[Oe List ...] Celebrating the life of Jonathan Troxel

[Marsha Hahn]

 Karen and Jim,
My heart goes out to both of you and Elizabeth. I can only imagine the shock and pain you are in. I saw Jonathan a time or two in adulthood, but my memory of him is strongest as a child who was sweet, exuberant and happy. 

As you experience the grief, I thought I would share a few things I've picked up through my work on the early days of bereavement:
* Let yourselves receive care and help offered by others right now -- conserve your energy. It's okay to be taken care of.
* The body slows down in the wake of shock. You might not feel too hungry, so try to remember to eat when you can. Cooked food is easier to digest than raw.* This might not make sense in June, but keep yourselves warm enough. Have warm things to drink.* There's no right or wrong way to do this. Feelings will come. Do your best to let yourselves feel them. They may feel awful, but they won't destroy you. They will move on through.
I join with everyone in your larger community in sending you comfort and love, and a virtual hug.
Marsha


    On Thursday, June 8, 2023 at 11:18:47 AM PDT, Karen Snyder via OE <oe at lists.wedgeblade.net> wrote:  
 
 Greetings - especially to those of you who knew our son, Jonathan Troxel,

Yesterday, June 6, Jonathan suffered a cardiac arrest (triggered by asthma attacks possibly exacerbated by the air pollution from the Canadian wildfires) and died. He has had asthma since he was child. He began having strong problems with his breathing last Thursday, saw a doctor on Saturday, but still continued to have issues. Before going to work Tuesday, he texted us that he had another asthma attack, but was feeling better and proceeded to go to work. After he had walked the one block to work at the Admiral at the Lake Retirement Center, he told his staff colleagues that he was breathless and collapsed. All the nurses from the Admiral, the EMT paramedics and the hospital ER team were not able to revive him.

This of course has been a great shock to our lives - Jim and I as well as Jonathan’s wife, Elizabeth. We are in the midst of deciding what are the appropriate ways to celebrate his life. Although we don’t know who is reading this email, you too may have had experiences of death that you have wrestled with how to celebrate the life of your loved one. We thought sharing about Jonathan through the Dialogues was one way to celebrate.

If Jonathan knew you, he loved you. Any time someone would visit Jim and I, he wanted to see them too. He loved his experiences as a child in the Order, singing “Try to Remember” in the Student House, and was disappointed when Jim and I left the Order community. He has been pleased that Jim and I have re-engaged with the ICA. In the past couple of years he has enjoyed working with the Phase I files of the Global Archives in order to have them put on its website. And he has kept up with the lives of many who have transitioned from this life. Now he is among them.

Jim, Elizabeth and I are grateful for the messages and phone calls we have received. Each and every one is meaningful to us.  Thank you.

Take good care of yourselves, especially in these days of uncertain air quality or illnesses. Life is precious and mysterious. 

Peace and love,

Karen and Jim Troxel_______________________________________________
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