[Dialogue] from Cynthia Vance

[Joyce Sloan]

Dear Cynthia,
I am saddened to hear of Bob's passing. I hope the memories you shared
throughout your missional marriage including those of his final days bring
you comfort.

Sending love and prayers.
Joyce Sloan

On Wed, Aug 15, 2018, 4:30 AM Cynthia Vance via Dialogue <
dialogue at lists.wedgeblade.net> wrote:

> Dear Friends and Colleagues,
>
> My dear Bob passed away today, Monday, August 13.
>
> On July 11 I enrolled him in Hospice at Home, due to his increasing
> symptoms from (possibly) Lewy Body dementia and I cared for him since
> then.  Last Sunday morning he awoke with extreme difficulties. The Hospice
> nurse came and felt he probably had a 'neurological event' the Saturday
> evening before, perhaps while sleeping.  She took him to the Venice Hospice
> House at 6pm that night.
>
> I visited him 90 minutes later. He was very calm but not very responsive.
> I shared my reflections as I showed him 4 photos -- his parents, his
> brothers Neil and Denny, our doxies Star and Matilda and finally Bob and
> me. I also read two poems I had written (about the dogs!) and a love letter
> highlighting and thanking him for the special times we shared as a team in
> our community service/civil rights efforts, followed by our strategic
> planning consulting, and finally in our various nature adventures.  We had
> had these discussions before and had agreed that history had given us a
> fine ride! – and that hopefully we made the world a little better.  He
> died peacefully 5 hours later, 1:30 am, early Monday morning.
>
> I’m grateful for the wonderful life and marriage we had.  I could ask for
> no more. Our home was one of peace, love, respect, creative planning and
> always in anticipation of our next birding or butterflying adventure.  He
> was always kind to others and was a terrific partner in our life work
> together!
>
> Many of you, our colleagues over the years, wrote letters to him or
> telephoned him in the past 10 days.  He was so pleased to hear from you and
> I’m grateful that you reached out to us.  You shared your appreciation of
> his life and brought us great joy.
>
> My sister, Cecily, has been with me for 2 days and as an R.N. has given me
> guidance during this journey. Other friends locally have compassionately
> reached out to me.
>
> Bob has donated his brain to the University of Miami Brain Endowment Bank
> to both confirm (or not) the diagnosis and to contribute to their research.
> We will be spreading his ashes in our Butterfly Garden and the Gulf of
> Mexico where he proudly completed 990 SCUBA dives to collect hundreds of
> vertebrate fossils.
>
> Grace and Peace,
>
> Cynthia
> facilitationfla at aol.com
> 941-483-9165
>
>
>
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