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<br><div><div>On Oct 20, 2012, at 2:59 PM, Del Morrill wrote:</div><br class="Apple-interchange-newline"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="border-collapse: separate; font-family: Optima; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; letter-spacing: normal; line-height: normal; orphans: 2; text-align: -webkit-auto; text-indent: 0px; text-transform: none; white-space: normal; widows: 2; word-spacing: 0px; -webkit-border-horizontal-spacing: 0px; -webkit-border-vertical-spacing: 0px; -webkit-text-decorations-in-effect: none; -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; font-size: medium; "><div lang="EN-US" link="blue" vlink="blue"><div class="Section1" style="page: Section1; "><div style="margin-right: 0in; margin-left: 0in; font-size: 12pt; font-family: 'Times New Roman'; margin-top: 0in; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; "><font size="2" face="Microsoft Sans Serif"><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: 'Microsoft Sans Serif'; ">I am overwhelmed by that fantastic and profound essay. I’d love to add it to the articles on my web site if someone points the way to the author.<o:p></o:p></span></font></div><div style="margin-right: 0in; margin-left: 0in; font-size: 12pt; font-family: 'Times New Roman'; margin-top: 0in; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; "><font size="2" face="Microsoft Sans Serif"><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: 'Microsoft Sans Serif'; "><o:p> </o:p></span></font></div><div style="margin-right: 0in; margin-left: 0in; font-size: 12pt; font-family: 'Times New Roman'; margin-top: 0in; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; "><b><font size="6" face="BrushScrD"><span style="font-size: 22pt; font-family: BrushScrD; font-weight: bold; ">Del<o:p></o:p></span></font></b></div><div style="margin-right: 0in; margin-left: 0in; font-size: 12pt; font-family: 'Times New Roman'; margin-top: 0in; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; "><b><i><font size="4" face="BrushScrD"><span style="font-size: 14pt; font-family: BrushScrD; font-weight: bold; font-style: italic; ">October is Breast Cancer Awareness month.<o:p></o:p></span></font></i></b></div><div><div style="margin-right: 0in; 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font-family: 'Microsoft Sans Serif'; ">And home of NEW BEGINNINGS PUBLISHING<o:p></o:p></span></font></div><div style="margin-right: 0in; margin-left: 0in; font-size: 12pt; font-family: 'Times New Roman'; margin-top: 0in; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; "><font size="2" face="Microsoft Sans Serif"><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: 'Microsoft Sans Serif'; "><u1:address w:st="on"><u1:street w:st="on">3217 North Mason Avenue</u1:street>,<span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><u1:city w:st="on">Tacoma</u1:city><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><u1:state w:st="on">Washington</u1:state><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><u1:postalcode w:st="on">98407</u1:postalcode><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><u1:country-region w:st="on">USA</u1:country-region><o:p></o:p></u1:address></span></font></div><div style="margin-right: 0in; margin-left: 0in; font-size: 12pt; font-family: 'Times New Roman'; margin-top: 0in; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; "><font size="2" face="Microsoft Sans Serif"><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: 'Microsoft Sans Serif'; ">Phone (253) 383-5757;<span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span></span></font><a href="http://www.hypnocenter.com/" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; "><font size="2" color="purple" face="Microsoft Sans Serif"><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: 'Microsoft Sans Serif'; color: purple; ">www.hypnocenter.com</span></font></a><font size="2"><span style="font-size: 11pt; "><o:p></o:p></span></font></div><div style="margin-right: 0in; margin-left: 0in; font-size: 12pt; font-family: 'Times New Roman'; margin-top: 0in; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; "><i><font size="1" face="Times New Roman"><span style="font-size: 7.5pt; font-style: italic; "><o:p> </o:p></span></font></i></div><div style="margin-right: 0in; margin-left: 0in; font-size: 12pt; font-family: 'Times New Roman'; margin-top: 0in; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; "><b><i><font size="3" face="Times New Roman"><span style="font-size: 12pt; font-weight: bold; font-style: italic; ">To be fully alive, fully human, and completely awake is to be continually thrown out of the nest.</span></font></i></b><i><font size="4"><span style="font-size: 14pt; font-style: italic; "><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span></span></font></i><i><font size="2"><span style="font-size: 10pt; font-style: italic; ">(Pema Chodron)<o:p></o:p></span></font></i></div></div><div style="margin-right: 0in; margin-left: 0in; font-size: 12pt; font-family: 'Times New Roman'; margin-top: 0in; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; "><font size="2" face="Microsoft Sans Serif"><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: 'Microsoft Sans Serif'; "><o:p> </o:p></span></font></div><div><div class="MsoNormal" align="center" style="margin-top: 0in; margin-right: 0in; margin-left: 0in; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; font-size: 12pt; font-family: 'Times New Roman'; text-align: center; "><font size="3" face="Times New Roman"><span style="font-size: 12pt; "><hr size="3" width="100%" align="center" tabindex="-1"></span></font></div><div style="margin-right: 0in; margin-left: 0in; font-size: 12pt; font-family: 'Times New Roman'; margin-top: 0in; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; "><b><font size="2" face="Tahoma"><span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: Tahoma; font-weight: bold; ">From:</span></font></b><font size="2" face="Tahoma"><span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: Tahoma; "><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="mailto:oe-bounces@lists.wedgeblade.net" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">oe-bounces@lists.wedgeblade.net</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span>[mailto:oe-bounces@lists.wedgeblade.net]<span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><b><span style="font-weight: bold; ">On Behalf Of<span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span></span></b>Shelley Hahn<br><b><span style="font-weight: bold; ">Sent:</span></b><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span>Saturday, October 20, 2012 7:39 AM<br><b><span style="font-weight: bold; ">To:</span></b><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span>Order Ecumenical Community<br><b><span style="font-weight: bold; ">Subject:</span></b><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span>Re: [Oe List ...] some thoughts about the unintended side effects of new technology</span></font><o:p></o:p></div></div><div style="margin-right: 0in; margin-left: 0in; font-size: 12pt; font-family: 'Times New Roman'; margin-top: 0in; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; "><font size="3" face="Times New Roman"><span style="font-size: 12pt; "><o:p> </o:p></span></font></div><div><div style="margin-right: 0in; margin-left: 0in; font-size: 12pt; font-family: 'Times New Roman'; margin-top: 0in; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; "><font size="3" face="Times New Roman"><span style="font-size: 12pt; ">Thanks for sharing this, Paul. Very profound and important.<o:p></o:p></span></font></div></div><div><div style="margin-right: 0in; margin-left: 0in; font-size: 12pt; font-family: 'Times New Roman'; margin-top: 0in; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; "><font size="3" face="Times New Roman"><span style="font-size: 12pt; "> <o:p></o:p></span></font></div></div><div><p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-right: 0in; margin-left: 0in; font-size: 12pt; font-family: 'Times New Roman'; margin-top: 0in; margin-bottom: 12pt; "><font size="3" face="Times New Roman"><span style="font-size: 12pt; ">Shelley<o:p></o:p></span></font></p></div><div><div style="margin-right: 0in; margin-left: 0in; font-size: 12pt; font-family: 'Times New Roman'; margin-top: 0in; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; "><font size="3" face="Times New Roman"><span style="font-size: 12pt; ">On Thu, Oct 18, 2012 at 4:40 AM, <<a href="mailto:PSchrijnen@aol.com" target="_blank" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">PSchrijnen@aol.com</a>> wrote:<o:p></o:p></span></font></div><div><div><div><div style="margin-right: 0in; margin-left: 0in; font-size: 12pt; font-family: 'Times New Roman'; margin-top: 0in; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; "><font size="1" color="black" face="Arial"><span style="font-size: 8.5pt; font-family: Arial; color: black; ">further to our little conversation about the impact of different technological platforms.......<o:p></o:p></span></font></div></div><div><div style="margin-right: 0in; margin-left: 0in; font-size: 12pt; font-family: 'Times New Roman'; margin-top: 0in; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; "><font size="1" color="black" face="Arial"><span style="font-size: 8.5pt; font-family: Arial; color: black; "> <o:p></o:p></span></font></div></div><div><div style="margin-right: 0in; margin-left: 0in; font-size: 12pt; font-family: 'Times New Roman'; margin-top: 0in; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; "><font size="1" color="black" face="Arial"><span style="font-size: 8.5pt; font-family: Arial; color: black; ">This TED talk by Sherry Turkle covers the challenge of what the digital revolution<o:p></o:p></span></font></div></div><div><div style="margin-right: 0in; margin-left: 0in; font-size: 12pt; font-family: 'Times New Roman'; margin-top: 0in; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; "><font size="1" color="black" face="Arial"><span style="font-size: 8.5pt; font-family: Arial; color: black; ">is doing to our communication, connection and capacity to cause and use reflection<o:p></o:p></span></font></div></div><div><div style="margin-right: 0in; margin-left: 0in; font-size: 12pt; font-family: 'Times New Roman'; margin-top: 0in; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; "><font size="1" color="black" face="Arial"><span style="font-size: 8.5pt; font-family: Arial; color: black; "> <o:p></o:p></span></font></div></div><div><div style="margin-right: 0in; margin-left: 0in; font-size: 12pt; font-family: 'Times New Roman'; margin-top: 0in; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; "><font size="1" color="black" face="Arial"><span style="font-size: 8.5pt; font-family: Arial; color: black; ">This is well worth the 19 minutes.<o:p></o:p></span></font></div></div><div><div style="margin-right: 0in; margin-left: 0in; font-size: 12pt; font-family: 'Times New Roman'; margin-top: 0in; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; "><font size="1" color="black" face="Arial"><span style="font-size: 8.5pt; font-family: Arial; color: black; "> <o:p></o:p></span></font></div></div><div><div style="margin-right: 0in; margin-left: 0in; font-size: 12pt; font-family: 'Times New Roman'; margin-top: 0in; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; "><font size="1" color="black" face="Arial"><span style="font-size: 8.5pt; font-family: Arial; color: black; ">Paul<o:p></o:p></span></font></div></div><div><div style="margin-right: 0in; margin-left: 0in; font-size: 12pt; font-family: 'Times New Roman'; margin-top: 0in; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; "><font size="1" color="black" face="Arial"><span style="font-size: 8.5pt; font-family: Arial; color: black; "><o:p> </o:p></span></font></div></div><div><div style="margin-right: 0in; margin-left: 0in; font-size: 12pt; font-family: 'Times New Roman'; margin-top: 0in; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; "><font size="1" color="black" face="Arial"><span style="font-size: 8.5pt; font-family: Arial; color: black; "><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html" target="_blank" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html</a><o:p></o:p></span></font></div></div><div><div style="margin-right: 0in; margin-left: 0in; font-size: 12pt; font-family: 'Times New Roman'; margin-top: 0in; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; "><font size="1" color="black" face="Arial"><span style="font-size: 8.5pt; font-family: Arial; color: black; "><o:p> </o:p></span></font></div></div><div><p style="margin-right: 0in; margin-left: 0in; font-size: 12pt; font-family: 'Times New Roman'; margin-bottom: 12pt; "><font size="2" color="black" face="Arial"><span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: Arial; color: black; ">And here is a transcript:<o:p></o:p></span></font></p><p style="margin-right: 0in; margin-left: 0in; font-size: 12pt; font-family: 'Times New Roman'; margin-bottom: 12pt; "><font size="1" color="black" face="Arial"><span style="font-size: 8pt; font-family: Arial; color: black; "><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#0" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#0" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">Just a moment ago,</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#2000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#2000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">my daughter Rebecca texted me for good luck.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#6000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#6000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">Her text said,</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#8000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#8000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">"Mom, you will rock."</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#11000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#11000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">I love this.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#13000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#13000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">Getting that text</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#15000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#15000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">was like getting a hug.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#17000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#17000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">And so there you have it.</a><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#20000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#20000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">I embody</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#22000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#22000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">the central paradox.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#24000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#24000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">I'm a woman</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#26000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#26000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">who loves getting texts</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#28000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#28000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">who's going to tell you</a><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#30000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#30000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">that too many of them can be a problem.</a><o:p></o:p></span></font></p><p style="margin-right: 0in; margin-left: 0in; font-size: 12pt; font-family: 'Times New Roman'; margin-bottom: 12pt; "><font size="1" color="black" face="Arial"><span style="font-size: 8pt; font-family: Arial; color: black; "><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#33000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#33000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">Actually that reminder of my daughter</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#36000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#36000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">brings me to the beginning of my story.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#39000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#39000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">1996, when I gave my first TEDTalk,</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#43000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#43000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">Rebecca was five years old</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#45000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#45000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">and she was sitting right there</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#47000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#47000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">in the front row.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#49000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#49000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">I had just written a book</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#51000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#51000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">that celebrated our life on the internet</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#53000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#53000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">and I was about to be on the cover</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#56000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#56000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">of Wired magazine.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#58000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#58000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">In those heady days,</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#60000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#60000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">we were experimenting</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#62000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#62000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">with chat rooms and online virtual communities.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#65000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#65000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">We were exploring different aspects of ourselves.</a><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#69000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#69000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">And then we unplugged.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#71000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#71000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">I was excited.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#73000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#73000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">And, as a psychologist, what excited me most</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#76000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#76000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">was the idea</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#78000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#78000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">that we would use what we learned in the virtual world</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#81000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#81000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">about ourselves, about our identity,</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#84000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#84000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">to live better lives in the real world.</a><o:p></o:p></span></font></p><p style="margin-right: 0in; margin-left: 0in; font-size: 12pt; font-family: 'Times New Roman'; margin-bottom: 12pt; "><font size="1" color="black" face="Arial"><span style="font-size: 8pt; font-family: Arial; color: black; "><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#87000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#87000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">Now fast-forward to 2012.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#90000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#90000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">I'm back here on the TED stage again.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#93000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#93000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">My daughter's 20. She's a college student.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#96000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#96000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">She sleeps with her cellphone,</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#100000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#100000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">so do I.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#102000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#102000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">And I've just written a new book,</a><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#105000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#105000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">but this time it's not one</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#108000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#108000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">that will get me on the cover</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#110000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#110000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">of Wired magazine.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#112000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#112000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">So what happened?</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#115000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#115000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">I'm still excited by technology,</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#118000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#118000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">but I believe,</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#120000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#120000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">and I'm here to make the case,</a><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#122000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#122000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">that we're letting it take us places</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#124000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#124000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">that we don't want to go.</a><o:p></o:p></span></font></p><p style="margin-right: 0in; margin-left: 0in; font-size: 12pt; font-family: 'Times New Roman'; margin-bottom: 12pt; "><font size="1" color="black" face="Arial"><span style="font-size: 8pt; font-family: Arial; color: black; "><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#126000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#126000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">Over the past 15 years,</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#128000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#128000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">I've studied technologies of mobile communication</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#131000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#131000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">and I've interviewed hundreds and hundreds of people,</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#134000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#134000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">young and old,</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#136000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#136000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">about their plugged in lives.</a><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#138000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#138000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">And what I've found</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#140000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#140000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">is that our little devices,</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#142000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#142000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">those little devices in our pockets,</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#145000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#145000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">are so psychologically powerful</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#147000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#147000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">that they don't only change what we do,</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#151000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#151000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">they change who we are.</a><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#154000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#154000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">Some of the things we do now with our devices</a><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#156000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#156000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">are things that, only a few years ago,</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#159000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#159000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">we would have found odd</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#161000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#161000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">or disturbing,</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#163000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#163000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">but they've quickly come to seem familiar,</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#166000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#166000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">just how we do things.</a><o:p></o:p></span></font></p><p style="margin-right: 0in; margin-left: 0in; font-size: 12pt; font-family: 'Times New Roman'; margin-bottom: 12pt; "><font size="1" color="black" face="Arial"><span style="font-size: 8pt; font-family: Arial; color: black; "><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#168000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#168000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">So just to take some quick examples:</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#171000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#171000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">People text or do email</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#173000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#173000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">during corporate board meetings.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#176000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#176000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">They text and shop and go on Facebook</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#179000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#179000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">during classes, during presentations,</a><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#182000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#182000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">actually during all meetings.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#184000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#184000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">People talk to me about the important new skill</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#187000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#187000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">of making eye contact</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#189000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#189000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">while you're texting.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#191000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#191000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">(Laughter)</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#193000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#193000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">People explain to me</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#195000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#195000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">that it's hard, but that it can be done.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#198000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#198000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">Parents text and do email</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#200000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#200000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">at breakfast and at dinner</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#202000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#202000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">while their children complain</a><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#205000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#205000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">about not having their parents' full attention.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#207000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#207000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">But then these same children</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#209000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#209000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">deny each other their full attention.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#212000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#212000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">This is a recent shot</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#214000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#214000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">of my daughter and her friends</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#217000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#217000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">being together</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#219000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#219000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">while not being together.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#222000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#222000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">And we even text at funerals.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#224000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#224000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">I study this.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#226000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#226000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">We remove ourselves</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#228000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#228000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">from our grief or from our revery</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#230000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#230000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">and we go into our phones.</a><o:p></o:p></span></font></p><p style="margin-right: 0in; margin-left: 0in; font-size: 12pt; font-family: 'Times New Roman'; margin-bottom: 12pt; "><font size="1" color="black" face="Arial"><span style="font-size: 8pt; font-family: Arial; color: black; "><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#233000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#233000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">Why does this matter?</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#235000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#235000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">It matters to me</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#237000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#237000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">because I think we're setting ourselves up for trouble --</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#240000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#240000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">trouble certainly</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#242000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#242000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">in how we relate to each other,</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#244000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#244000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">but also trouble</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#246000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#246000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">in how we relate to ourselves</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#249000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#249000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">and our capacity for self-reflection.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#252000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#252000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">We're getting used to a new way</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#254000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#254000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">of being alone together.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#257000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#257000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">People want to be with each other,</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#259000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#259000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">but also elsewhere --</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#261000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#261000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">connected to all the different places they want to be.</a><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#264000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#264000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">People want to customize their lives.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#267000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#267000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">They want to go in and out of all the places they are</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#270000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#270000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">because the thing that matters most to them</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#272000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#272000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">is control over where they put their attention.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#276000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#276000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">So you want to go to that board meeting,</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#279000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#279000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">but you only want to pay attention</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#281000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#281000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">to the bits that interest you.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#283000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#283000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">And some people think that's a good thing.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#286000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#286000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">But you can end up</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#288000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#288000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">hiding from each other,</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#290000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#290000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">even as we're all constantly connected to each other.</a><o:p></o:p></span></font></p><p style="margin-right: 0in; margin-left: 0in; font-size: 12pt; font-family: 'Times New Roman'; margin-bottom: 12pt; "><font size="1" color="black" face="Arial"><span style="font-size: 8pt; font-family: Arial; color: black; "><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#293000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#293000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">A 50-year-old business man</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#295000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#295000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">lamented to me</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#297000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#297000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">that he feels he doesn't have colleagues anymore at work.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#300000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#300000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">When he goes to work, he doesn't stop by to talk to anybody,</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#303000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#303000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">he doesn't call.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#305000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#305000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">And he says he doesn't want to interrupt his colleagues</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#308000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#308000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">because, he says, "They're too busy on their email."</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#311000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#311000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">But then he stops himself</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#313000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#313000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">and he says, "You know, I'm not telling you the truth.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#315000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#315000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">I'm the one who doesn't want to be interrupted.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#318000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#318000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">I think I should want to,</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#320000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#320000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">but actually I'd rather just do things on my Blackberry."</a><o:p></o:p></span></font></p><p style="margin-right: 0in; margin-left: 0in; font-size: 12pt; font-family: 'Times New Roman'; margin-bottom: 12pt; "><font size="1" color="black" face="Arial"><span style="font-size: 8pt; font-family: Arial; color: black; "><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#324000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#324000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">Across the generations,</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#326000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#326000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">I see that people can't get enough of each other,</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#330000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#330000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">if and only if</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#332000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#332000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">they can have each other at a distance,</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#335000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#335000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">in amounts they can control.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#337000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#337000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">I call it the Goldilocks effect:</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#340000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#340000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">not too close, not too far,</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#343000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#343000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">just right.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#345000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#345000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">But what might feel just right</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#347000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#347000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">for that middle-aged executive</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#349000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#349000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">can be a problem for an adolescent</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#351000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#351000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">who needs to develop face-to-face relationships.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#355000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#355000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">An 18-year-old boy</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#357000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#357000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">who uses texting for almost everything</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#360000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#360000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">says to me wistfully,</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#362000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#362000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">"Someday, someday,</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#365000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#365000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">but certainly not now,</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#367000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#367000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">I'd like to learn how to have a conversation."</a><o:p></o:p></span></font></p><p style="margin-right: 0in; margin-left: 0in; font-size: 12pt; font-family: 'Times New Roman'; margin-bottom: 12pt; "><font size="1" color="black" face="Arial"><span style="font-size: 8pt; font-family: Arial; color: black; "><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#371000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#371000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">When I ask people</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#373000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#373000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">"What's wrong with having a conversation?"</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#376000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#376000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">People say, "I'll tell you what's wrong with having a conversation.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#380000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#380000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">It takes place in real time</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#383000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#383000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">and you can't control what you're going to say."</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#387000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#387000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">So that's the bottom line.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#389000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#389000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">Texting, email, posting,</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#392000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#392000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">all of these things</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#394000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#394000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">let us present the self as we want to be.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#397000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#397000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">We get to edit,</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#399000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#399000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">and that means we get to delete,</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#402000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#402000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">and that means we get to retouch,</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#405000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#405000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">the face, the voice,</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#407000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#407000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">the flesh, the body --</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#409000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#409000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">not too little, not too much,</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#412000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#412000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">just right.</a><o:p></o:p></span></font></p><p style="margin-right: 0in; margin-left: 0in; font-size: 12pt; font-family: 'Times New Roman'; margin-bottom: 12pt; "><font size="1" color="black" face="Arial"><span style="font-size: 8pt; font-family: Arial; color: black; "><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#414000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#414000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">Human relationships</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#416000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#416000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">are rich and they're messy</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#418000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#418000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">and they're demanding.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#420000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#420000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">And we clean them up with technology.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#423000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#423000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">And when we do,</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#425000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#425000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">one of the things that can happen</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#427000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#427000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">is that we sacrifice conversation</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#429000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#429000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">for mere connection.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#431000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#431000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">We short-change ourselves.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#434000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#434000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">And over time,</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#436000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#436000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">we seem to forget this,</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#438000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#438000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">or we seem to stop caring.</a><o:p></o:p></span></font></p><p style="margin-right: 0in; margin-left: 0in; font-size: 12pt; font-family: 'Times New Roman'; margin-bottom: 12pt; "><font size="1" color="black" face="Arial"><span style="font-size: 8pt; font-family: Arial; color: black; "><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#441000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#441000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">I was caught off guard</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#445000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#445000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">when Stephen Colbert</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#447000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#447000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">asked me a profound question,</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#451000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#451000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">a profound question.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#454000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#454000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">He said, "Don't all those little tweets,</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#460000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#460000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">don't all those little sips</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#463000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#463000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">of online communication,</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#466000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#466000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">add up to one big gulp</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#469000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#469000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">of real conversation?"</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#473000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#473000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">My answer was no,</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#475000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#475000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">they don't add up.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#477000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#477000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">Connecting in sips may work</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#481000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#481000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">for gathering discreet bits of information,</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#485000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#485000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">they may work for saying, "I'm thinking about you,"</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#489000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#489000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">or even for saying, "I love you," --</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#491000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#491000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">I mean, look at how I felt</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#493000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#493000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">when I got that text from my daughter --</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#496000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#496000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">but they don't really work</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#498000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#498000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">for learning about each other,</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#500000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#500000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">for really coming to know and understand each other.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#504000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#504000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">And we use conversations with each other</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#508000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#508000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">to learn how to have conversations</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#510000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#510000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">with ourselves.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#512000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#512000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">So a flight from conversation</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#514000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#514000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">can really matter</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#516000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#516000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">because it can compromise</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#518000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#518000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">our capacity for self-reflection.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#520000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#520000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">For kids growing up,</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#522000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#522000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">that skill is the bedrock of development.</a><o:p></o:p></span></font></p><p style="margin-right: 0in; margin-left: 0in; font-size: 12pt; font-family: 'Times New Roman'; margin-bottom: 12pt; "><font size="1" color="black" face="Arial"><span style="font-size: 8pt; font-family: Arial; color: black; "><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#526000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#526000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">Over and over I hear,</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#528000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#528000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">"I would rather text than talk."</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#531000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#531000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">And what I'm seeing</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#533000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#533000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">is that people get so used to being short-changed</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#535000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#535000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">out of real conversation,</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#537000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#537000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">so used to getting by with less,</a><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#540000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#540000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">that they've become almost willing</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#542000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#542000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">to dispense with people altogether.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#544000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#544000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">So for example,</a><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#546000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#546000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">many people share with me this wish,</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#548000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#548000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">that some day a more advanced version of Siri,</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#551000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#551000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">the digital assistant on Apple's iPhone,</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#554000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#554000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">will be more like a best friend,</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#556000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#556000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">someone who will listen</a><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#558000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#558000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">when others won't.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#560000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#560000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">I believe this wish</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#562000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#562000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">reflects a painful truth</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#564000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#564000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">that I've learned in the past 15 years.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#567000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#567000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">That feeling that no one is listening to me</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#571000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#571000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">is very important</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#573000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#573000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">in our relationships with technology.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#575000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#575000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">That's why it's so appealing</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#577000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#577000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">to have a Facebook page</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#579000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#579000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">or a Twitter feed --</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#581000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#581000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">so many automatic listeners.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#584000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#584000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">And the feeling that no one is listening to me</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#587000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#587000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">make us want to spend time</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#589000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#589000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">with machines that seem to care about us.</a><o:p></o:p></span></font></p><p style="margin-right: 0in; margin-left: 0in; font-size: 12pt; font-family: 'Times New Roman'; margin-bottom: 12pt; "><font size="1" color="black" face="Arial"><span style="font-size: 8pt; font-family: Arial; color: black; "><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#592000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#592000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">We're developing robots,</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#594000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#594000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">they call them sociable robots,</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#596000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#596000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">that are specifically designed to be companions --</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#599000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#599000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">to the elderly,</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#601000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#601000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">to our children,</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#603000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#603000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">to us.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#605000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#605000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">Have we so lost confidence</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#608000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#608000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">that we will be there for each other?</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#612000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#612000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">During my research</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#614000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#614000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">I worked in nursing homes,</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#616000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#616000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">and I brought in these sociable robots</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#619000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#619000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">that were designed to give the elderly</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#621000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#621000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">the feeling that they were understood.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#624000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#624000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">And one day I came in</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#626000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#626000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">and a woman who had lost a child</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#628000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#628000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">was talking to a robot</a><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#630000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#630000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">in the shape of a baby seal.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#633000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#633000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">It seemed to be looking in her eyes.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#635000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#635000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">It seemed to be following the conversation.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#638000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#638000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">It comforted her.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#641000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#641000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">And many people found this amazing.</a><o:p></o:p></span></font></p><p style="margin-right: 0in; margin-left: 0in; font-size: 12pt; font-family: 'Times New Roman'; margin-bottom: 12pt; "><font size="1" color="black" face="Arial"><span style="font-size: 8pt; font-family: Arial; color: black; "><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#645000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#645000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">But that woman was trying to make sense of her life</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#650000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#650000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">with a machine that had no experience</a><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#653000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#653000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">of the arc of a human life.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#656000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#656000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">That robot put on a great show.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#658000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#658000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">And we're vulnerable.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#660000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#660000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">People experience pretend empathy</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#663000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#663000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">as though it were the real thing.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#666000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#666000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">So during that moment</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#670000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#670000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">when that woman</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#672000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#672000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">was experiencing that pretend empathy,</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#675000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#675000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">I was thinking, "That robot can't empathize.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#678000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#678000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">It doesn't face death.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#680000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#680000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">It doesn't know life."</a><o:p></o:p></span></font></p><p style="margin-right: 0in; margin-left: 0in; font-size: 12pt; font-family: 'Times New Roman'; margin-bottom: 12pt; "><font size="1" color="black" face="Arial"><span style="font-size: 8pt; font-family: Arial; color: black; "><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#682000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#682000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">And as that woman took comfort</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#684000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#684000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">in her robot companion,</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#686000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#686000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">I didn't find it amazing;</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#688000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#688000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">I found it one of the most wrenching, complicated moments</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#692000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#692000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">in my 15 years of work.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#696000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#696000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">But when I stepped back,</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#698000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#698000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">I felt myself</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#700000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#700000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">at the cold, hard center</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#703000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#703000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">of a perfect storm.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#705000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#705000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">We expect more from technology</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#708000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#708000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">and less from each other.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#711000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#711000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">And I ask myself,</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#713000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#713000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">"Why have things come to this?"</a><o:p></o:p></span></font></p><p style="margin-right: 0in; margin-left: 0in; font-size: 12pt; font-family: 'Times New Roman'; margin-bottom: 12pt; "><font size="1" color="black" face="Arial"><span style="font-size: 8pt; font-family: Arial; color: black; "><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#716000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#716000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">And I believe it's because</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#718000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#718000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">technology appeals to us most</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#721000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#721000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">where we are most vulnerable.</a><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#723000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#723000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">And we are vulnerable.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#725000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#725000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">We're lonely,</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#727000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#727000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">but we're afraid of intimacy.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#729000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#729000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">And so from social networks to sociable robots,</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#732000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#732000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">we're designing technologies</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#734000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#734000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">that will give us the illusion of companionship</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#737000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#737000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">without the demands of friendship.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#739000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#739000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">We turn to technology to help us feel connected</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#742000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#742000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">in ways we can comfortably control.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#745000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#745000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">But we're not so comfortable.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#747000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#747000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">We are not so much in control.</a><o:p></o:p></span></font></p><p style="margin-right: 0in; margin-left: 0in; font-size: 12pt; font-family: 'Times New Roman'; margin-bottom: 12pt; "><font size="1" color="black" face="Arial"><span style="font-size: 8pt; font-family: Arial; color: black; "><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#750000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#750000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">These days, those phones in our pockets</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#753000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#753000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">are changing our minds and hearts</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#755000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#755000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">because they offer us</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#757000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#757000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">three gratifying fantasies.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#759000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#759000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">One, that we can put our attention</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#761000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#761000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">wherever we want it to be;</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#763000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#763000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">two, that we will always be heard;</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#766000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#766000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">and three, that we will never have to be alone.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#769000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#769000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">And that third idea,</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#771000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#771000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">that we will never have to be alone,</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#774000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#774000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">is central to changing our psyches.</a><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#776000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#776000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">Because the moment that people are alone,</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#779000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#779000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">even for a few seconds,</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#781000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#781000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">they become anxious, they panic, they fidget,</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#784000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#784000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">they reach for a device.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#786000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#786000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">Just think of people at a checkout line</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#788000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#788000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">or at a red light.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#790000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#790000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">Being alone feels like a problem that needs to be solved.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#794000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#794000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">And so people try to solve it by connecting.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#797000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#797000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">But here, connection</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#799000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#799000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">is more like a symptom than a cure.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#802000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#802000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">It expresses, but it doesn't solve,</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#805000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#805000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">an underlying problem.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#807000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#807000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">But more than a symptom,</a><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#809000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#809000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">constant connection is changing</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#811000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#811000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">the way people think of themselves.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#813000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#813000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">It's shaping a new way of being.</a><o:p></o:p></span></font></p><p style="margin-right: 0in; margin-left: 0in; font-size: 12pt; font-family: 'Times New Roman'; margin-bottom: 12pt; "><font size="1" color="black" face="Arial"><span style="font-size: 8pt; font-family: Arial; color: black; "><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#816000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#816000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">The best way to describe it is,</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#818000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#818000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">I share therefore I am.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#821000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#821000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">We use technology to define ourselves</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#824000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#824000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">by sharing our thoughts and feelings</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#826000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#826000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">even as we're having them.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#828000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#828000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">So before it was:</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#830000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#830000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">I have a feeling,</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#832000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#832000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">I want to make a call.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#834000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#834000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">Now it's: I want to have a feeling,</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#837000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#837000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">I need to send a text.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#839000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#839000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">The problem with this new regime</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#842000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#842000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">of "I share therefore I am"</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#844000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#844000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">is that, if we don't have connection,</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#846000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#846000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">we don't feel like ourselves.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#848000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#848000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">We almost don't feel ourselves.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#850000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#850000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">So what do we do? We connect more and more.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#853000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#853000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">But in the process,</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#855000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#855000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">we set ourselves up to be isolated.</a><o:p></o:p></span></font></p><p style="margin-right: 0in; margin-left: 0in; font-size: 12pt; font-family: 'Times New Roman'; margin-bottom: 12pt; "><font size="1" color="black" face="Arial"><span style="font-size: 8pt; font-family: Arial; color: black; "><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#858000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#858000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">How do you get from connection to isolation?</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#862000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#862000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">You end up isolated</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#864000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#864000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">if you don't cultivate the capacity for solitude,</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#866000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#866000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">the ability to be separate,</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#869000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#869000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">to gather yourself.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#871000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#871000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">Solitude is where you find yourself</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#874000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#874000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">so that you can reach out to other people</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#876000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#876000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">and form real attachments.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#879000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#879000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">When we don't have the capacity for solitude,</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#882000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#882000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">we turn to other people in order to feel less anxious</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#885000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#885000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">or in order to feel alive.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#887000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#887000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">When this happens,</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#889000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#889000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">we're not able to appreciate who they are.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#892000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#892000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">It's as though we're using them</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#894000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#894000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">as spare parts</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#896000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#896000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">to support our fragile sense of self.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#899000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#899000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">We slip into thinking that always being connected</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#902000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#902000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">is going to make us feel less alone.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#906000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#906000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">But we're at risk,</a><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#908000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#908000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">because actually it's the opposite that's true.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#911000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#911000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">If we're not able to be alone,</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#913000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#913000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">we're going to be more lonely.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#915000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#915000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">And if we don't teach our children to be alone,</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#918000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#918000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">they're only going to know</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#920000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#920000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">how to be lonely.</a><o:p></o:p></span></font></p><p style="margin-right: 0in; margin-left: 0in; font-size: 12pt; font-family: 'Times New Roman'; margin-bottom: 12pt; "><font size="1" color="black" face="Arial"><span style="font-size: 8pt; font-family: Arial; color: black; "><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#922000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#922000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">When I spoke at TED in 1996,</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#925000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#925000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">reporting on my studies</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#927000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#927000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">of the early virtual communities,</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#929000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#929000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">I said, "Those who make the most</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#932000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#932000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">of their lives on the screen</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#934000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#934000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">come to it in a spirit of self-reflection."</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#937000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#937000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">And that's what I'm calling for here, now:</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#940000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#940000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">reflection and, more than that, a conversation</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#943000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#943000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">about where our current use of technology</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#946000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#946000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">may be taking us,</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#948000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#948000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">what it might be costing us.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#950000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#950000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">We're smitten with technology.</a><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#953000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#953000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">And we're afraid, like young lovers,</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#956000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#956000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">that too much talking might spoil the romance.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#959000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#959000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">But it's time to talk.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#961000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#961000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">We grew up with digital technology</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#964000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#964000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">and so we see it as all grown up.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#966000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#966000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">But it's not, it's early days.</a><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#969000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#969000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">There's plenty of time</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#971000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#971000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">for us to reconsider how we use it,</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#973000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#973000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">how we build it.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#975000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#975000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">I'm not suggesting</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#977000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#977000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">that we turn away from our devices,</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#979000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#979000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">just that we develop a more self-aware relationship</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#982000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#982000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">with them, with each other</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#984000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#984000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">and with ourselves.</a><o:p></o:p></span></font></p><p style="margin-right: 0in; margin-left: 0in; font-size: 12pt; font-family: 'Times New Roman'; margin-bottom: 12pt; "><font size="1" color="black" face="Arial"><span style="font-size: 8pt; font-family: Arial; color: black; "><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#987000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#987000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">I see some first steps.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#989000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#989000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">Start thinking of solitude</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#991000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#991000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">as a good thing.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#993000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#993000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">Make room for it.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#995000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#995000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">Find ways to demonstrate this</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#998000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#998000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">as a value to your children.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1000000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1000000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">Create sacred spaces at home --</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1002000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1002000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">the kitchen, the dining room --</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1004000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1004000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">and reclaim them for conversation.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1007000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1007000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">Do the same thing at work.</a><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1009000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1009000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">At work, we're so busy communicating</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1011000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1011000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">that we often don't have time to think,</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1014000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1014000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">we don't have time to talk,</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1017000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1017000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">about the things that really matter.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1019000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1019000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">Change that.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1021000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1021000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">Most important, we all really need to listen to each other,</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1025000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1025000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">including to the boring bits.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1029000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1029000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">Because it's when we stumble</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1031000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1031000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">or hesitate or lose our words</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1034000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1034000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">that we reveal ourselves to each other.</a><o:p></o:p></span></font></p><p style="margin-right: 0in; margin-left: 0in; font-size: 12pt; font-family: 'Times New Roman'; margin-bottom: 12pt; "><font size="1" color="black" face="Arial"><span style="font-size: 8pt; font-family: Arial; color: black; "><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1038000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1038000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">Technology is making a bid</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1041000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1041000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">to redefine human connection --</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1043000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1043000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">how we care for each other,</a><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1045000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1045000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">how we care for ourselves --</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1047000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1047000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">but it's also giving us the opportunity</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1049000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1049000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">to affirm our values</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1051000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1051000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">and our direction.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1053000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1053000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">I'm optimistic.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1055000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1055000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">We have everything we need to start.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1058000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1058000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">We have each other.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1060000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1060000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">And we have the greatest chance of success</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1063000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1063000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">if we recognize our vulnerability.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1066000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1066000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">That we listen</a><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1068000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1068000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">when technology says</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1070000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1070000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">it will take something complicated</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1073000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1073000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">and promises something simpler.</a><o:p></o:p></span></font></p><p style="margin-right: 0in; margin-left: 0in; font-size: 12pt; font-family: 'Times New Roman'; margin-bottom: 12pt; "><font size="1" color="black" face="Arial"><span style="font-size: 8pt; font-family: Arial; color: black; "><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1076000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1076000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">So in my work,</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1078000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1078000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">I hear that life is hard,</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1081000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1081000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">relationships are filled with risk.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1083000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1083000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">And then there's technology --</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1085000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1085000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">simpler, hopeful,</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1087000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1087000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">optimistic, ever-young.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1090000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1090000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">It's like calling in the cavalry.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1092000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1092000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">An ad campaign promises</a><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1094000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1094000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">that online and with avatars,</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1096000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1096000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">you can "Finally, love your friends</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1100000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1100000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">love your body, love your life,</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1103000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1103000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">online and with avatars."</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1106000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1106000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">We're drawn to virtual romance,</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1108000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1108000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">to computer games that seem like worlds,</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1111000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1111000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">to the idea that robots, robots,</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1115000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1115000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">will someday be our true companions.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1118000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1118000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">We spend an evening on the social network</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1121000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1121000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">instead of going to the pub with friends.</a><o:p></o:p></span></font></p><p style="margin-right: 0in; margin-left: 0in; font-size: 12pt; font-family: 'Times New Roman'; margin-bottom: 12pt; "><font size="1" color="black" face="Arial"><span style="font-size: 8pt; font-family: Arial; color: black; "><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1124000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1124000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">But our fantasies of substitution</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1126000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1126000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">have cost us.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1129000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1129000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">Now we all need to focus</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1132000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1132000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">on the many, many ways</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1134000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1134000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">technology can lead us back</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1136000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1136000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">to our real lives, our own bodies,</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1139000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1139000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">our own communities,</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1141000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1141000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">our own politics,</a><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1143000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1143000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">our own planet.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1145000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1145000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">They need us.</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1147000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1147000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">Let's talk about</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1149000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1149000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">how we can use digital technology,</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1152000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1152000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">the technology of our dreams,</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1155000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1155000" style="color: blue; text-decoration: underline; ">to make this life</a><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1157000" target="_blank" title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1157000" style="color: blue; 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