=_blank>being together</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#219000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#219000"
target=_blank>while not being together.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#222000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#222000"
target=_blank>And we even text at funerals.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#224000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#224000"
target=_blank>I study this.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#226000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#226000"
target=_blank>We remove ourselves</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#228000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#228000"
target=_blank>from our grief or from our revery</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#230000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#230000"
target=_blank>and we go into our phones.</A><o:p></o:p></SPAN></FONT></P>
<P
style="MARGIN-BOTTOM: 12pt; MARGIN-LEFT: 0in; MARGIN-RIGHT: 0in; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in"><FONT
color=black size=1 face=Arial><SPAN
style="FONT-FAMILY: Arial; COLOR: black; FONT-SIZE: 8pt"><A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#233000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#233000"
target=_blank>Why does this matter?</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#235000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#235000"
target=_blank>It matters to me</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#237000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#237000"
target=_blank>because I think we're setting ourselves up for trouble --</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#240000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#240000"
target=_blank>trouble certainly</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#242000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#242000"
target=_blank>in how we relate to each other,</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#244000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#244000"
target=_blank>but also trouble</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#246000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#246000"
target=_blank>in how we relate to ourselves</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#249000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#249000"
target=_blank>and our capacity for self-reflection.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#252000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#252000"
target=_blank>We're getting used to a new way</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#254000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#254000"
target=_blank>of being alone together.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#257000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#257000"
target=_blank>People want to be with each other,</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#259000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#259000"
target=_blank>but also elsewhere --</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#261000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#261000"
target=_blank>connected to all the different places they want to be.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#264000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#264000"
target=_blank>People want to customize their lives.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#267000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#267000"
target=_blank>They want to go in and out of all the places they are</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#270000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#270000"
target=_blank>because the thing that matters most to them</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#272000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#272000"
target=_blank>is control over where they put their attention.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#276000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#276000"
target=_blank>So you want to go to that board meeting,</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#279000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#279000"
target=_blank>but you only want to pay attention</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#281000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#281000"
target=_blank>to the bits that interest you.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#283000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#283000"
target=_blank>And some people think that's a good thing.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#286000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#286000"
target=_blank>But you can end up</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#288000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#288000"
target=_blank>hiding from each other,</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#290000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#290000"
target=_blank>even as we're all constantly connected to each
other.</A><o:p></o:p></SPAN></FONT></P>
<P
style="MARGIN-BOTTOM: 12pt; MARGIN-LEFT: 0in; MARGIN-RIGHT: 0in; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in"><FONT
color=black size=1 face=Arial><SPAN
style="FONT-FAMILY: Arial; COLOR: black; FONT-SIZE: 8pt"><A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#293000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#293000"
target=_blank>A 50-year-old business man</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#295000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#295000"
target=_blank>lamented to me</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#297000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#297000"
target=_blank>that he feels he doesn't have colleagues anymore at work.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#300000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#300000"
target=_blank>When he goes to work, he doesn't stop by to talk to anybody,</A>
<A title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#303000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#303000"
target=_blank>he doesn't call.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#305000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#305000"
target=_blank>And he says he doesn't want to interrupt his colleagues</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#308000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#308000"
target=_blank>because, he says, "They're too busy on their email."</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#311000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#311000"
target=_blank>But then he stops himself</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#313000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#313000"
target=_blank>and he says, "You know, I'm not telling you the truth.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#315000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#315000"
target=_blank>I'm the one who doesn't want to be interrupted.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#318000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#318000"
target=_blank>I think I should want to,</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#320000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#320000"
target=_blank>but actually I'd rather just do things on my
Blackberry."</A><o:p></o:p></SPAN></FONT></P>
<P
style="MARGIN-BOTTOM: 12pt; MARGIN-LEFT: 0in; MARGIN-RIGHT: 0in; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in"><FONT
color=black size=1 face=Arial><SPAN
style="FONT-FAMILY: Arial; COLOR: black; FONT-SIZE: 8pt"><A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#324000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#324000"
target=_blank>Across the generations,</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#326000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#326000"
target=_blank>I see that people can't get enough of each other,</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#330000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#330000"
target=_blank>if and only if</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#332000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#332000"
target=_blank>they can have each other at a distance,</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#335000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#335000"
target=_blank>in amounts they can control.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#337000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#337000"
target=_blank>I call it the Goldilocks effect:</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#340000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#340000"
target=_blank>not too close, not too far,</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#343000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#343000"
target=_blank>just right.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#345000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#345000"
target=_blank>But what might feel just right</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#347000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#347000"
target=_blank>for that middle-aged executive</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#349000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#349000"
target=_blank>can be a problem for an adolescent</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#351000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#351000"
target=_blank>who needs to develop face-to-face relationships.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#355000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#355000"
target=_blank>An 18-year-old boy</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#357000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#357000"
target=_blank>who uses texting for almost everything</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#360000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#360000"
target=_blank>says to me wistfully,</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#362000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#362000"
target=_blank>"Someday, someday,</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#365000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#365000"
target=_blank>but certainly not now,</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#367000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#367000"
target=_blank>I'd like to learn how to have a
conversation."</A><o:p></o:p></SPAN></FONT></P>
<P
style="MARGIN-BOTTOM: 12pt; MARGIN-LEFT: 0in; MARGIN-RIGHT: 0in; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in"><FONT
color=black size=1 face=Arial><SPAN
style="FONT-FAMILY: Arial; COLOR: black; FONT-SIZE: 8pt"><A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#371000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#371000"
target=_blank>When I ask people</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#373000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#373000"
target=_blank>"What's wrong with having a conversation?"</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#376000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#376000"
target=_blank>People say, "I'll tell you what's wrong with having a
conversation.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#380000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#380000"
target=_blank>It takes place in real time</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#383000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#383000"
target=_blank>and you can't control what you're going to say."</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#387000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#387000"
target=_blank>So that's the bottom line.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#389000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#389000"
target=_blank>Texting, email, posting,</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#392000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#392000"
target=_blank>all of these things</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#394000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#394000"
target=_blank>let us present the self as we want to be.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#397000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#397000"
target=_blank>We get to edit,</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#399000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#399000"
target=_blank>and that means we get to delete,</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#402000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#402000"
target=_blank>and that means we get to retouch,</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#405000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#405000"
target=_blank>the face, the voice,</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#407000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#407000"
target=_blank>the flesh, the body --</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#409000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#409000"
target=_blank>not too little, not too much,</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#412000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#412000"
target=_blank>just right.</A><o:p></o:p></SPAN></FONT></P>
<P
style="MARGIN-BOTTOM: 12pt; MARGIN-LEFT: 0in; MARGIN-RIGHT: 0in; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in"><FONT
color=black size=1 face=Arial><SPAN
style="FONT-FAMILY: Arial; COLOR: black; FONT-SIZE: 8pt"><A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#414000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#414000"
target=_blank>Human relationships</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#416000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#416000"
target=_blank>are rich and they're messy</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#418000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#418000"
target=_blank>and they're demanding.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#420000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#420000"
target=_blank>And we clean them up with technology.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#423000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#423000"
target=_blank>And when we do,</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#425000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#425000"
target=_blank>one of the things that can happen</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#427000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#427000"
target=_blank>is that we sacrifice conversation</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#429000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#429000"
target=_blank>for mere connection.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#431000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#431000"
target=_blank>We short-change ourselves.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#434000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#434000"
target=_blank>And over time,</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#436000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#436000"
target=_blank>we seem to forget this,</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#438000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#438000"
target=_blank>or we seem to stop caring.</A><o:p></o:p></SPAN></FONT></P>
<P
style="MARGIN-BOTTOM: 12pt; MARGIN-LEFT: 0in; MARGIN-RIGHT: 0in; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in"><FONT
color=black size=1 face=Arial><SPAN
style="FONT-FAMILY: Arial; COLOR: black; FONT-SIZE: 8pt"><A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#441000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#441000"
target=_blank>I was caught off guard</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#445000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#445000"
target=_blank>when Stephen Colbert</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#447000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#447000"
target=_blank>asked me a profound question,</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#451000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#451000"
target=_blank>a profound question.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#454000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#454000"
target=_blank>He said, "Don't all those little tweets,</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#460000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#460000"
target=_blank>don't all those little sips</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#463000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#463000"
target=_blank>of online communication,</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#466000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#466000"
target=_blank>add up to one big gulp</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#469000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#469000"
target=_blank>of real conversation?"</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#473000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#473000"
target=_blank>My answer was no,</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#475000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#475000"
target=_blank>they don't add up.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#477000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#477000"
target=_blank>Connecting in sips may work</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#481000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#481000"
target=_blank>for gathering discreet bits of information,</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#485000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#485000"
target=_blank>they may work for saying, "I'm thinking about you,"</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#489000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#489000"
target=_blank>or even for saying, "I love you," --</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#491000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#491000"
target=_blank>I mean, look at how I felt</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#493000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#493000"
target=_blank>when I got that text from my daughter --</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#496000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#496000"
target=_blank>but they don't really work</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#498000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#498000"
target=_blank>for learning about each other,</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#500000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#500000"
target=_blank>for really coming to know and understand each other.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#504000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#504000"
target=_blank>And we use conversations with each other</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#508000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#508000"
target=_blank>to learn how to have conversations</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#510000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#510000"
target=_blank>with ourselves.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#512000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#512000"
target=_blank>So a flight from conversation</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#514000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#514000"
target=_blank>can really matter</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#516000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#516000"
target=_blank>because it can compromise</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#518000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#518000"
target=_blank>our capacity for self-reflection.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#520000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#520000"
target=_blank>For kids growing up,</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#522000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#522000"
target=_blank>that skill is the bedrock of
development.</A><o:p></o:p></SPAN></FONT></P>
<P
style="MARGIN-BOTTOM: 12pt; MARGIN-LEFT: 0in; MARGIN-RIGHT: 0in; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in"><FONT
color=black size=1 face=Arial><SPAN
style="FONT-FAMILY: Arial; COLOR: black; FONT-SIZE: 8pt"><A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#526000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#526000"
target=_blank>Over and over I hear,</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#528000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#528000"
target=_blank>"I would rather text than talk."</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#531000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#531000"
target=_blank>And what I'm seeing</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#533000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#533000"
target=_blank>is that people get so used to being short-changed</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#535000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#535000"
target=_blank>out of real conversation,</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#537000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#537000"
target=_blank>so used to getting by with less,</A><A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#540000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#540000"
target=_blank>that they've become almost willing</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#542000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#542000"
target=_blank>to dispense with people altogether.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#544000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#544000"
target=_blank>So for example,</A><A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#546000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#546000"
target=_blank>many people share with me this wish,</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#548000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#548000"
target=_blank>that some day a more advanced version of Siri,</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#551000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#551000"
target=_blank>the digital assistant on Apple's iPhone,</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#554000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#554000"
target=_blank>will be more like a best friend,</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#556000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#556000"
target=_blank>someone who will listen</A><A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#558000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#558000"
target=_blank>when others won't.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#560000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#560000"
target=_blank>I believe this wish</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#562000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#562000"
target=_blank>reflects a painful truth</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#564000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#564000"
target=_blank>that I've learned in the past 15 years.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#567000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#567000"
target=_blank>That feeling that no one is listening to me</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#571000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#571000"
target=_blank>is very important</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#573000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#573000"
target=_blank>in our relationships with technology.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#575000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#575000"
target=_blank>That's why it's so appealing</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#577000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#577000"
target=_blank>to have a Facebook page</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#579000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#579000"
target=_blank>or a Twitter feed --</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#581000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#581000"
target=_blank>so many automatic listeners.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#584000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#584000"
target=_blank>And the feeling that no one is listening to me</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#587000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#587000"
target=_blank>make us want to spend time</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#589000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#589000"
target=_blank>with machines that seem to care about
us.</A><o:p></o:p></SPAN></FONT></P>
<P
style="MARGIN-BOTTOM: 12pt; MARGIN-LEFT: 0in; MARGIN-RIGHT: 0in; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in"><FONT
color=black size=1 face=Arial><SPAN
style="FONT-FAMILY: Arial; COLOR: black; FONT-SIZE: 8pt"><A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#592000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#592000"
target=_blank>We're developing robots,</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#594000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#594000"
target=_blank>they call them sociable robots,</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#596000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#596000"
target=_blank>that are specifically designed to be companions --</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#599000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#599000"
target=_blank>to the elderly,</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#601000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#601000"
target=_blank>to our children,</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#603000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#603000"
target=_blank>to us.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#605000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#605000"
target=_blank>Have we so lost confidence</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#608000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#608000"
target=_blank>that we will be there for each other?</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#612000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#612000"
target=_blank>During my research</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#614000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#614000"
target=_blank>I worked in nursing homes,</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#616000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#616000"
target=_blank>and I brought in these sociable robots</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#619000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#619000"
target=_blank>that were designed to give the elderly</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#621000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#621000"
target=_blank>the feeling that they were understood.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#624000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#624000"
target=_blank>And one day I came in</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#626000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#626000"
target=_blank>and a woman who had lost a child</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#628000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#628000"
target=_blank>was talking to a robot</A><A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#630000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#630000"
target=_blank>in the shape of a baby seal.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#633000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#633000"
target=_blank>It seemed to be looking in her eyes.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#635000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#635000"
target=_blank>It seemed to be following the conversation.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#638000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#638000"
target=_blank>It comforted her.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#641000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#641000"
target=_blank>And many people found this
amazing.</A><o:p></o:p></SPAN></FONT></P>
<P
style="MARGIN-BOTTOM: 12pt; MARGIN-LEFT: 0in; MARGIN-RIGHT: 0in; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in"><FONT
color=black size=1 face=Arial><SPAN
style="FONT-FAMILY: Arial; COLOR: black; FONT-SIZE: 8pt"><A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#645000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#645000"
target=_blank>But that woman was trying to make sense of her life</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#650000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#650000"
target=_blank>with a machine that had no experience</A><A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#653000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#653000"
target=_blank>of the arc of a human life.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#656000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#656000"
target=_blank>That robot put on a great show.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#658000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#658000"
target=_blank>And we're vulnerable.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#660000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#660000"
target=_blank>People experience pretend empathy</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#663000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#663000"
target=_blank>as though it were the real thing.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#666000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#666000"
target=_blank>So during that moment</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#670000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#670000"
target=_blank>when that woman</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#672000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#672000"
target=_blank>was experiencing that pretend empathy,</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#675000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#675000"
target=_blank>I was thinking, "That robot can't empathize.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#678000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#678000"
target=_blank>It doesn't face death.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#680000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#680000"
target=_blank>It doesn't know life."</A><o:p></o:p></SPAN></FONT></P>
<P
style="MARGIN-BOTTOM: 12pt; MARGIN-LEFT: 0in; MARGIN-RIGHT: 0in; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in"><FONT
color=black size=1 face=Arial><SPAN
style="FONT-FAMILY: Arial; COLOR: black; FONT-SIZE: 8pt"><A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#682000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#682000"
target=_blank>And as that woman took comfort</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#684000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#684000"
target=_blank>in her robot companion,</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#686000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#686000"
target=_blank>I didn't find it amazing;</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#688000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#688000"
target=_blank>I found it one of the most wrenching, complicated moments</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#692000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#692000"
target=_blank>in my 15 years of work.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#696000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#696000"
target=_blank>But when I stepped back,</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#698000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#698000"
target=_blank>I felt myself</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#700000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#700000"
target=_blank>at the cold, hard center</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#703000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#703000"
target=_blank>of a perfect storm.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#705000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#705000"
target=_blank>We expect more from technology</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#708000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#708000"
target=_blank>and less from each other.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#711000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#711000"
target=_blank>And I ask myself,</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#713000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#713000"
target=_blank>"Why have things come to this?"</A><o:p></o:p></SPAN></FONT></P>
<P
style="MARGIN-BOTTOM: 12pt; MARGIN-LEFT: 0in; MARGIN-RIGHT: 0in; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in"><FONT
color=black size=1 face=Arial><SPAN
style="FONT-FAMILY: Arial; COLOR: black; FONT-SIZE: 8pt"><A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#716000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#716000"
target=_blank>And I believe it's because</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#718000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#718000"
target=_blank>technology appeals to us most</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#721000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#721000"
target=_blank>where we are most vulnerable.</A><A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#723000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#723000"
target=_blank>And we are vulnerable.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#725000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#725000"
target=_blank>We're lonely,</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#727000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#727000"
target=_blank>but we're afraid of intimacy.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#729000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#729000"
target=_blank>And so from social networks to sociable robots,</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#732000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#732000"
target=_blank>we're designing technologies</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#734000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#734000"
target=_blank>that will give us the illusion of companionship</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#737000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#737000"
target=_blank>without the demands of friendship.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#739000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#739000"
target=_blank>We turn to technology to help us feel connected</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#742000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#742000"
target=_blank>in ways we can comfortably control.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#745000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#745000"
target=_blank>But we're not so comfortable.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#747000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#747000"
target=_blank>We are not so much in control.</A><o:p></o:p></SPAN></FONT></P>
<P
style="MARGIN-BOTTOM: 12pt; MARGIN-LEFT: 0in; MARGIN-RIGHT: 0in; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in"><FONT
color=black size=1 face=Arial><SPAN
style="FONT-FAMILY: Arial; COLOR: black; FONT-SIZE: 8pt"><A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#750000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#750000"
target=_blank>These days, those phones in our pockets</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#753000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#753000"
target=_blank>are changing our minds and hearts</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#755000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#755000"
target=_blank>because they offer us</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#757000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#757000"
target=_blank>three gratifying fantasies.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#759000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#759000"
target=_blank>One, that we can put our attention</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#761000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#761000"
target=_blank>wherever we want it to be;</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#763000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#763000"
target=_blank>two, that we will always be heard;</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#766000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#766000"
target=_blank>and three, that we will never have to be alone.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#769000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#769000"
target=_blank>And that third idea,</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#771000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#771000"
target=_blank>that we will never have to be alone,</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#774000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#774000"
target=_blank>is central to changing our psyches.</A><A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#776000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#776000"
target=_blank>Because the moment that people are alone,</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#779000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#779000"
target=_blank>even for a few seconds,</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#781000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#781000"
target=_blank>they become anxious, they panic, they fidget,</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#784000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#784000"
target=_blank>they reach for a device.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#786000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#786000"
target=_blank>Just think of people at a checkout line</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#788000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#788000"
target=_blank>or at a red light.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#790000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#790000"
target=_blank>Being alone feels like a problem that needs to be solved.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#794000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#794000"
target=_blank>And so people try to solve it by connecting.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#797000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#797000"
target=_blank>But here, connection</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#799000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#799000"
target=_blank>is more like a symptom than a cure.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#802000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#802000"
target=_blank>It expresses, but it doesn't solve,</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#805000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#805000"
target=_blank>an underlying problem.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#807000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#807000"
target=_blank>But more than a symptom,</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#809000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#809000"
target=_blank>constant connection is changing</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#811000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#811000"
target=_blank>the way people think of themselves.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#813000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#813000"
target=_blank>It's shaping a new way of
being.</A><o:p></o:p></SPAN></FONT></P>
<P
style="MARGIN-BOTTOM: 12pt; MARGIN-LEFT: 0in; MARGIN-RIGHT: 0in; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in"><FONT
color=black size=1 face=Arial><SPAN
style="FONT-FAMILY: Arial; COLOR: black; FONT-SIZE: 8pt"><A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#816000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#816000"
target=_blank>The best way to describe it is,</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#818000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#818000"
target=_blank>I share therefore I am.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#821000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#821000"
target=_blank>We use technology to define ourselves</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#824000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#824000"
target=_blank>by sharing our thoughts and feelings</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#826000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#826000"
target=_blank>even as we're having them.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#828000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#828000"
target=_blank>So before it was:</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#830000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#830000"
target=_blank>I have a feeling,</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#832000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#832000"
target=_blank>I want to make a call.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#834000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#834000"
target=_blank>Now it's: I want to have a feeling,</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#837000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#837000"
target=_blank>I need to send a text.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#839000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#839000"
target=_blank>The problem with this new regime</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#842000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#842000"
target=_blank>of "I share therefore I am"</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#844000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#844000"
target=_blank>is that, if we don't have connection,</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#846000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#846000"
target=_blank>we don't feel like ourselves.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#848000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#848000"
target=_blank>We almost don't feel ourselves.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#850000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#850000"
target=_blank>So what do we do? We connect more and more.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#853000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#853000"
target=_blank>But in the process,</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#855000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#855000"
target=_blank>we set ourselves up to be
isolated.</A><o:p></o:p></SPAN></FONT></P>
<P
style="MARGIN-BOTTOM: 12pt; MARGIN-LEFT: 0in; MARGIN-RIGHT: 0in; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in"><FONT
color=black size=1 face=Arial><SPAN
style="FONT-FAMILY: Arial; COLOR: black; FONT-SIZE: 8pt"><A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#858000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#858000"
target=_blank>How do you get from connection to isolation?</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#862000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#862000"
target=_blank>You end up isolated</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#864000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#864000"
target=_blank>if you don't cultivate the capacity for solitude,</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#866000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#866000"
target=_blank>the ability to be separate,</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#869000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#869000"
target=_blank>to gather yourself.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#871000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#871000"
target=_blank>Solitude is where you find yourself</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#874000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#874000"
target=_blank>so that you can reach out to other people</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#876000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#876000"
target=_blank>and form real attachments.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#879000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#879000"
target=_blank>When we don't have the capacity for solitude,</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#882000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#882000"
target=_blank>we turn to other people in order to feel less anxious</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#885000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#885000"
target=_blank>or in order to feel alive.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#887000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#887000"
target=_blank>When this happens,</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#889000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#889000"
target=_blank>we're not able to appreciate who they are.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#892000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#892000"
target=_blank>It's as though we're using them</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#894000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#894000"
target=_blank>as spare parts</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#896000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#896000"
target=_blank>to support our fragile sense of self.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#899000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#899000"
target=_blank>We slip into thinking that always being connected</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#902000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#902000"
target=_blank>is going to make us feel less alone.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#906000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#906000"
target=_blank>But we're at risk,</A><A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#908000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#908000"
target=_blank>because actually it's the opposite that's true.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#911000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#911000"
target=_blank>If we're not able to be alone,</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#913000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#913000"
target=_blank>we're going to be more lonely.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#915000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#915000"
target=_blank>And if we don't teach our children to be alone,</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#918000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#918000"
target=_blank>they're only going to know</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#920000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#920000"
target=_blank>how to be lonely.</A><o:p></o:p></SPAN></FONT></P>
<P
style="MARGIN-BOTTOM: 12pt; MARGIN-LEFT: 0in; MARGIN-RIGHT: 0in; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in"><FONT
color=black size=1 face=Arial><SPAN
style="FONT-FAMILY: Arial; COLOR: black; FONT-SIZE: 8pt"><A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#922000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#922000"
target=_blank>When I spoke at TED in 1996,</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#925000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#925000"
target=_blank>reporting on my studies</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#927000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#927000"
target=_blank>of the early virtual communities,</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#929000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#929000"
target=_blank>I said, "Those who make the most</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#932000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#932000"
target=_blank>of their lives on the screen</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#934000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#934000"
target=_blank>come to it in a spirit of self-reflection."</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#937000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#937000"
target=_blank>And that's what I'm calling for here, now:</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#940000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#940000"
target=_blank>reflection and, more than that, a conversation</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#943000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#943000"
target=_blank>about where our current use of technology</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#946000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#946000"
target=_blank>may be taking us,</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#948000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#948000"
target=_blank>what it might be costing us.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#950000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#950000"
target=_blank>We're smitten with technology.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#953000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#953000"
target=_blank>And we're afraid, like young lovers,</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#956000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#956000"
target=_blank>that too much talking might spoil the romance.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#959000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#959000"
target=_blank>But it's time to talk.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#961000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#961000"
target=_blank>We grew up with digital technology</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#964000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#964000"
target=_blank>and so we see it as all grown up.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#966000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#966000"
target=_blank>But it's not, it's early days.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#969000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#969000"
target=_blank>There's plenty of time</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#971000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#971000"
target=_blank>for us to reconsider how we use it,</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#973000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#973000"
target=_blank>how we build it.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#975000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#975000"
target=_blank>I'm not suggesting</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#977000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#977000"
target=_blank>that we turn away from our devices,</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#979000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#979000"
target=_blank>just that we develop a more self-aware relationship</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#982000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#982000"
target=_blank>with them, with each other</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#984000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#984000"
target=_blank>and with ourselves.</A><o:p></o:p></SPAN></FONT></P>
<P
style="MARGIN-BOTTOM: 12pt; MARGIN-LEFT: 0in; MARGIN-RIGHT: 0in; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in"><FONT
color=black size=1 face=Arial><SPAN
style="FONT-FAMILY: Arial; COLOR: black; FONT-SIZE: 8pt"><A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#987000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#987000"
target=_blank>I see some first steps.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#989000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#989000"
target=_blank>Start thinking of solitude</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#991000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#991000"
target=_blank>as a good thing.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#993000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#993000"
target=_blank>Make room for it.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#995000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#995000"
target=_blank>Find ways to demonstrate this</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#998000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#998000"
target=_blank>as a value to your children.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1000000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1000000"
target=_blank>Create sacred spaces at home --</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1002000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1002000"
target=_blank>the kitchen, the dining room --</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1004000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1004000"
target=_blank>and reclaim them for conversation.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1007000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1007000"
target=_blank>Do the same thing at work.</A><A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1009000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1009000"
target=_blank>At work, we're so busy communicating</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1011000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1011000"
target=_blank>that we often don't have time to think,</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1014000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1014000"
target=_blank>we don't have time to talk,</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1017000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1017000"
target=_blank>about the things that really matter.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1019000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1019000"
target=_blank>Change that.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1021000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1021000"
target=_blank>Most important, we all really need to listen to each other,</A>
<A title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1025000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1025000"
target=_blank>including to the boring bits.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1029000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1029000"
target=_blank>Because it's when we stumble</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1031000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1031000"
target=_blank>or hesitate or lose our words</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1034000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1034000"
target=_blank>that we reveal ourselves to each
other.</A><o:p></o:p></SPAN></FONT></P>
<P
style="MARGIN-BOTTOM: 12pt; MARGIN-LEFT: 0in; MARGIN-RIGHT: 0in; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in"><FONT
color=black size=1 face=Arial><SPAN
style="FONT-FAMILY: Arial; COLOR: black; FONT-SIZE: 8pt"><A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1038000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1038000"
target=_blank>Technology is making a bid</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1041000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1041000"
target=_blank>to redefine human connection --</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1043000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1043000"
target=_blank>how we care for each other,</A><A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1045000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1045000"
target=_blank>how we care for ourselves --</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1047000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1047000"
target=_blank>but it's also giving us the opportunity</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1049000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1049000"
target=_blank>to affirm our values</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1051000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1051000"
target=_blank>and our direction.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1053000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1053000"
target=_blank>I'm optimistic.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1055000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1055000"
target=_blank>We have everything we need to start.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1058000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1058000"
target=_blank>We have each other.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1060000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1060000"
target=_blank>And we have the greatest chance of success</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1063000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1063000"
target=_blank>if we recognize our vulnerability.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1066000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1066000"
target=_blank>That we listen</A><A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1068000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1068000"
target=_blank>when technology says</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1070000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1070000"
target=_blank>it will take something complicated</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1073000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1073000"
target=_blank>and promises something simpler.</A><o:p></o:p></SPAN></FONT></P>
<P
style="MARGIN-BOTTOM: 12pt; MARGIN-LEFT: 0in; MARGIN-RIGHT: 0in; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in"><FONT
color=black size=1 face=Arial><SPAN
style="FONT-FAMILY: Arial; COLOR: black; FONT-SIZE: 8pt"><A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1076000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1076000"
target=_blank>So in my work,</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1078000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1078000"
target=_blank>I hear that life is hard,</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1081000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1081000"
target=_blank>relationships are filled with risk.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1083000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1083000"
target=_blank>And then there's technology --</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1085000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1085000"
target=_blank>simpler, hopeful,</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1087000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1087000"
target=_blank>optimistic, ever-young.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1090000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1090000"
target=_blank>It's like calling in the cavalry.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1092000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1092000"
target=_blank>An ad campaign promises</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1094000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1094000"
target=_blank>that online and with avatars,</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1096000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1096000"
target=_blank>you can "Finally, love your friends</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1100000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1100000"
target=_blank>love your body, love your life,</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1103000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1103000"
target=_blank>online and with avatars."</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1106000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1106000"
target=_blank>We're drawn to virtual romance,</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1108000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1108000"
target=_blank>to computer games that seem like worlds,</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1111000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1111000"
target=_blank>to the idea that robots, robots,</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1115000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1115000"
target=_blank>will someday be our true companions.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1118000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1118000"
target=_blank>We spend an evening on the social network</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1121000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1121000"
target=_blank>instead of going to the pub with
friends.</A><o:p></o:p></SPAN></FONT></P>
<P
style="MARGIN-BOTTOM: 12pt; MARGIN-LEFT: 0in; MARGIN-RIGHT: 0in; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in"><FONT
color=black size=1 face=Arial><SPAN
style="FONT-FAMILY: Arial; COLOR: black; FONT-SIZE: 8pt"><A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1124000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1124000"
target=_blank>But our fantasies of substitution</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1126000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1126000"
target=_blank>have cost us.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1129000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1129000"
target=_blank>Now we all need to focus</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1132000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1132000"
target=_blank>on the many, many ways</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1134000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1134000"
target=_blank>technology can lead us back</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1136000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1136000"
target=_blank>to our real lives, our own bodies,</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1139000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1139000"
target=_blank>our own communities,</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1141000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1141000"
target=_blank>our own politics,</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1143000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1143000"
target=_blank>our own planet.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1145000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1145000"
target=_blank>They need us.</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1147000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1147000"
target=_blank>Let's talk about</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1149000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1149000"
target=_blank>how we can use digital technology,</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1152000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1152000"
target=_blank>the technology of our dreams,</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1155000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1155000"
target=_blank>to make this life</A> <A
title=http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1157000
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1157000"
target=_blank>the life we can love.</A><o:p></o:p></SPAN></FONT></P>
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