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oe-bounces@lists.wedgeblade.net [mailto:oe-bounces@lists.wedgeblade.net] <b><span
style='font-weight:bold'>On Behalf Of </span></b>Shelley Hahn<br>
<b><span style='font-weight:bold'>Sent:</span></b> Saturday, October 20, 2012
7:39 AM<br>
<b><span style='font-weight:bold'>To:</span></b> Order Ecumenical Community<br>
<b><span style='font-weight:bold'>Subject:</span></b> Re: [Oe List ...] some
thoughts about the unintended side effects of new technology</span></font><o:p></o:p></p>
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<p class=MsoNormal><font size=3 face="Times New Roman"><span style='font-size:
12.0pt'>Thanks for sharing this, Paul. Very profound and important.<o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
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<p class=MsoNormal style='margin-bottom:12.0pt'><font size=3
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<p class=MsoNormal><font size=3 face="Times New Roman"><span style='font-size:
12.0pt'>On Thu, Oct 18, 2012 at 4:40 AM, <<a href="mailto:PSchrijnen@aol.com"
target="_blank">PSchrijnen@aol.com</a>> wrote:<o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
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<p class=MsoNormal><font size=1 color=black face=Arial><span style='font-size:
8.5pt;font-family:Arial;color:black'>further to our little conversation about
the impact of different technological platforms.......<o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
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<p class=MsoNormal><font size=1 color=black face=Arial><span style='font-size:
8.5pt;font-family:Arial;color:black'>This TED talk by Sherry Turkle covers the
challenge of what the digital revolution <o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
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<p class=MsoNormal><font size=1 color=black face=Arial><span style='font-size:
8.5pt;font-family:Arial;color:black'>is doing to our communication, connection
and capacity to cause and use reflection<o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
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<p class=MsoNormal><font size=1 color=black face=Arial><span style='font-size:
8.5pt;font-family:Arial;color:black'> <o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
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<p class=MsoNormal><font size=1 color=black face=Arial><span style='font-size:
8.5pt;font-family:Arial;color:black'>This is well worth the 19 minutes.<o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
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8.5pt;font-family:Arial;color:black'> <o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
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<p class=MsoNormal><font size=1 color=black face=Arial><span style='font-size:
8.5pt;font-family:Arial;color:black'>Paul<o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
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<p class=MsoNormal><font size=1 color=black face=Arial><span style='font-size:
8.5pt;font-family:Arial;color:black'><o:p> </o:p></span></font></p>
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<p class=MsoNormal><font size=1 color=black face=Arial><span style='font-size:
8.5pt;font-family:Arial;color:black'><a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html"
target="_blank">www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html</a><o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
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<p class=MsoNormal><font size=1 color=black face=Arial><span style='font-size:
8.5pt;font-family:Arial;color:black'><o:p> </o:p></span></font></p>
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<p style='mso-margin-top-alt:0in;margin-right:0in;margin-bottom:12.0pt;
margin-left:0in'><font size=2 color=black face=Arial><span style='font-size:
10.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:black'>And here is a transcript:<o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
<p style='mso-margin-top-alt:0in;margin-right:0in;margin-bottom:12.0pt;
margin-left:0in'><font size=1 color=black face=Arial><span style='font-size:
8.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:black'><a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#0"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#0">Just a
moment ago,</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#2000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#2000">my
daughter Rebecca texted me for good luck.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#6000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#6000">Her
text said,</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#8000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#8000">"Mom,
you will rock."</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#11000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#11000">I love
this.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#13000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#13000">Getting
that text</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#15000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#15000">was
like getting a hug.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#17000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#17000">And so
there you have it.</a><a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#20000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#20000">I
embody</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#22000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#22000">the
central paradox.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#24000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#24000">I'm a
woman</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#26000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#26000">who
loves getting texts</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#28000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#28000">who's
going to tell you</a><a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#30000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#30000">that
too many of them can be a problem.</a><o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
<p style='mso-margin-top-alt:0in;margin-right:0in;margin-bottom:12.0pt;
margin-left:0in'><font size=1 color=black face=Arial><span style='font-size:
8.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:black'><a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#33000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#33000">Actually
that reminder of my daughter</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#36000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#36000">brings
me to the beginning of my story.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#39000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#39000">1996,
when I gave my first TEDTalk,</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#43000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#43000">Rebecca
was five years old</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#45000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#45000">and
she was sitting right there</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#47000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#47000">in the
front row.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#49000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#49000">I had
just written a book</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#51000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#51000">that
celebrated our life on the internet</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#53000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#53000">and I
was about to be on the cover</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#56000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#56000">of
Wired magazine.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#58000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#58000">In
those heady days,</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#60000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#60000">we
were experimenting</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#62000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#62000">with
chat rooms and online virtual communities.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#65000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#65000">We
were exploring different aspects of ourselves.</a><a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#69000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#69000">And
then we unplugged.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#71000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#71000">I was
excited.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#73000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#73000">And,
as a psychologist, what excited me most</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#76000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#76000">was
the idea</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#78000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#78000">that
we would use what we learned in the virtual world</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#81000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#81000">about
ourselves, about our identity,</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#84000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#84000">to
live better lives in the real world.</a><o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
<p style='mso-margin-top-alt:0in;margin-right:0in;margin-bottom:12.0pt;
margin-left:0in'><font size=1 color=black face=Arial><span style='font-size:
8.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:black'><a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#87000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#87000">Now
fast-forward to 2012.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#90000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#90000">I'm
back here on the TED stage again.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#93000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#93000">My
daughter's 20. She's a college student.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#96000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#96000">She
sleeps with her cellphone,</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#100000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#100000">so do
I.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#102000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#102000">And
I've just written a new book,</a><a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#105000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#105000">but
this time it's not one</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#108000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#108000">that
will get me on the cover</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#110000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#110000">of
Wired magazine.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#112000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#112000">So what
happened?</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#115000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#115000">I'm
still excited by technology,</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#118000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#118000">but I
believe,</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#120000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#120000">and
I'm here to make the case,</a><a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#122000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#122000">that
we're letting it take us places</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#124000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#124000">that
we don't want to go.</a><o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
<p style='mso-margin-top-alt:0in;margin-right:0in;margin-bottom:12.0pt;
margin-left:0in'><font size=1 color=black face=Arial><span style='font-size:
8.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:black'><a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#126000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#126000">Over
the past 15 years,</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#128000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#128000">I've
studied technologies of mobile communication</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#131000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#131000">and
I've interviewed hundreds and hundreds of people,</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#134000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#134000">young
and old,</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#136000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#136000">about
their plugged in lives.</a><a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#138000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#138000">And
what I've found</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#140000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#140000">is
that our little devices,</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#142000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#142000">those
little devices in our pockets,</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#145000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#145000">are
so psychologically powerful</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#147000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#147000">that
they don't only change what we do,</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#151000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#151000">they
change who we are.</a><a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#154000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#154000">Some
of the things we do now with our devices</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#156000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#156000">are
things that, only a few years ago,</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#159000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#159000">we
would have found odd</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#161000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#161000">or
disturbing,</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#163000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#163000">but
they've quickly come to seem familiar,</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#166000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#166000">just
how we do things.</a><o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
<p style='mso-margin-top-alt:0in;margin-right:0in;margin-bottom:12.0pt;
margin-left:0in'><font size=1 color=black face=Arial><span style='font-size:
8.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:black'><a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#168000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#168000">So
just to take some quick examples:</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#171000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#171000">People
text or do email</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#173000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#173000">during
corporate board meetings.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#176000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#176000">They
text and shop and go on Facebook</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#179000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#179000">during
classes, during presentations,</a><a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#182000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#182000">actually
during all meetings.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#184000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#184000">People
talk to me about the important new skill</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#187000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#187000">of
making eye contact</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#189000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#189000">while
you're texting.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#191000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#191000">(Laughter)</a>
<a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#193000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#193000">People
explain to me</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#195000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#195000">that
it's hard, but that it can be done.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#198000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#198000">Parents
text and do email</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#200000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#200000">at
breakfast and at dinner</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#202000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#202000">while
their children complain</a><a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#205000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#205000">about
not having their parents' full attention.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#207000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#207000">But
then these same children</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#209000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#209000">deny
each other their full attention.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#212000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#212000">This
is a recent shot</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#214000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#214000">of my
daughter and her friends</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#217000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#217000">being
together</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#219000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#219000">while
not being together.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#222000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#222000">And
we even text at funerals.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#224000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#224000">I
study this.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#226000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#226000">We
remove ourselves</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#228000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#228000">from our
grief or from our revery</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#230000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#230000">and
we go into our phones.</a><o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
<p style='mso-margin-top-alt:0in;margin-right:0in;margin-bottom:12.0pt;
margin-left:0in'><font size=1 color=black face=Arial><span style='font-size:
8.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:black'><a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#233000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#233000">Why
does this matter?</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#235000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#235000">It
matters to me</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#237000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#237000">because
I think we're setting ourselves up for trouble --</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#240000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#240000">trouble
certainly</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#242000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#242000">in
how we relate to each other,</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#244000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#244000">but
also trouble</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#246000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#246000">in
how we relate to ourselves</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#249000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#249000">and
our capacity for self-reflection.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#252000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#252000">We're
getting used to a new way</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#254000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#254000">of
being alone together.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#257000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#257000">People
want to be with each other,</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#259000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#259000">but
also elsewhere --</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#261000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#261000">connected
to all the different places they want to be.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#264000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#264000">People
want to customize their lives.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#267000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#267000">They
want to go in and out of all the places they are</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#270000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#270000">because
the thing that matters most to them</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#272000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#272000">is
control over where they put their attention.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#276000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#276000">So
you want to go to that board meeting,</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#279000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#279000">but
you only want to pay attention</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#281000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#281000">to
the bits that interest you.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#283000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#283000">And
some people think that's a good thing.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#286000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#286000">But
you can end up</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#288000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#288000">hiding
from each other,</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#290000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#290000">even
as we're all constantly connected to each other.</a><o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
<p style='mso-margin-top-alt:0in;margin-right:0in;margin-bottom:12.0pt;
margin-left:0in'><font size=1 color=black face=Arial><span style='font-size:
8.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:black'><a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#293000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#293000">A
50-year-old business man</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#295000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#295000">lamented
to me</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#297000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#297000">that
he feels he doesn't have colleagues anymore at work.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#300000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#300000">When
he goes to work, he doesn't stop by to talk to anybody,</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#303000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#303000">he
doesn't call.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#305000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#305000">And he
says he doesn't want to interrupt his colleagues</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#308000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#308000">because,
he says, "They're too busy on their email."</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#311000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#311000">But
then he stops himself</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#313000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#313000">and
he says, "You know, I'm not telling you the truth.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#315000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#315000">I'm
the one who doesn't want to be interrupted.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#318000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#318000">I
think I should want to,</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#320000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#320000">but
actually I'd rather just do things on my Blackberry."</a><o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
<p style='mso-margin-top-alt:0in;margin-right:0in;margin-bottom:12.0pt;
margin-left:0in'><font size=1 color=black face=Arial><span style='font-size:
8.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:black'><a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#324000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#324000">Across
the generations,</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#326000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#326000">I see
that people can't get enough of each other,</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#330000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#330000">if
and only if</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#332000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#332000">they
can have each other at a distance,</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#335000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#335000">in
amounts they can control.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#337000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#337000">I call
it the Goldilocks effect:</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#340000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#340000">not
too close, not too far,</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#343000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#343000">just
right.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#345000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#345000">But
what might feel just right</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#347000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#347000">for
that middle-aged executive</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#349000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#349000">can
be a problem for an adolescent</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#351000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#351000">who
needs to develop face-to-face relationships.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#355000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#355000">An
18-year-old boy</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#357000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#357000">who
uses texting for almost everything</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#360000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#360000">says
to me wistfully,</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#362000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#362000">"Someday,
someday,</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#365000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#365000">but
certainly not now,</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#367000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#367000">I'd
like to learn how to have a conversation."</a><o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
<p style='mso-margin-top-alt:0in;margin-right:0in;margin-bottom:12.0pt;
margin-left:0in'><font size=1 color=black face=Arial><span style='font-size:
8.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:black'><a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#371000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#371000">When
I ask people</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#373000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#373000">"What's
wrong with having a conversation?"</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#376000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#376000">People
say, "I'll tell you what's wrong with having a conversation.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#380000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#380000">It
takes place in real time</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#383000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#383000">and
you can't control what you're going to say."</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#387000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#387000">So
that's the bottom line.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#389000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#389000">Texting,
email, posting,</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#392000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#392000">all
of these things</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#394000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#394000">let
us present the self as we want to be.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#397000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#397000">We
get to edit,</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#399000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#399000">and
that means we get to delete,</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#402000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#402000">and
that means we get to retouch,</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#405000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#405000">the
face, the voice,</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#407000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#407000">the
flesh, the body --</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#409000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#409000">not
too little, not too much,</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#412000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#412000">just
right.</a><o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
<p style='mso-margin-top-alt:0in;margin-right:0in;margin-bottom:12.0pt;
margin-left:0in'><font size=1 color=black face=Arial><span style='font-size:
8.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:black'><a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#414000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#414000">Human
relationships</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#416000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#416000">are
rich and they're messy</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#418000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#418000">and
they're demanding.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#420000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#420000">And
we clean them up with technology.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#423000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#423000">And
when we do,</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#425000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#425000">one
of the things that can happen</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#427000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#427000">is
that we sacrifice conversation</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#429000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#429000">for
mere connection.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#431000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#431000">We
short-change ourselves.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#434000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#434000">And
over time,</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#436000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#436000">we
seem to forget this,</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#438000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#438000">or we
seem to stop caring.</a><o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
<p style='mso-margin-top-alt:0in;margin-right:0in;margin-bottom:12.0pt;
margin-left:0in'><font size=1 color=black face=Arial><span style='font-size:
8.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:black'><a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#441000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#441000">I was
caught off guard</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#445000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#445000">when
Stephen Colbert</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#447000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#447000">asked
me a profound question,</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#451000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#451000">a
profound question.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#454000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#454000">He
said, "Don't all those little tweets,</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#460000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#460000">don't
all those little sips</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#463000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#463000">of
online communication,</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#466000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#466000">add
up to one big gulp</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#469000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#469000">of
real conversation?"</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#473000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#473000">My
answer was no,</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#475000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#475000">they
don't add up.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#477000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#477000">Connecting
in sips may work</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#481000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#481000">for
gathering discreet bits of information,</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#485000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#485000">they
may work for saying, "I'm thinking about you,"</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#489000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#489000">or
even for saying, "I love you," --</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#491000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#491000">I
mean, look at how I felt</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#493000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#493000">when
I got that text from my daughter --</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#496000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#496000">but
they don't really work</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#498000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#498000">for
learning about each other,</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#500000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#500000">for
really coming to know and understand each other.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#504000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#504000">And
we use conversations with each other</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#508000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#508000">to
learn how to have conversations</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#510000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#510000">with
ourselves.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#512000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#512000">So a
flight from conversation</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#514000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#514000">can
really matter</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#516000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#516000">because
it can compromise</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#518000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#518000">our
capacity for self-reflection.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#520000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#520000">For
kids growing up,</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#522000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#522000">that
skill is the bedrock of development.</a><o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
<p style='mso-margin-top-alt:0in;margin-right:0in;margin-bottom:12.0pt;
margin-left:0in'><font size=1 color=black face=Arial><span style='font-size:
8.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:black'><a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#526000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#526000">Over
and over I hear,</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#528000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#528000">"I
would rather text than talk."</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#531000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#531000">And
what I'm seeing</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#533000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#533000">is that
people get so used to being short-changed</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#535000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#535000">out
of real conversation,</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#537000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#537000">so
used to getting by with less,</a><a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#540000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#540000">that
they've become almost willing</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#542000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#542000">to
dispense with people altogether.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#544000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#544000">So
for example,</a><a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#546000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#546000">many
people share with me this wish,</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#548000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#548000">that
some day a more advanced version of Siri,</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#551000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#551000">the
digital assistant on Apple's iPhone,</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#554000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#554000">will
be more like a best friend,</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#556000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#556000">someone
who will listen</a><a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#558000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#558000">when
others won't.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#560000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#560000">I
believe this wish</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#562000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#562000">reflects
a painful truth</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#564000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#564000">that
I've learned in the past 15 years.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#567000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#567000">That
feeling that no one is listening to me</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#571000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#571000">is
very important</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#573000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#573000">in
our relationships with technology.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#575000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#575000">That's
why it's so appealing</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#577000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#577000">to have
a Facebook page</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#579000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#579000">or a
Twitter feed --</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#581000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#581000">so
many automatic listeners.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#584000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#584000">And
the feeling that no one is listening to me</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#587000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#587000">make
us want to spend time</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#589000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#589000">with
machines that seem to care about us.</a><o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
<p style='mso-margin-top-alt:0in;margin-right:0in;margin-bottom:12.0pt;
margin-left:0in'><font size=1 color=black face=Arial><span style='font-size:
8.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:black'><a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#592000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#592000">We're
developing robots,</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#594000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#594000">they
call them sociable robots,</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#596000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#596000">that
are specifically designed to be companions --</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#599000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#599000">to
the elderly,</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#601000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#601000">to
our children,</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#603000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#603000">to
us.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#605000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#605000">Have
we so lost confidence</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#608000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#608000">that
we will be there for each other?</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#612000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#612000">During
my research</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#614000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#614000">I
worked in nursing homes,</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#616000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#616000">and I
brought in these sociable robots</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#619000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#619000">that
were designed to give the elderly</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#621000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#621000">the
feeling that they were understood.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#624000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#624000">And
one day I came in</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#626000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#626000">and a
woman who had lost a child</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#628000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#628000">was
talking to a robot</a><a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#630000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#630000">in
the shape of a baby seal.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#633000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#633000">It
seemed to be looking in her eyes.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#635000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#635000">It
seemed to be following the conversation.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#638000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#638000">It
comforted her.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#641000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#641000">And
many people found this amazing.</a><o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
<p style='mso-margin-top-alt:0in;margin-right:0in;margin-bottom:12.0pt;
margin-left:0in'><font size=1 color=black face=Arial><span style='font-size:
8.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:black'><a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#645000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#645000">But
that woman was trying to make sense of her life</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#650000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#650000">with
a machine that had no experience</a><a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#653000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#653000">of
the arc of a human life.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#656000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#656000">That
robot put on a great show.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#658000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#658000">And
we're vulnerable.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#660000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#660000">People
experience pretend empathy</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#663000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#663000">as
though it were the real thing.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#666000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#666000">So
during that moment</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#670000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#670000">when
that woman</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#672000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#672000">was
experiencing that pretend empathy,</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#675000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#675000">I was
thinking, "That robot can't empathize.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#678000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#678000">It
doesn't face death.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#680000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#680000">It
doesn't know life."</a><o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
<p style='mso-margin-top-alt:0in;margin-right:0in;margin-bottom:12.0pt;
margin-left:0in'><font size=1 color=black face=Arial><span style='font-size:
8.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:black'><a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#682000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#682000">And
as that woman took comfort</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#684000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#684000">in
her robot companion,</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#686000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#686000">I didn't
find it amazing;</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#688000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#688000">I
found it one of the most wrenching, complicated moments</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#692000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#692000">in my
15 years of work.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#696000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#696000">But
when I stepped back,</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#698000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#698000">I
felt myself</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#700000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#700000">at
the cold, hard center</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#703000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#703000">of a
perfect storm.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#705000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#705000">We
expect more from technology</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#708000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#708000">and
less from each other.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#711000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#711000">And I
ask myself,</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#713000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#713000">"Why
have things come to this?"</a><o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
<p style='mso-margin-top-alt:0in;margin-right:0in;margin-bottom:12.0pt;
margin-left:0in'><font size=1 color=black face=Arial><span style='font-size:
8.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:black'><a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#716000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#716000">And I
believe it's because</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#718000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#718000">technology
appeals to us most</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#721000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#721000">where
we are most vulnerable.</a><a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#723000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#723000">And
we are vulnerable.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#725000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#725000">We're
lonely,</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#727000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#727000">but
we're afraid of intimacy.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#729000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#729000">And
so from social networks to sociable robots,</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#732000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#732000">we're
designing technologies</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#734000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#734000">that
will give us the illusion of companionship</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#737000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#737000">without
the demands of friendship.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#739000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#739000">We turn
to technology to help us feel connected</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#742000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#742000">in
ways we can comfortably control.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#745000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#745000">But
we're not so comfortable.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#747000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#747000">We
are not so much in control.</a><o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
<p style='mso-margin-top-alt:0in;margin-right:0in;margin-bottom:12.0pt;
margin-left:0in'><font size=1 color=black face=Arial><span style='font-size:
8.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:black'><a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#750000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#750000">These
days, those phones in our pockets</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#753000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#753000">are
changing our minds and hearts</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#755000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#755000">because
they offer us</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#757000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#757000">three
gratifying fantasies.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#759000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#759000">One,
that we can put our attention</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#761000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#761000">wherever
we want it to be;</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#763000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#763000">two,
that we will always be heard;</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#766000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#766000">and
three, that we will never have to be alone.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#769000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#769000">And
that third idea,</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#771000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#771000">that
we will never have to be alone,</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#774000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#774000">is
central to changing our psyches.</a><a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#776000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#776000">Because
the moment that people are alone,</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#779000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#779000">even
for a few seconds,</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#781000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#781000">they
become anxious, they panic, they fidget,</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#784000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#784000">they
reach for a device.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#786000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#786000">Just
think of people at a checkout line</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#788000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#788000">or at
a red light.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#790000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#790000">Being
alone feels like a problem that needs to be solved.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#794000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#794000">And
so people try to solve it by connecting.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#797000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#797000">But
here, connection</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#799000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#799000">is
more like a symptom than a cure.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#802000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#802000">It
expresses, but it doesn't solve,</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#805000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#805000">an
underlying problem.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#807000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#807000">But
more than a symptom,</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#809000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#809000">constant
connection is changing</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#811000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#811000">the
way people think of themselves.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#813000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#813000">It's
shaping a new way of being.</a><o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
<p style='mso-margin-top-alt:0in;margin-right:0in;margin-bottom:12.0pt;
margin-left:0in'><font size=1 color=black face=Arial><span style='font-size:
8.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:black'><a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#816000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#816000">The
best way to describe it is,</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#818000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#818000">I
share therefore I am.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#821000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#821000">We
use technology to define ourselves</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#824000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#824000">by
sharing our thoughts and feelings</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#826000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#826000">even
as we're having them.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#828000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#828000">So
before it was:</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#830000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#830000">I
have a feeling,</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#832000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#832000">I
want to make a call.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#834000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#834000">Now
it's: I want to have a feeling,</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#837000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#837000">I
need to send a text.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#839000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#839000">The
problem with this new regime</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#842000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#842000">of
"I share therefore I am"</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#844000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#844000">is
that, if we don't have connection,</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#846000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#846000">we
don't feel like ourselves.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#848000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#848000">We
almost don't feel ourselves.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#850000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#850000">So
what do we do? We connect more and more.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#853000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#853000">But
in the process,</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#855000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#855000">we
set ourselves up to be isolated.</a><o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
<p style='mso-margin-top-alt:0in;margin-right:0in;margin-bottom:12.0pt;
margin-left:0in'><font size=1 color=black face=Arial><span style='font-size:
8.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:black'><a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#858000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#858000">How do
you get from connection to isolation?</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#862000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#862000">You
end up isolated</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#864000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#864000">if
you don't cultivate the capacity for solitude,</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#866000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#866000">the
ability to be separate,</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#869000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#869000">to
gather yourself.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#871000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#871000">Solitude
is where you find yourself</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#874000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#874000">so
that you can reach out to other people</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#876000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#876000">and
form real attachments.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#879000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#879000">When
we don't have the capacity for solitude,</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#882000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#882000">we
turn to other people in order to feel less anxious</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#885000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#885000">or in
order to feel alive.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#887000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#887000">When
this happens,</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#889000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#889000">we're
not able to appreciate who they are.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#892000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#892000">It's
as though we're using them</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#894000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#894000">as
spare parts</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#896000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#896000">to support
our fragile sense of self.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#899000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#899000">We
slip into thinking that always being connected</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#902000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#902000">is
going to make us feel less alone.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#906000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#906000">But
we're at risk,</a><a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#908000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#908000">because
actually it's the opposite that's true.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#911000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#911000">If
we're not able to be alone,</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#913000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#913000">we're
going to be more lonely.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#915000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#915000">And
if we don't teach our children to be alone,</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#918000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#918000">they're
only going to know</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#920000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#920000">how
to be lonely.</a><o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
<p style='mso-margin-top-alt:0in;margin-right:0in;margin-bottom:12.0pt;
margin-left:0in'><font size=1 color=black face=Arial><span style='font-size:
8.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:black'><a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#922000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#922000">When I
spoke at TED in 1996,</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#925000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#925000">reporting
on my studies</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#927000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#927000">of
the early virtual communities,</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#929000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#929000">I
said, "Those who make the most</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#932000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#932000">of
their lives on the screen</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#934000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#934000">come
to it in a spirit of self-reflection."</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#937000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#937000">And
that's what I'm calling for here, now:</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#940000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#940000">reflection
and, more than that, a conversation</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#943000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#943000">about
where our current use of technology</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#946000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#946000">may
be taking us,</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#948000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#948000">what
it might be costing us.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#950000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#950000">We're
smitten with technology.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#953000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#953000">And
we're afraid, like young lovers,</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#956000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#956000">that
too much talking might spoil the romance.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#959000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#959000">But
it's time to talk.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#961000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#961000">We
grew up with digital technology</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#964000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#964000">and
so we see it as all grown up.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#966000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#966000">But
it's not, it's early days.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#969000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#969000">There's
plenty of time</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#971000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#971000">for
us to reconsider how we use it,</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#973000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#973000">how
we build it.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#975000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#975000">I'm
not suggesting</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#977000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#977000">that
we turn away from our devices,</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#979000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#979000">just
that we develop a more self-aware relationship</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#982000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#982000">with
them, with each other</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#984000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#984000">and
with ourselves.</a><o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
<p style='mso-margin-top-alt:0in;margin-right:0in;margin-bottom:12.0pt;
margin-left:0in'><font size=1 color=black face=Arial><span style='font-size:
8.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:black'><a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#987000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#987000">I see
some first steps.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#989000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#989000">Start
thinking of solitude</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#991000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#991000">as a
good thing.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#993000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#993000">Make
room for it.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#995000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#995000">Find
ways to demonstrate this</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#998000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#998000">as a
value to your children.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1000000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1000000">Create
sacred spaces at home --</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1002000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1002000">the
kitchen, the dining room --</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1004000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1004000">and
reclaim them for conversation.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1007000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1007000">Do
the same thing at work.</a><a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1009000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1009000">At
work, we're so busy communicating</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1011000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1011000">that
we often don't have time to think,</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1014000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1014000">we
don't have time to talk,</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1017000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1017000">about
the things that really matter.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1019000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1019000">Change
that.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1021000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1021000">Most
important, we all really need to listen to each other,</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1025000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1025000">including
to the boring bits.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1029000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1029000">Because
it's when we stumble</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1031000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1031000">or
hesitate or lose our words</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1034000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1034000">that
we reveal ourselves to each other.</a><o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
<p style='mso-margin-top-alt:0in;margin-right:0in;margin-bottom:12.0pt;
margin-left:0in'><font size=1 color=black face=Arial><span style='font-size:
8.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:black'><a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1038000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1038000">Technology
is making a bid</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1041000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1041000">to
redefine human connection --</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1043000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1043000">how
we care for each other,</a><a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1045000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1045000">how
we care for ourselves --</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1047000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1047000">but
it's also giving us the opportunity</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1049000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1049000">to
affirm our values</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1051000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1051000">and
our direction.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1053000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1053000">I'm
optimistic.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1055000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1055000">We
have everything we need to start.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1058000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1058000">We
have each other.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1060000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1060000">And
we have the greatest chance of success</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1063000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1063000">if
we recognize our vulnerability.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1066000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1066000">That
we listen</a><a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1068000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1068000">when
technology says</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1070000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1070000">it
will take something complicated</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1073000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1073000">and
promises something simpler.</a><o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
<p style='mso-margin-top-alt:0in;margin-right:0in;margin-bottom:12.0pt;
margin-left:0in'><font size=1 color=black face=Arial><span style='font-size:
8.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:black'><a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1076000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1076000">So
in my work,</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1078000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1078000">I
hear that life is hard,</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1081000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1081000">relationships
are filled with risk.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1083000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1083000">And
then there's technology --</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1085000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1085000">simpler,
hopeful,</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1087000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1087000">optimistic,
ever-young.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1090000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1090000">It's
like calling in the cavalry.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1092000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1092000">An ad
campaign promises</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1094000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1094000">that
online and with avatars,</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1096000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1096000">you
can "Finally, love your friends</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1100000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1100000">love
your body, love your life,</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1103000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1103000">online
and with avatars."</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1106000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1106000">We're
drawn to virtual romance,</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1108000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1108000">to
computer games that seem like worlds,</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1111000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1111000">to
the idea that robots, robots,</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1115000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1115000">will
someday be our true companions.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1118000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1118000">We
spend an evening on the social network</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1121000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1121000">instead
of going to the pub with friends.</a><o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
<p style='mso-margin-top-alt:0in;margin-right:0in;margin-bottom:12.0pt;
margin-left:0in'><font size=1 color=black face=Arial><span style='font-size:
8.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:black'><a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1124000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1124000">But
our fantasies of substitution</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1126000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1126000">have
cost us.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1129000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1129000">Now
we all need to focus</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1132000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1132000">on
the many, many ways</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1134000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1134000">technology
can lead us back</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1136000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1136000">to
our real lives, our own bodies,</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1139000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1139000">our
own communities,</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1141000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1141000">our
own politics,</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1143000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1143000">our
own planet.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1145000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1145000">They
need us.</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1147000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1147000">Let's
talk about</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1149000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1149000">how
we can use digital technology,</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1152000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1152000">the
technology of our dreams,</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1155000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1155000">to
make this life</a> <a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1157000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1157000">the
life we can love.</a><o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
<p style='mso-margin-top-alt:0in;margin-right:0in;margin-bottom:12.0pt;
margin-left:0in'><font size=1 color=black face=Arial><span style='font-size:
8.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:black'><a
href="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1159000"
target="_blank"
title="http://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together.html#1159000">Thank
you.</a><o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
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