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<DIV style="font-color: black"><B>From:</B> <A
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<DIV><B>Sent:</B> Monday, May 14, 2018 2:01 PM</DIV>
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<DIV><B>Cc:</B> <A title=dmdunn1@gmail.com>David Dunn</A> </DIV>
<DIV><B>Subject:</B> [Dialogue] Clarence Snelling's memorial service, Friday,
May 11, 2018—and a witness to the connection of all beings</DIV></DIV></DIV>
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size=2>Hello colleagues.</FONT>
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<DIV><FONT size=2>We celebrated Clarence’s life last Friday at Park Hill United
Methodist Church where he had been a member for many years.</FONT></DIV>
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<DIV><B><FONT size=2>Highlights</FONT></B></DIV>
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<LI><FONT size=2>Not too many memorial service bulletin covers feature a great
quote from Lao-Tzu (e.g., "…Darkiness within darkness/The gateway to all
understanding”)</FONT>
<LI><FONT size=2>The service began with the Fauré “Requiem" and concluded with
“When the Saints Go Marching In”</FONT>
<LI><FONT size=2>The high point of the service was the story telling by four
of Clarence’s closest colleagues</FONT>
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<LI><FONT size=2>Rev. Jim Calhoun, former pastor at Park Hill UMCh</FONT>
<LI><FONT size=2>Dr. George “Tink" Tinker, Professor of American Indian
Cultures and Religious Traditions at Iliff School of Theology</FONT>
<LI><FONT size=2>Dr. Don Messer, President of the Iliff School of Theology
from 1981–2000</FONT>
<LI><FONT size=2><I><FONT color=#0433ff>Dr. Ken Plattner,</FONT></I> for a
time, an active Mankind Project elder; a psychotherapist, writer, and
speaker</FONT></LI></UL></LI></UL>
<DIV><B><FONT size=2>Personal Notes about Clarence’s journey since Shirley’s
death</FONT></B></DIV></DIV>
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<DIV><FONT size=2>Long ago and far away, Charles Lingo said to me, “David,
you’ve got to deal with your anger.” It’s taken much of my adult life to figure
out what Charles was talking about. During a ManKind Project “New Warriors
Training Adventure” last month—the highpoint of my “dealing with anger” to
date—two men mentioned Clarence and his death just two weeks earlier. Beginning
on that weekend retreat, a series of surprise encounters and new connections
have occurred that shed light on Clarence’s remarkable life and his network of
friends and colleagues.</FONT></DIV>
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<DIV><FONT size=2>Unbeknownst to me, Clarence was initiated in MKP—The ManKind
Project—seven or eight years ago, at 83. He became a member of the Colorado MKP
elders’ circle and attended gatherings nearly to the end of his life at 91. I’ve
met at least half a dozen MKP men who revered him as a colleague and friend,
among them Ken Plattner, who spoke at Clarence’s memorial service.</FONT></DIV>
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<DIV><FONT size=2>Clarence was Ken Plattner’s mentor and friend for many years;
he was instrumental in getting Ken into a doctoral program at Iliff. Four years
ago, before Shirley died, Clarence asked Ken to be his therapist. When
</FONT><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: small">Clarence said to Ken, “I want to die
well,”</SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: small"> </SPAN><SPAN
style="FONT-SIZE: small">Ken begain to meet Clarence regularly to help him do
shadow work. In time, Clarence made a request concerning whatever remarks Ken
might make at a memorial service: “Tell [everyone] the truth about me.” Last
Friday, Ken spoke about the vulnerable, insecure man behind the profession,
compassion, and energy of Clarence’s public persona as clergyman, professor, and
global advocate for education</SPAN></DIV>
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<DIV><FONT size=2>At one point in Plattner’s work with Clarence, when it had
become clear that Clarence was in crisis, Ken asked a friend and Buddhist
teacher, Doshin Michael Nelson Roshi, to work with Clarence. Clarence told
Doshin Michael, “I want you to help me die gracefully.” Clarence had not yet
been able to let go of all of the thoughts and images that were coming up as he
(Clarence) was preparing to leave this world and his own ego behind. Doshin’s
message was simple: “Stop taking everything that arises do literally. Let it
go.”</FONT></DIV>
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<DIV><FONT size=2>Clarence embraced Doshin’s Zen Buddhist teaching. Letting go,
he found some inner calm during his last years. In spite of a challenge
communicating, Clarence and I had lively conversations about the dream world in
which he was increasingly living, rich in metaphoric language. He spoke
spontaneously and I responded with surmise and intuition. Also, when we read the
Richard Rohr daily meditation together, Clarence frequently remarked on a phrase
or sentence that resonated in some personal way.</FONT></DIV>
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<DIV><FONT size=2>Life is a sweet mystery and Clarence is a sweet
memory.</FONT></DIV>
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<DIV><FONT size=2>David</FONT></DIV>
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Hello colleagues.<BR><BR><BR>We celebrated Clarence’s life last Friday at Park
Hill United Methodist Church where he had been a member for many
years.<BR><BR>Highlights<BR>Not too many memorial service bulletin covers
feature a great quote from Lao-Tzu (e.g., "…Darkiness within darkness/The
gateway to all understanding”)<BR>The service began with the Fauré “Requiem" and
concluded with “When the Saints Go Marching In”<BR>The high point of the service
was the story telling by four of Clarence’s closest colleagues<BR>Rev. Jim
Calhoun, former pastor at Park Hill UMCh<BR>Dr. George “Tink" Tinker, Professor
of American Indian Cultures and Religious Traditions at Iliff School of
Theology<BR>Dr. Don Messer, President of the Iliff School of Theology from
1981–2000<BR>Dr. Ken Plattner, for a time, an active Mankind Project elder; a
psychotherapist, writer, and speaker<BR>Personal Notes about Clarence’s journey
since Shirley’s death<BR><BR>Long ago and far away, Charles Lingo said to me,
“David, you’ve got to deal with your anger.” It’s taken much of my adult life to
figure out what Charles was talking about. During a ManKind Project “New
Warriors Training Adventure” last month—the highpoint of my “dealing with anger”
to date—two men mentioned Clarence and his death just two weeks earlier.
Beginning on that weekend retreat, a series of surprise encounters and new
connections have occurred that shed light on Clarence’s remarkable life and his
network of friends and colleagues.<BR><BR>Unbeknownst to me, Clarence was
initiated in MKP—The ManKind Project—seven or eight years ago, at 83. He became
a member of the Colorado MKP elders’ circle and attended gatherings nearly to
the end of his life at 91. I’ve met at least half a dozen MKP men who revered
him as a colleague and friend, among them Ken Plattner, who spoke at Clarence’s
memorial service.<BR><BR>Clarence was Ken Plattner’s mentor and friend for many
years; he was instrumental in getting Ken into a doctoral program at Iliff. Four
years ago, before Shirley died, Clarence asked Ken to be his therapist. When
Clarence said to Ken, “I want to die well,” Ken begain to meet Clarence
regularly to help him do shadow work. In time, Clarence made a request
concerning whatever remarks Ken might make at a memorial service: “Tell
[everyone] the truth about me.” Last Friday, Ken spoke about the vulnerable,
insecure man behind the profession, compassion, and energy of Clarence’s public
persona as clergyman, professor, and global advocate for education<BR><BR>At one
point in Plattner’s work with Clarence, when it had become clear that Clarence
was in crisis, Ken asked a friend and Buddhist teacher, Doshin Michael Nelson
Roshi, to work with Clarence. Clarence told Doshin Michael, “I want you to help
me die gracefully.” Clarence had not yet been able to let go of all of the
thoughts and images that were coming up as he (Clarence) was preparing to leave
this world and his own ego behind. Doshin’s message was simple: “Stop taking
everything that arises do literally. Let it go.”<BR><BR>Clarence embraced
Doshin’s Zen Buddhist teaching. Letting go, he found some inner calm during his
last years. In spite of a challenge communicating, Clarence and I had lively
conversations about the dream world in which he was increasingly living, rich in
metaphoric language. He spoke spontaneously and I responded with surmise and
intuition. Also, when we read the Richard Rohr daily meditation together,
Clarence frequently remarked on a phrase or sentence that resonated in some
personal way.<BR><BR>Life is a sweet mystery and Clarence is a sweet
memory.<BR><BR><BR>David<BR><BR><BR><BR><BR><BR><BR>—<BR><BR><BR><BR>"Mystery,
possibility, and the power to choose"<BR><BR>David Dunn<BR>740 S Alton Way
9B<BR>Denver, CO 80247<BR>720-314-5991<BR>dmdunn1@gmail.com<BR><BR><BR>
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