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<div><font size="2">Thank you for your word of Bob's passing and of his journeying on. What a good man!<br>
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<div><font size="2">I remember the two of you in Jaipur in 1984 and your decision shockingly thereafter to embody that 'watershed'' moment by leaving the OE.</font></div>
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<div><font size="2">I recall today when Bob and I were among a few American students in Germany during 1959 and 1960.</font></div>
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<div><font size="2">Vividly grounded in my being is going with him out on the streets in Fifth City during the 1968 riots in response to the killing of MLK.</font></div>
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<div><font size="2">You, too, are a joyful memory as a buoyant smiling college student in the winter snow on the newly cleared sidewalks in Drew's forest campus.</font></div>
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<div><font size="2">The two of you were a nonchalant image of a family as priors with a deep sense of practical purpose, gentle humor and straightforwardness.</font></div>
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<div><font size="2">Many will be grateful to both of you for your family commitment to each other and for your caring for friends. A special thanks to those who are there to support you, your sister, Cecily, and other immediate family. <br>
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<div><font size="2"><font size="2">May Bob's ashes in the Gulf of Mexico replenish its
health, may his brain edify researchers, and may you be more and more well,
Cynthia! <br>
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<div><font size="2">Reminiscences in a world of impermanence is becoming now one of our common rituals of collegial presence and appreciation.<br>
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<div><font size="2">With gratitude for your journey, Charles<br>
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From: Cynthia Vance via Dialogue <dialogue@lists.wedgeblade.net><br>
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Cc: Cynthia Vance <facilitationfla@aol.com><br>
Sent: Wed, Aug 15, 2018 5:30 am<br>
Subject: [Dialogue] from Cynthia Vance<br>
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<div style="margin: 0px; line-height: normal;"><span style="margin: 0px; color: black; font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13pt;">My dear
Bob passed away today, Monday, August 13.</span></div>
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<div style="margin: 0px; line-height: normal;"><span style="margin: 0px; color: black; font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13pt;">On July
11 I enrolled him in Hospice at Home, due to his increasing symptoms from (possibly)
Lewy Body dementia and I cared for him since then. Last Sunday morning he
awoke with extreme difficulties. The Hospice nurse came and felt he probably had
a 'neurological event' the Saturday evening before, perhaps while
sleeping. She took him to the Venice Hospice House at 6pm that
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<div style="margin: 0px; line-height: normal;"><span style="margin: 0px; color: black; font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13pt;">I
visited him 90 minutes later. He was very calm but not very responsive. I shared
my reflections as I showed him 4 photos -- his parents, his brothers Neil and
Denny, our doxies Star and Matilda and finally Bob and me. I also read two
poems I had written (about the dogs!) and a love letter highlighting and
thanking him for the special times we shared as a team in our community service/civil
rights efforts, followed by our strategic planning consulting, and finally in our
various nature adventures. We had had these discussions before and had agreed
that history had given us a fine ride! – and that hopefully we made the world a
little better.<span style="margin: 0px;"> </span>He died peacefully 5
hours later, 1:30 am, early Monday morning. </span></div>
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<div style="margin: 0px; line-height: normal;"><span style="margin: 0px; color: black; font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13pt;">I’m
grateful for the wonderful life and marriage we had. I could ask for no
more. Our home was one of peace, love, respect, creative planning and always in
anticipation of our next birding or butterflying adventure.<span style="margin: 0px;"> </span>He was always kind to others and was a
terrific partner in our life work together! <span style="margin: 0px;"> </span></span></div>
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<div style="margin: 0px; line-height: normal;"><span style="margin: 0px; color: black; font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13pt;">Many
of you, our colleagues over the years, wrote letters to him or telephoned him
in the past 10 days. He was so pleased to hear from you and I’m grateful
that you reached out to us. You shared your appreciation of his life and
brought us great joy.</span></div>
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<div style="margin: 0px; line-height: normal;"><span style="margin: 0px; color: black; font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13pt;">My
sister, Cecily, has been with me for 2 days and as an R.N. has given me
guidance during this journey. Other friends locally have compassionately
reached out to me.</span></div>
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has donated his brain to the University of Miami Brain Endowment Bank to both
confirm (or not) the diagnosis and to contribute to their research.<span style="margin: 0px;"> </span>We will be spreading his ashes in our
Butterfly Garden and the Gulf of Mexico where he </span><span style="margin: 0px; color: black; font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 12pt;">proudly completed 990 SCUBA dives to collect hundreds of
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<div style="margin: 0px; line-height: normal;"><span style="margin: 0px; color: black; font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 12pt;">Grace and Peace,</span></div>
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