<html><head><meta http-equiv="content-type" content="text/html; charset=utf-8"></head><body style="overflow-wrap: break-word; -webkit-nbsp-mode: space; line-break: after-white-space;">I appreciate Dharma’s comment about another part of our community being gone. I have been struggling to find my voice and still do not feel up to is but I felt moved to speak.<div><br></div><div>I was trying to say something about Elaine Telford, David Rebstock, and Sandy.<div><br></div><div>I can not speak to wholeness and gift of each but I can describe how they intersected my life my life in a particular order and each impacted me and others. </div><div><br></div><div>Each had a combination of wisdom and an ability to hold the space in a gentle way, less assertive than my own but just as steadfast. They held their ground and invited others to reflect and choose their own.</div><div><br></div><div>Sandy I have known the longest and had interaction with as she changed and I changed. I remember many things but I remember most her ability to say no gracefully and with care. I do not remember a time I changed her mind but I remember several in which I learned something and together we made a third choice.</div><div><br></div><div>Elaine I remember from Africa where she tended to speak less but when she did whatever she said needed to be heard.</div><div><br></div><div>David I am sure I have known a long time but I did not meet him until Covid or just before as the virtual world of books and research expanded. Several time David and Jim Wiegel and I worked together on projects of learning. I really appreciated his intention to follow and to understand. To try to make sure that commitments made are commitments met.</div><div><br></div><div>With love, respect and remembrance </div><div>Larry Philbrook</div><div>Taipei</div><div><br></div><div><br id="lineBreakAtBeginningOfMessage"><div><br><blockquote type="cite"><div>On Nov 18, 2023, at 11:40, dialogue-request@lists.wedgeblade.net wrote:</div><br class="Apple-interchange-newline"><div>Send Dialogue mailing list submissions to<br><span class="Apple-tab-span" style="white-space:pre"> </span>dialogue@lists.wedgeblade.net<br><br>To subscribe or unsubscribe via the World Wide Web, visit<br><span class="Apple-tab-span" style="white-space:pre"> </span>http://lists.wedgeblade.net/listinfo.cgi/dialogue-wedgeblade.net<br>or, via email, send a message with subject or body 'help' to<br><span class="Apple-tab-span" style="white-space:pre"> </span>dialogue-request@lists.wedgeblade.net<br><br>You can reach the person managing the list at<br><span class="Apple-tab-span" style="white-space:pre"> </span>dialogue-owner@lists.wedgeblade.net<br><br>When replying, please edit your Subject line so it is more specific<br>than "Re: Contents of Dialogue digest..."<br>Today's Topics:<br><br> 1. Re: [Oe List ...] Celebrating the Completed Life of Sandra<br> Lynne Rafos (Dharmalingam Vinasithamby)<br><br><div style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px;"><span style="font-family: -webkit-system-font, Helvetica Neue, Helvetica, sans-serif; color:rgba(127, 127, 127, 1.0);"><b>From: </b></span><span style="font-family: -webkit-system-font, Helvetica Neue, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Dharmalingam Vinasithamby <dvinasithamby@yahoo.com><br></span></div><div style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px;"><span style="font-family: -webkit-system-font, Helvetica Neue, Helvetica, sans-serif; color:rgba(127, 127, 127, 1.0);"><b>Subject: </b></span><span style="font-family: -webkit-system-font, Helvetica Neue, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><b>Re: [Dialogue] [Oe List ...] Celebrating the Completed Life of Sandra Lynne Rafos</b><br></span></div><div style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px;"><span style="font-family: -webkit-system-font, Helvetica Neue, Helvetica, sans-serif; color:rgba(127, 127, 127, 1.0);"><b>Date: </b></span><span style="font-family: -webkit-system-font, Helvetica Neue, Helvetica, sans-serif;">November 18, 2023 at 11:40:41 GMT+8<br></span></div><div style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px;"><span style="font-family: -webkit-system-font, Helvetica Neue, Helvetica, sans-serif; color:rgba(127, 127, 127, 1.0);"><b>To: </b></span><span style="font-family: -webkit-system-font, Helvetica Neue, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Order Ecumenical Community <oe@lists.wedgeblade.net>, ICA List <dialogue@wedgeblade.net><br></span></div><div style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px;"><span style="font-family: -webkit-system-font, Helvetica Neue, Helvetica, sans-serif; color:rgba(127, 127, 127, 1.0);"><b>Cc: </b></span><span style="font-family: -webkit-system-font, Helvetica Neue, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Sharon Rafos <srafos@gmail.com>, Robin Gmail <robrafosroy@gmail.com>, Kim Gmail <ksirrine@gmail.com><br></span></div><br><br><div><div class="ydpaf73f78yahoo-style-wrap" style="font-family:verdana, helvetica, sans-serif;font-size:18px;"><div></div>
<div dir="ltr" data-setdir="false">Dear Sharon,</div><div dir="ltr" data-setdir="false"><br></div><div dir="ltr" data-setdir="false"><span>My condolences to you. We grieve that with her passing, yet another part of our community is gone. It makes it more clear how precious she and all others who left are to us. <br></span><br>Dharma</div><div><br></div>
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On Saturday, 18 November 2023 at 10:46:58 am GMT+8, Sharon Rafos via OE <oe@lists.wedgeblade.net> wrote:
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<div><div id="ydp32c2aa9byiv0801816825"><div dir="ltr">It is with deep sadness that we report that our Mother, Sandra Lynne Rafos, passed away Monday, November 13, 2023. She died peacefully at home with her daughters Kim, Sharon and Robin by her side. She lived an amazing and spirited life. No doubt she is dancing in heaven with our Father. May they walk together, reunited in peace. <div><div><br></div><div><a href="https://www.canalefuneral.com/obituaries/SANDRA-LYNNE-RAFOS?obId=29923771" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"><font size="4">Sandra Lynne Rafos Obituary</font></a><br></div><div><br></div><div><span id="cid:UtG4T2jypOU72BzTRGAw"><girlsatdunes.jpg></span><span id="cid:FFUJjVsvDi5eLZx5lABK"><101_0230.JPG></span><br></div><div><br></div><div>In peace and prayer,</div><div><br></div><div>Sharon Rafos </div><div><span class="ydp32c2aa9byiv0801816825gmail_signature_prefix">-- </span></div><div><br><div dir="ltr" class="ydp32c2aa9byiv0801816825gmail_signature"><div dir="ltr"><div><a href="mailto:srafos@gmail.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">srafos@gmail.com</a></div><div>(231) 340-0634</div><div><br></div><div><br></div></div></div></div></div></div>
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